Not doing well today

He works so hard, it's ridiculous... Of course it's definitely better than nothing, but the fact is it's not stable. He may get three weeks work out of one job, then not hear anything for a whole week, so until he can find a permanent position somewhere, there's no guarantee that he can pay rent on time every month, so this means I have to take the new house on my own and claim benefits so our baby has somewhere to live. I don't want my boyfriend to feel left out, but he will feel that way and it's horrible

@LilyBeBack At least you can take claim and still have a house for your baby to live. Over here, there is no such benefits. Many Asia countries do not have much social benefits.

Thank you, I just wish there was a definite end to it, if we could see the future and know how long it will be before we can live together then I could feel more prepared. He can still stay with me three nights a week without us getting in trouble, and he can spend his spare time at mine, but knowing that four nights a week he'll have to go sleep somewhere else, away from his family, is really getting to me.

@LilyBeBack I can really understand that. It will be wonderful when you are eventually able to be together all the time. Good luck.

Times like this I really wish we could all have a genie, three wishes each and sort out whatever's causing us the most trouble!

Thanks It's not about not having much, it's really about the fact that we're a family and we can't live together through no fault of our own, it's upsetting to think that four nights a week the father of my baby will have to leave and go sleep elsewhere on his own

Thank you, I know it will all be sorted out eventually but there's just no way of knowing how long it will take.

I would but it impacts on my family as well... I've been living back with my parents for a year and they're helping me move back out again, so I need to make it as easy on them as I can Saying that, I pretty much ended up doing fk all yesterday I've hit a bit of a wall with the organisation side of it as well. I sorted all my clothes out and stuff, so now whatever's left is all stuff that doesn't really fit into any category, and I find it difficult not to just chuck everything in a bin bag labelled miscellaneous. The only thing stopping me doing that is knowing things would get broken, lol

@LilyBeBack It's a pain lacking motivation...I never have any to do anything much and I'm not even pregnant. Do you actually have to move out in one go or maybe do it in stages if your parents don't urgently need the room back. I'd say it would be better to get it all done at once but when I really hate doing something I often do it in stages PS...couldn't 'like' your comment as for some reason the like button will not work anywhere for me at the moment

Thanks, me too - as soon as he gets into a permanent job, he can move in and we can get on with everything normally