Whyshould I be expected to buy it?

@ricki_911 (20073)
Toronto, Ontario
June 7, 2016 6:11pm CST
Today is my mother birthday. I don't have money flowing out my butt like the rest of my siblings or being handed things. My brother lives with his wife parents for free, and then works part time. Herparentspay everything car, etc. My sister and her boyfriend my parents give her things, but his parents pay a lot of things. My younger brother lives in his girlfriends basement and doesn;t work. Yet, me who struggles to make my ends meet. I am trying to catch up things get a call this morning you need to buy me a cake, and a present. I bought that on mothers day, and I don't have money period. Maybe, she should of raised her kids better and taught them.
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@dodo19 (34288)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
7 Jun 16
Wow! Really? How can you just call your kids up and ask that? I wouldn't do that to my kids. It's kind of selfish to do it.
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@ricki_911 (20073)
• Toronto, Ontario
7 Jun 16
For mother day I bought a gift because I had extra money, and tarts. But I clearly said I literally have no extra money maybe $2. Yet, she doesn't expect the other three siblings to do anything. My younger brother isn't even showing up and she makes it sound like he's dying.
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@dodo19 (34288)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
8 Jun 16
@ricki_911 it seems like some kind of double standard.
@ricki_911 (20073)
• Toronto, Ontario
8 Jun 16
@dodo19 It is. I just laugh and can't believe she called me saying I need to buy something. I knew right away none of my siblings would claiming they have no money (yet they all are so lazy andget things handed to them).
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@toniganzon (53590)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
I would appreciate a sweet letter from my son but I'd never demand anything that would make him spend a cent especially when I know he's not making much money.
@ricki_911 (20073)
• Toronto, Ontario
8 Jun 16
Yes, a card,even homemade would be nice and usually how I do things.
@toniganzon (53590)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
@ricki_911 Yeah i did that when I was very young. I would write a letter to my mom on her birthdays and mother's day.
@ricki_911 (20073)
• Toronto, Ontario
9 Jun 16
@toniganzon Yes, it is more personable,and thoughtful.
@Wordly1 (477)
• Kingston, New Hampshire
8 Jun 16
I would simply call her to say"Happy Birthday, Mom, Wish I could do more, but, right now, I don't have two nickels to rub together; hope you understand. By the way, Mom, what did your houseful of parasites get you for your Birthday?"
@ricki_911 (20073)
• Toronto, Ontario
9 Jun 16
My view is even someone wishing a happy birthday or spending time together is the best. But the fact none of my siblings who have money, and make way more than me can't get anything, yet I am expect the one who goes paycheque to paycheque.
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@Wordly1 (477)
• Kingston, New Hampshire
9 Jun 16
@ricki_911 Birthdays are a day to be remembered. Gifts are a nice touch if one can afford them, but, if someone went bankrupt to go the extra yard, that would ruin the day for me as well as them. Your mother should be grateful and remember that many parents would give their 'eyetooth' for just a simple phone call on their special day.
@Amel94 (1741)
• Serbia
8 Jun 16
I understand your concern, you should probably buy it, it is your mother and she deserve it..
@ricki_911 (20073)
• Toronto, Ontario
8 Jun 16
So I can go further into debt and then struggle to buy food for the next fewmonths?
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@Amel94 (1741)
• Serbia
8 Jun 16
@ricki_911 Well you know your situation the best.. She is your mother you can explain to her I guess. There is no person in the world that wasn't went through financial crises..
@valmnz (13168)
• New Zealand
8 Jun 16
As a mother of an adult with no money, my best present is his remembering to ring and say happy birthday.
@ricki_911 (20073)
• Toronto, Ontario
9 Jun 16
That is how I view things. I think spending time is more important than presents. But also since my other siblings rarely call or show up unless they need something.
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@NJChicaa (48402)
• United States
7 Jun 16
That's awfully nervy of her to ask that of you. I can't even imagine calling someone and saying that to them.
@ricki_911 (20073)
• Toronto, Ontario
7 Jun 16
Me neither! I am certainly not wasting my time.
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