Uncle Bernie Will Die Today

My photo taken at his last Thanksgiving in 2013
@DianneN (247216)
United States
June 5, 2016 9:06am CST
Per his wishes, the plug on his life support will be pulled today. Uncle Bernie, my husband's eldest brother, was struck 4 years ago with a multitude of ailments on the day of one of my retirement parties. He has been in an out of hospitals and other facilities since then. This time, he was sent by ambulance and remained on life support since the day before we left for five days in Chicago. He lived a long and happy life. He began medical school, but didn't have the patience for it. He was best friends with many of the old time English actors and actresses, countesses, and many American actors. His main career was a copywriter, although he traveled the world photographing for magazines, including The Amazon River. I've known him since I was 19 years old. I'm so sick over this, as is my poor husband, Bernie's wife, and our sons.
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
5 Jun 16
Awww will be thinking of you and your family
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
5 Jun 16
@DianneN that's so sad!
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
5 Jun 16
@Drosophila My son visited him today to say goodbye. They are preparing him now. My poor husband is so miserable.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
5 Jun 16
Thank you. We are still waiting to hear.
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@hostessman (11871)
• Tucson, Arizona
5 Jun 16
sorry to hear this about someone that is close to you. Sometime it is for the best, not that it makes it any easier
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
5 Jun 16
it is not easy, of course. Thank you.
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@marguicha (216584)
• Chile
5 Jun 16
Some people are brave enough to decide when it is over. My mother decided when to stop recieving her dialysis and it was the best for her. Celebrate his life as it has been so wonderful.
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@marguicha (216584)
• Chile
6 Jun 16
@transcendent You are so right!
@DianneN (247216)
• United States
5 Jun 16
Thank you. I'm sorry to hear it happened to your mother, too.
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• Xian, China
6 Jun 16
The wisdom to say goodbye is a skill that we should learn to develop.
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@shshiju (10342)
• Cochin, India
6 Jun 16
Oh that is strange and sad. I don't sure that if the law allows it.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
6 Jun 16
It was in his will. Our law allows it. He passed peacefully last night.
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@just4him (309082)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
6 Jun 16
I'm so sorry for your loss. He did have a good life.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
6 Jun 16
Thank you, Valerie. We received the call last night. We are grateful that it was peaceful.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
6 Jun 16
@just4him I consider you a member of my family. At the least, a dear friend.
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@just4him (309082)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
6 Jun 16
@DianneN I'm sorry, but happy it was peaceful. I feel like a member of my family passed. I'm in tears.
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@MarymargII (12422)
• Toronto, Ontario
6 Jun 16
What a sad situation- so you're saying he was on life support? And his wishes were not to be kept on it?
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
6 Jun 16
Yes. He passed peacefully last night, but his wishes were met.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
6 Jun 16
@MarymargII He would not have lived without the life support. Too many issues. Many thanks.
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@MarymargII (12422)
• Toronto, Ontario
6 Jun 16
@DianneN A tough situation of course- hope he rests in peace.
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@kevin1877uk (36988)
30 Dec 16
It's one of the hardest things to have to do in life, we had to do the same for my mom, pull the plug although it was the right decision.
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@kevin1877uk (36988)
30 Dec 16
@DianneN Yes, it's awful to do.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
30 Dec 16
You are right. It was awful, but he wanted it that way. Tragically, your mom was so young.
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@rebelann (111487)
• El Paso, Texas
12 Jun 16
My deepest condolences for your loss.
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@rebelann (111487)
• El Paso, Texas
14 Jun 16
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
14 Jun 16
Thank you. It's been a very difficult time for us.
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@Juliaacv (48729)
• Canada
5 Jun 16
Is sad that he's had such poor health the last few years, but during that time he has obviously came to realize that he can have some say in finding his eternal peace. I can only hope that his passing is quiet and that he is surrounded by all of those that love him and will support each other. I'm very sorry, sending prayers for his a peaceful passing for him today.
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@Juliaacv (48729)
• Canada
5 Jun 16
@DianneN I hope that peace comes easily and that his soul is accepted easily. I feel bad for you both, and hope that your husband can remember all of the wonderful times he's spent over the course of his lifetime with his brother and know that their souls will meet again when its time. Hugs for you.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
6 Jun 16
@Juliaacv He passed peacefully in his sleep late yesterday.
