what to choose between career and parents

India
May 4, 2016 3:55pm CST
If parents are conservative and dont allow u to take up a job, what should u do? U tried to convince them but they simply refuse to understand
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@sabashekh (1231)
• Bhopal, India
5 May 16
Which profession you wanna opt ???
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• India
5 May 16
Trainee in R&D.. Its a one year contract..
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@sabashekh (1231)
• Bhopal, India
5 May 16
@Sweetsona try to talk to someone who can convince your parents ... Your siblings or relatives ...
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• India
5 May 16
@sabashekh they tried but my parents are not ready to listen to anyone on this topic.. I hv myself decided to give it a last try on convincing them, after that everything is in god's hands
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@Daljinder (22174)
• India
5 May 16
I know how you are feeling. I am an Indian girl too. So, yeah parents crisis I understand. I know you are already more than resigned to give up the once in a lifetime opportunity. But I will tell you to go for it. I understand it is not going to be easy. Parents are going to be upset and disappointed. Even hurt. But when they will see you being successful, they will understand. It is more like "they will believe when they see it" kind of situation.. Parents especially Dad gets protective over girls a lot. They think about her future marriage and in laws etc.. etc... Which is what govern their actions most of the time. I reckon working and successful girls are high in demand in marriage scenario too. Your success will be beneficial for your future family too. This hurt will pass over after some time. But the resentment you will harbor towards your parents for stopping you will last a lifetime. It is your choice now. Either brave your parents anger right now or live resenting them all your life. Maybe you should bring this point to them calmly.
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• India
5 May 16
I dont know u but i feel u truely understand what i m going through. I m shocked. Surreal. Thanks for replying. I dont know what i m going to do but i will surely cherish your advice all my life
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@Daljinder (22174)
• India
5 May 16
@Sweetsona I have been there where you are now. I gave up the opportunity and did what my parents wanted. I regret it and I can truly say that they regret asking me to give it up too. They now wish they could take it all back and let me live my dream. Now, they push me to do whatever I wish. I am not kidding. I was myself beyond shocked when Dad said something to me this past week. He asked me to find a groom of my choosing and let him know. I don't think I need to explain to you how big and shocking a statement coming from a Dad is. I think your parents are just worried and scared of the unknown. Just like mine were. They will get over their fear in time and feel proud of you later. Please don't give it up.
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• India
5 May 16
@Daljinder so happy for you, atlast your parents are by your side.. It gives me hope.. Hope that nothing is impossible.. I will wait for my miracle too.. Thanks
@avi256 (4385)
• Pune, India
4 May 16
Just clear an interview, show them the offer letter, maybe that can change their thoughts somewhat.
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• India
5 May 16
I hv three offer letters in my hand with the best companies around the world, even one with the R&D.. No use, i m losing it all
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@SIMPLYD (82835)
• Philippines
5 May 16
That is a very difficult situation indeed . But if i am in your stead and you can already live independently , then i will take up a job .
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• India
5 May 16
Its not possible for me.. I cant say no to them ever.. I can never be happy putting them in pain.. But i also know that its one in a lifetime opportunity. Hope i m able to convince them
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@SIMPLYD (82835)
• Philippines
5 May 16
@Sweetsona Just convince them well , then .
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• India
5 May 16
@SIMPLYD i am trying my best.. Hope it pays off
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