30 years is a long time to hold a grudge
By Audrey
@lilnana1111 (2305)
United States
May 12, 2016 1:14am CST
Sometimes we tend to hold on to hurts, pains and grudges, they do us no good, but we have trouble letting them go.
I recently found out a family member has been carrying around an old grudge toward me for over 30 years, wow! The sad part is some of what they say happened, I don't believe actually did, or they misinterpreted the situation. I've said I'm sorry, but that doesn't seem to be good enough.
We finally decided to agree on disagreeing. I've decided it's probably best if we keep our distance for now, because we aren't healthy for eachother at this time.
Have you ever held a grudge for that long?
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
13 May 16
No I never have but I also found out that a family member had imagined a bunch of hurts that I am guilty of. Sometimes it is just best to let it go and not worry about what they think, that is how I am moving forward.
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@lilnana1111 (2305)
• United States
14 May 16
Sometimes we jist can't win. I'm glad you're able to move on.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
14 May 16
@lilnana1111 I guess we really have no choice or we will make ourselves crazy with the upset.
@crazyhorseladycx (39515)
• United States
13 May 16
no ma'am, i bear no grudges. the hubs'n the other hand does 'n then wallows'n'em quite oft - much to the despair'f myself 'n the critters who pay the price :(
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@crazyhorseladycx (39515)
• United States
14 May 16
@lilnana1111 ya jest gotta let that sort'a thingy go. not always'n easy task. no frettin' o'er the hubs, i'm slowly gettin' that under control...'tis only taken o'er 30 years, but hey! who's countin'? i'd prefer him to do such to me than to my critters.
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@lilnana1111 (2305)
• United States
14 May 16
I wish I could learn not to hold grudges myself. Sorry your hubs makes you pay for them.
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@lilnana1111 (2305)
• United States
14 May 16
@crazyhorseladycx You're on tough lady :)
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
12 May 16
to someone who had my parents killed, i have to admit I am still holding a grudge.
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@lilnana1111 (2305)
• United States
12 May 16
That I could understand, I'm sure I'd hold a grudge for a long time over that too. I'm sorry for your loss.
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@infatuatedbby (94921)
• United States
12 May 16
Wow that's a long grudge for not expressing it. I have held grudges for a long time but the person doesn't mean anything to me so I don't care anymore.
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@lilnana1111 (2305)
• United States
12 May 16
I can't believe he waited 30 before he told me, what a waste of time and energy.
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@infatuatedbby (94921)
• United States
12 May 16
@lilnana1111 totally his lost too! Why keep that anger in so long!
@lilnana1111 (2305)
• United States
14 May 16
It's easier to forgive than to forget.
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@jillybean1222 (6408)
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16 May 16
yes, but no. i had a college friend REALLY be bad to me... but when i saw her a few weeks ago, she hugged me. i was too busy to talk, but i did think that it was time to forgive... it had been 20 years
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@lilnana1111 (2305)
• United States
16 May 16
I'm glad you were able to forgive her.
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
12 May 16
I can't even hold my anger for more than a day at the most. Grudges are not my thing. I tend to let go of negativity
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@PalSheena (222)
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12 May 16
well i cant say if its right or wrong as it totally depends on the damage it created back thn
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@lilnana1111 (2305)
• United States
12 May 16
Most people tell you when they ate mad or hurt with you, not wait 30 years, at least that's my thinking. If I would have know way back when, we could have resolved it then.
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