Perfect age to have a baby

Portugal
May 5, 2016 3:34pm CST
This theme have a lot of discussion in my environment. Some people think that we have first to finish the studies, find a good job, buy a car, buy a house and then, with 30-35 years old, think about the first baby. Other people say that 23-27 year is the best period of the like to have a baby. That parents have to be young and healthy when the child starts to be adolescent. And you? What do you think about that?
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• Jacksonville, Florida
5 May 16
I had most of my children in my early 20's. I had my youngest at 31 years old. I am hurting now more than any of my other 3 children. Why? Because my body bounced back easier when I was younger and I had kids. Now that I am older my body took longer to heal and now I have aches and pains that I never had before. In my opinion the younger you are the better once your married...And yes you do have more energy the younger that you are.
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• Portugal
6 May 16
That is the other side of pregnancy in this age that the majority of people forget. Men don't have so many problems with body, to which women are exposed. I will use that argument in the next debate ;)
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@MALUSE (40217)
• Germany
5 May 16
I think sooner is better than later. Later may be too late.
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• Portugal
6 May 16
I agree with that.
@jndlponti (2413)
• Philippines
6 May 16
Actually I had my first baby when I was in 24..but I would suggest that the best time to have the baby is when you are already financialy, physically and emotionally to have one.
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@Genipher (5136)
• United States
6 May 16
What happens if you meet all those requirements, have a child, and then 10 years down the road lose your job, your health, and your marbles? Are your children then repossessed like a car or a house?
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@jndlponti (2413)
• Philippines
6 May 16
@Genipher no of course not. Lol... They will always be your..no matter whatever you lose along the way.
@jndlponti (2413)
• Philippines
6 May 16
@Genipher mine was just hypothetically speaking of having kids on the right time..we may not know when exactly is the right time for each one of us is uniquely different.
@Corbin5 (106466)
• United States
5 May 16
I think that after one finishes college, gets married, and has the money to support a family, then having a baby, if desired, would work out.
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@Genipher (5136)
• United States
6 May 16
With the amount of college debt so many people incur, it would be nigh on impossible to ever support a family. I don't think your baby requirements would pan out well.
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@Corbin5 (106466)
• United States
6 May 16
@Genipher I agree. Our son is age 32 and has been married for 5 months. No way are they going to be able to have a baby in the near future. He has an MBA in finance/marketing. We paid for his degree in Economics, but he used a loan to pay for the MBA. Outsourcing jobs to other countries has had him enduring quite a few layoffs. I do know the candidate for whom I am voting!.
@Genipher (5136)
• United States
6 May 16
@Corbin5 Are you disappointed at the idea that you might not have a grandchild? Or do you have other kids that can fulfill that "need" for you?
@apickett (123)
• United States
6 May 16
Well I feel that the earlier you have a child in life the better but there are women having them later in life now than ever before. For example, Janet Jackson, who is a very popular singer, is pregnant with her first child and will be 50 years old in a couple of weeks. I am 36 and have never had a child. Not because I do not want to, but because I suffer with infertility. I have lost a lot of weight and am still losing it so when I reach a weight I'm comfortable with, I will try to get pregnant. My doctor told me it could happen quite easily now due to the weight loss so we shall see.
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• Portugal
6 May 16
Yeah, I've heard about this tipe of problem. It's very good that you are trying to fight it. I hope that you will win and I wish you to have one or more beautiful babies ;)
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@apickett (123)
• United States
7 May 16
@Alexandra1811 Thank you so very much! I appreciate that highly!
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@Dishari (700)
5 May 16
I don't think there's a right age to have a baby. Having kids anytime can be hard yet wonderful. Plus, people are different and they may be ready on different levels.
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• Portugal
6 May 16
Yeah... but sometimes we think that we are prepared and then, we came to the conclusion that after all we are not prepared. At least we have our parents and grandparents to help us ;)
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@Dishari (700)
6 May 16
@Alexandra1811 yeah right.
@zarlamain (24525)
• United States
5 May 16
I am a single woman and if and when I do get married, I am more inclined in adopting a child and bringing him or her into our lives than having a child. Everyone else in my family believes having children in the 20s is a good age to have children, but I am too different from them. Rather than having children, I'd rather adopt them. Of course, my family will despise me, but that's my choice - if and when I do get married.
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• Portugal
6 May 16
I like your point of view. How many kids don't have a family in their lifes? You will make so happy someone! And maybe someday your family will support you...
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@zarlamain (24525)
• United States
6 May 16
@Alexandra1811 Thank you! I've been thinking about this for a while now. If and when I do get married, I want to adopt one child, pour all my love and attention on him or her, and just lively happily together. I hope my family supports me then. They think only blood-related people are family. I hope they change their narrow viewpoints and become more accustomed with this world and become warmer people.
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• United States
5 May 16
My husband and I are talking about having our first right now and I'm 29. My brother started out on the younger side, he was 24 when they had their first. A lot of friends my age are just starting out. I think it is more about when you feel you are ready versus what society says.
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• Portugal
6 May 16
At least you can compare the issues related to maternity/paternity... ;) But yeah... sometimes it seems like that what society thinks is constantly chasing us.
• Mumbai, India
5 May 16
True
• Portugal
6 May 16
You've been wordy... x)