Not doing well today

United Kingdom
April 21, 2016 7:21am CST
I'm so sad today, and remembering that so many people have worse problems than mine isn't helping, it's just making me cry for everyone else as well as myself. I'm supposed to be packing ready to move house next week, but I've got no motivation at all, I can't seem to concentrate. I've got seven weeks of pregnancy left and my boyfriend and I are having to live separately until he can find a stable job instead of agency work. There's no telling how long that will take, the job market is a mess and it's really difficult for everyone at the minute. I feel really trapped
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@scheng1 (24741)
• Singapore
21 Apr 16
If he is working, even if it is agency work, it is still better than nothing. I think he can work extra hard, and try to get to know more people in the workplace. In this case, he has a chance of getting hired.
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• United Kingdom
22 Apr 16
He works so hard, it's ridiculous... Of course it's definitely better than nothing, but the fact is it's not stable. He may get three weeks work out of one job, then not hear anything for a whole week, so until he can find a permanent position somewhere, there's no guarantee that he can pay rent on time every month, so this means I have to take the new house on my own and claim benefits so our baby has somewhere to live. I don't want my boyfriend to feel left out, but he will feel that way and it's horrible
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@scheng1 (24741)
• Singapore
22 Apr 16
@LilyBeBack At least you can take claim and still have a house for your baby to live. Over here, there is no such benefits. Many Asia countries do not have much social benefits.
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• Eugene, Oregon
21 Apr 16
Sorry to hear that things are so bad.
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• United Kingdom
22 Apr 16
Thank you, I know it will all be sorted out eventually but there's just no way of knowing how long it will take.
@jaboUK (55200)
• United Kingdom
21 Apr 16
I'm so sorry that you are feeling like this - you should be relaxing preparing for your baby's birth. I hope things improve soon.
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• United Kingdom
22 Apr 16
Thank you, I just wish there was a definite end to it, if we could see the future and know how long it will be before we can live together then I could feel more prepared. He can still stay with me three nights a week without us getting in trouble, and he can spend his spare time at mine, but knowing that four nights a week he'll have to go sleep somewhere else, away from his family, is really getting to me.
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@jaboUK (55200)
• United Kingdom
22 Apr 16
@LilyBeBack I can really understand that. It will be wonderful when you are eventually able to be together all the time. Good luck.
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@Mike197602 (13937)
• United Kingdom
21 Apr 16
maybe leave whatever you've got to do until your motivation comes back
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• United Kingdom
22 Apr 16
I would but it impacts on my family as well... I've been living back with my parents for a year and they're helping me move back out again, so I need to make it as easy on them as I can Saying that, I pretty much ended up doing fk all yesterday I've hit a bit of a wall with the organisation side of it as well. I sorted all my clothes out and stuff, so now whatever's left is all stuff that doesn't really fit into any category, and I find it difficult not to just chuck everything in a bin bag labelled miscellaneous. The only thing stopping me doing that is knowing things would get broken, lol
@Mike197602 (13937)
• United Kingdom
22 Apr 16
@LilyBeBack It's a pain lacking motivation...I never have any to do anything much and I'm not even pregnant. Do you actually have to move out in one go or maybe do it in stages if your parents don't urgently need the room back. I'd say it would be better to get it all done at once but when I really hate doing something I often do it in stages PS...couldn't 'like' your comment as for some reason the like button will not work anywhere for me at the moment
@Corbin5 (119782)
• United States
21 Apr 16
I am so sorry you are feeling so bad. The economy in the USA is a mess too. Hopefully your boyfriend will be able to find employment. It seems like the majority of humans are struggling today.
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• United Kingdom
22 Apr 16
It's terrible isn't it, I can't imagine how many people must be going through the same thing, or worse
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@Teep11 (7197)
• United States
21 Apr 16
Things may not be going the way we want them to but you're righr. There's people that are going through more. Not having much is better than not having anything at all. Keep your head up. It will get better
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• United Kingdom
22 Apr 16
Thanks It's not about not having much, it's really about the fact that we're a family and we can't live together through no fault of our own, it's upsetting to think that four nights a week the father of my baby will have to leave and go sleep elsewhere on his own
@AmbiePam (50265)
• United States
21 Apr 16
That's scary. All the uncertainty...I wish I could say something helpful.
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• United Kingdom
22 Apr 16
Times like this I really wish we could all have a genie, three wishes each and sort out whatever's causing us the most trouble!
@marlina (79717)
• Canada
21 Apr 16
Hope something better will come soon.
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• United Kingdom
22 Apr 16
Thanks, me too - as soon as he gets into a permanent job, he can move in and we can get on with everything normally
@JolietJake (51104)
• United States
21 Apr 16
Wish I could help
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• United Kingdom
22 Apr 16
Thanks I wish I could help I'm still doing a lot of crying today, but I'm packing all the same, lol
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@paigea (22654)
• Canada
13 Jun 16
I hope you are doing okay. Has the baby come? Take care.