Effective Communication between Children and their Parents

@PBMMBP (20)
India
March 24, 2016 10:15am CST
These days , we see that most of the parents are highly discontended with their children, they complain about everything from the children's food habit to their behaviour, parents and kids both have some serious unsolved issues between them. The parents generally thinks that they are elder than their childen naturally they are more experienced, wiser and smarter than the Kids who should listen to them and obey their every single word. It's true that Parents are experienced , they learned and still learning so many things from their immediate environment and outside of the family as well, but why they can't remember one simple fact that their children are not confined inside the house too , they go to school, study different courses/subjects, interact with teachers, meet new friends, watch T.V.s, access internet they are also in same way learning everyday from different sources, they are also getting experienced, becoming smarter, at the same time they are not only just learning and applying but also have stored doubts/queries about those, they want to clear those things out with their parents as the parents are closest of all, kids spend great amount of time of the day with their parents, therefore parents need to develop effective communication or interaction with their children, they need to discuss every single issue with their children objectively with open/frank gesture, giving the children clear ideas and reasons what they need to do , what they need to avoid rather than commanding, criticizing and being inflexible/rigid towards them as it brings nothing but ignites permanent conflicts between both of them.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
24 Mar 16
There needs to be a balance between lecturing and speaking in a firm manner. So many parents do demand and command rather than give a listening ear and talking it out with children.
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@Corbin5 (99465)
• United States
24 Mar 16
Parents need to verbally highlight the positives in their children on a regular basis to do the job well.
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• United States
24 Mar 16
Well said
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@avi256 (4093)
• Pune, India
24 Mar 16
Going through your post, I felt as if it was an emotional vent out from your side as a child.
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@PBMMBP (20)
• India
24 Mar 16
No it's not like that fully ,i saw that too in many families, actually I'm a practitioner, I practice Psychology/ Counselling, so i have to deal with the children and families for my work purpose and I formed this view having session with kids, parents and other family members. Its just assessment from my side not hurting anyone.
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@avi256 (4093)
• Pune, India
24 Mar 16
@PBMMBP I agree, the parents need to give some liberty to the children, let them make their own mistakes, lets not not spoon feed them, and make them responsible.
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@MALUSE (37771)
• Germany
24 Mar 16
Please space your text to make it more readable. Not only members with glasses will be grateful.
@PBMMBP (20)
• India
25 Mar 16
I do give the space, i don't know which of the line you are talking about.
@MALUSE (37771)
• Germany
25 Mar 16
@PBMMBP The whole text appears as one block. Please make several paragraphs with a free line between them. This is 'spacing' a text.
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@PBMMBP (20)
• India
25 Mar 16
@MALUSE ok i will do next time. Actually i expressed it as same as it was just on my mind
@mommaj (22711)
• United States
24 Mar 16
I believe parents should talk to their children and ask the children their opinions. The parents have the last say, but the child will feel like they are participating and they will learn how to handle different situations in the real world.
• United States
24 Mar 16
My kids are 4, and I talk to them as if they are big kids. I explain everything to them. I don't baby them, and I remind them often that the food they eat, the clothes on their backs and the place they sleep is a reward. I don't curse at them or call them stupid. I don't compare them to each other or other kids, and I sure has heck don't discourage their imagination. I believe boundaries and discipline are critical components to keeping your child and you respectful. To me, its all about respect and discipline, while rewarding and strengthening good behaviors, but my kids hold me accountable for my actions too, so it's a two-way street for my kids and I.