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@LadyDuck (460784)
• Switzerland
5 Jun 16
I am so sorry Dianne, I have been in and out and I did not know he was ill. This must be a hard day for your and devastating for your husband. Knowing that today is the day is terrible.
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@LadyDuck (460784)
• Switzerland
6 Jun 16
@DianneN Those are terrible moments, you know that there are no many years, than months and finally days left, but when the moment comes you are never prepared. Please accept my condolence.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
6 Jun 16
@LadyDuck No one is ever prepared. You are right. I thank you again.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
6 Jun 16
Thank you, Anna. Not to worry. I haven't been here much myself. He passed peacefully last night, and for that we are grateful. We are devastated, but happy we had 4 extra years with him.
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@DeborahDiane (40105)
• Laguna Woods, California
6 Jun 16
I'm so sorry for your family's loss. It is difficult to see the people we love become ill and, eventually, die. We have had this happen with several people in our family, and it never gets easier. You and your family will be in our thoughts and prayers.
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• Laguna Woods, California
7 Jun 16
@DianneN. I hope his passing was peaceful. I'm so sorry for your loss.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
7 Jun 16
@DeborahDiane It was peaceful. He was given a med to ease the pain from the removal of the respirator. Thanks so much.
@DianneN (247216)
• United States
6 Jun 16
Thank you. He passed last night.
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@CRK109 (14558)
• United States
6 Jun 16
I'm so sorry for all of this. I know it's a sad time for all of you. I pray he will rest in peace once his suffering is over.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
6 Jun 16
Thank you, Claudia. He passed peacefully last night.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
6 Jun 16
@CRK109 Aww, thank you so much Claudia. You made me cry again, but in a healthier way.
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@CRK109 (14558)
• United States
6 Jun 16
@DianneN May God continue to bless him now that he's resting in peace with the angels all around.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
5 Jun 16
Im surprised and so sorry to hear this, when you told me yesterday he was ill, l thought it was something needing a few days in the hospital and then back home all fixed and good. Im really sorry Dianne
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
5 Jun 16
Thank you. I was too upset to explain it yesterday, not that today is any easier.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
5 Jun 16
@miniam They are preparing him now. I can't stop crying. MyLot is a help. Thank you so much.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
5 Jun 16
@DianneN Im so sorry Dianne,to me l feel today is even harder for you, our day of dying should remain a mystery,but to know that today this loved person is going to die is more than anyone is supposed to deal with.
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• Xian, China
6 Jun 16
I am so sorry to hear that. Hope that he would leave the world peacefully.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
6 Jun 16
Thank you. He passed peacefully last night.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
6 Jun 16
@transcendent So we believe. Thank you, Jerry.
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• Xian, China
6 Jun 16
@DianneN The heaven is another beautiful world.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
6 Jun 16
That is so sad. I've seen some friends whose parents went through this same situation. I know how sad it is for the family. So sorry.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
6 Jun 16
Thank you. It is always awful to lose a loved one.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
6 Jun 16
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@vandana7 (99188)
• India
30 Dec 16
Aw...that does not feel too good...right...its an old post...hope you are ok...hugs...
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
31 Dec 16
Yes, this happened in June. It's still a shocker to us. Thank you and Happy New Year!
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@jstory07 (135262)
• Roseburg, Oregon
5 Jun 16
I hope he will not suffer at all
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
5 Jun 16
His suffering should end. Thank you, Judy.
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@jstory07 (135262)
• Roseburg, Oregon
5 Jun 16
@DianneN Poor man at least it will be all over.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
6 Jun 16
What a terrible day for your family Dianne - thinking of you.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
6 Jun 16
@DianneN We none of us can ask for more than that - to pass away peacefully.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
6 Jun 16
Thanks so much, Janet. He passed away last night, peacefully.
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• United States
6 Jun 16
I'm so sorry. This isn't an easy time for you or your family. Prayers for all.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
6 Jun 16
Thank you, it isn't, but myLot gives me an outlet.
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• United States
6 Jun 16
@DianneN What a blessing this place is!
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@BettyB (4117)
• Summerville, South Carolina
6 Jun 16
I'm sorry. It hurts to lose someone we love, but God is calling him. He knows its time to go.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
6 Jun 16
Thank you Betty. He went peacefully late last night.
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@BettyB (4117)
• Summerville, South Carolina
6 Jun 16
@DianneN I'm glad it was a peaceful passing. He's in God's hands now.
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