Smell of Success

@Inlemay (16559)
South Africa
June 5, 2016 12:02am CST
Sometimes I marvel at my incapacity to reach a goal . . . I can see the red tape, I can hear the crowds roar, I can visualize the spray of the Mo√ęt Champagne . . . But still I fall one step short. Why oh why! In the story of my life I have never favored competitions much, as I don't like to beat friends or people I love and like. I always hold back .... Kind of open the door for others. This personality trait seemed to ring true with me yesterday, needing just One Point to win and as many as 10 ends to acquire it in . . . But it was not meant to be. I failed myself at the most common of all failures - Big Match Tempremant. I could smell the success but still my mind raced beyond the valley of a Thousand Hills to over think and burnout. I decided to write it down, put it behind me and move on today with a plan of positive action. There lies a new competition in wait for me this Saturday, so I had best be prepared. Have you ever gone the distance and let yourself down in the last moments? Please tell me there are others out there?
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@ison_1 (1252)
6 Jun 16
Oh dear - Friday at golf I was three up with three to play, and lost the last three holes Seems we both lack the big match temperament. I say it's because we are good people
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@Inlemay (16559)
• South Africa
6 Jun 16
Oh puff - we need to work on our winning skills - dont be Mr and Mrs Nice guy anymore, and the main thing is NOT to try so hard.
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@ison_1 (1252)
6 Jun 16
@Inlemay Okay - let's see if we can get a mean streak into both our games
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@Inlemay (16559)
• South Africa
6 Jun 16
@ison_1 I am looking for the 'b*tch' in me . . . my killer instinct, not sure what we would call it for you, it would be silly if you looked for the 'b*tch' in you! wakakakakakakka - eeeeek I got BAD WORD ERROR - cannot post the real word B*tch
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@Bluedoll (17069)
• Canada
5 Jun 16
I was not familiar with "Big Match Tempremant" so looked it up. is the ability to perform well under enormous pressure. This is typically the case in most professional or amateur sports Is this post all about sports for you? Something tells me it relates to goals life? yes, no
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@Inlemay (16559)
• South Africa
5 Jun 16
Not at all in my life related goals. Just in competitive things.
@Bluedoll (17069)
• Canada
5 Jun 16
@Inlemay I can relate to that then and also question why somethings need to be competitive. I sometimes think it starts when people think or say it is competitive. Example of a competive thing = a job. Maybe the company would need to hire two people for different jobs and not hire others because they are a poor fit. Or they can fight over it.
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@Inlemay (16559)
• South Africa
5 Jun 16
@Bluedoll it's a sport, where people compete for a place.
@Jessicalynnt (47895)
• Centralia, Missouri
5 Jun 16
I dont like team sports, I always feel like I let the team down and in school no one wanted me on their team
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@Inlemay (16559)
• South Africa
6 Jun 16
I wasnt much of a team sport player except for Hockey, I rather played badminton and tennis and now bowls. But I was a number 1 coach in Hockey as well and now I am going to go back to my Sports Psychology books to find my own problem - ha ha Self Analyse
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• Centralia, Missouri
6 Jun 16
@Inlemay badmitton was fun, and I was actually good at it, IF it was inside, had issues seeing the birdie outside
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@Marcyaz (35670)
• United States
5 Jun 16
I have done that when I was in school and we had to stand up and answer questions, I would let myself down by thinking to hard on the answer and then I would lose out and come in second.
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@Inlemay (16559)
• South Africa
6 Jun 16
that is the thing - sometimes we try too hard, and get lost under our own pressure.
@Marcyaz (35670)
• United States
6 Jun 16
@Inlemay That is how it was with me with the pressure I could not think straight.
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@LadyDuck (157737)
• Switzerland
5 Jun 16
I am surely not competitive in sports and for the rest I have not a great esteem of myself. I usually think that in a competition I could never be first, so I was surprised when I won a few prizes when I was a student.
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@Inlemay (16559)
• South Africa
5 Jun 16
Most times when I don try so hard, I concour my fear of loosing easier
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@LadyDuck (157737)
• Switzerland
5 Jun 16
@Inlemay It's the same for me, if I feel too much pressure I cannot do well.
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@xFiacre (4456)
• Ireland
5 Jun 16
@inlemay you are not alone. Some deep pssychological hiccup going on there that stops us pushing on to crush the opposition - aren't we sweet and lovely! Now about that photo - depending on how I look at it the object in the distance is either a wind turbine or an ostrich - do enlighten me.
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@Inlemay (16559)
• South Africa
5 Jun 16
It's a windmill over the rise . . .
@xFiacre (4456)
• Ireland
5 Jun 16
@Inlemay That makes a lot more sense that it being an ostrich.
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@shubhu3 (14279)
• New Delhi, India
5 Jun 16
Yeah it has happened with me as well.It's like sometimes you put in so much yet when you don't succeed it lowers down your moral.But I had tried and succeeded in inspiring me and not feeling down because of this.
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@Inlemay (16559)
• South Africa
5 Jun 16
That's good, never loose faith in yourself.
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@shubhu3 (14279)
• New Delhi, India
5 Jun 16
@Inlemay Yeah exactly .:)
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@Tampa_girl7 (25715)
• United States
7 Jun 16
Awe, sorry you didn't win.
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@Inlemay (16559)
• South Africa
7 Jun 16
Ahhh its okay, I will keep trying and trying and trying - its a lot more fun than getting to the finish first.
@Morleyhunt (19750)
• Canada
5 Jun 16
I don't think I am very competitive, at least not in sports. I lik do my best, but rarely am one to finish first. That said, last year I took several first prizes in quilts at our local fair last autumn.
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@Inlemay (16559)
• South Africa
5 Jun 16
Well it seems the second prize place holders have my predicament with regards to quilting. You are a star.
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@kaylachan (4776)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
5 Jun 16
It used to happen to me all of the time. However, short of reflecting your mistakes and changing things up, there's little you can do. The best advise, is not to give up and not be so hard on yourself if you do fail. Each failure only makes you stronger and grow as a person.
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@Inlemay (16559)
• South Africa
5 Jun 16
You said it best when you stated "not to be too hard on myself." That I need to learn.
@TRBRocks420 (77690)
• Banks, Oregon
5 Jun 16
You win some you lose some, but I am not huge on competition either.
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@Inlemay (16559)
• South Africa
5 Jun 16
Yes, Kom si, kom sa.
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@SophieY (857)
• South Africa
6 Jun 16
keep your eye on the prize
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