clubbing and getting drunk

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I've never been one to go out and party. In HS I was usually at home or hanging out at the mall with a couple of my friends, but I didn't go out to the club and get drunk. In my early 20s I stayed home and read, or maybe I'd hang with some friends. I would sometimes go to a local club with some friends, but I didn't enjoy it and I only went when my friends drug me to it complaining the whole way. It was never fun for me. Now that I'm nearing 30 I still don't understand how people consider it fun, but maybe that's because I'm an introvert and I don't enjoy getting drunk and acting like an idiot. My friends used to go and enjoy themselves, but I never could. I find it surprising to see some of my friends that are now 29 and some past their 30 mark going to the club and getting drunk and enjoying themselves, I thought at some point most people outgrew that, but I guess not. I'm not so much judging, but I honestly don't get the fun in it. I've never seen the fun in drinking to the point of being drunk and losing control of yourself. What's fun about getting so drunk that you act like an idiot or you wake up with no recollection of what you did the night before? What's fun about having a hangover? Why would you continually do this to yourself usually AFTER swearing you won't drink like that again? Clearly I'm out of the loop. I usually drink just enough to loosen up a bit, but not getting to the point that I have no control over myself. I've only ever really been drunk once, and while people thought I was hilarious and blunt, I didn't like the way it made me feel. I didn't like losing control of myself. I don't understand how it's fun. Being drunk to me is kind of scary, because it's so easy for people to take advantage of you, and while you can say it's "rape" if someone sleeps with you while you're drunk, it's really not if you put yourself in that position and you agree to sleep with them, especially if they're drunk too. To me if you give consent then it's not rape. Now drunk or not, if you say no that IS rape. If someone drugs you that IS rape. It's a fine line, but the point is you shouldn't put yourself in a position where you'll end up regretting your choices later. Maybe I don't understand because it's just not my version of entertainment, but I really don't understand. I get drinking enough to loosen up a bit, believe me I get that, but you have to know when to quit, and I personally know when to quit. I have never found clubs entertaining, because they're full of idiots, and by this I mean people who are making fools of themselves and who find themselves throwing up in the bathroom, people who find themselves regretting their actions the next day, but will still turn around and do it all again. I think as humans we can all act like idiots from time to time, I know I have and do on occasion, but I definitely don't do stuff that makes me feel miserable on a regular basis. I don't even like to overeat if I can help it, sometimes I do it on accident thinking I'm not full until I stand and find out different, ironically the one and only time I was truly drunk that's how I found out, I was fine until I stood up and couldn't walk. Regardless I don't understand how some people never fully grow up and outgrow the whole club scene, I can tell you right now it's rare that I see anyone in their 40s out clubbing, but it has happened and they usually look kind of funny in there with a bunch of 20 somethings. I am not one to judge, but I guess I just don't understand it as someone who has never found it particularly fun, but I'm the kind of person whose version of a good time is a book or a movie. Now that I have a child I love going and doing things with him. Since I've been a mom I rarely get time to myself, so I don't understand how people with 3 or 4 kids finds a way to go out every weekend, and I do know some of those moms. I can see once in awhile, but how the heck do you find the time every single weekend?