Saddened For A Former Schoolmate

@SIMPLYD (83290)
Philippines
June 8, 2016 3:51am CST
When we attended the Alumni homecoming last May , not only did I get to meet some batchmates whom I haven’t seen since we graduated in high school but also some who were schoolmates . A woman called my name while approaching me . I didn’t recognize the woman at once . But she readily told me her name and remembered her . She was a friend also . She was emaciated and moves slowly and I thought she had a stroke . And she told me she have Parkinson’s for years now . I really pity her , but didn’t show it . Can’t help thinking , would I attend a homecoming like this if I am already almost so slow moving and sickly looking already ? I guess not anymore . Maybe my closest batchmates can just visit me at home . Would you ?
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@Morleyhunt (21017)
• Canada
8 Jun 16
I think I would have gone. When your mobility is limited there are so many things you can't do, why avoid the ones you can because of embarrassment, I'm sure your friend is long past being embarrassed about her condition.
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@SIMPLYD (83290)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
I respect your opinion . It means you are a courageous person to be that , given such situation .
@JudyEv (134903)
• Bunbury, Australia
10 Jun 16
I agree. It's no use hiding away especially if you wanted to meet up with your old school-friends.
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@Morleyhunt (21017)
• Canada
10 Jun 16
@SIMPLYD not courageous, merely old enough to have seen that waiting for conditions to be ideal, will likely not happen.
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@antonbunot (9673)
• Calgary, Alberta
9 Jun 16
@SIMPLYD Since moving to Canada, I never attended a high school reunion. The last H.S. reunion I attended was 30 years ago when girls still stared on us because we were still young and good-looking, worth spending a night of partying. What about now?! I have no idea . . I have to find out next year.
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@SIMPLYD (83290)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
So you also missed a lot of reunions . I was that way too , but regretted not having attended them because i missed a lot of enjoyments with my batchmates that i only get to see on FB . Even if we are older , it's still so enjoyable to see our batchmates after many long years . At least , you get to see how they are already that they are older .
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• Calgary, Alberta
9 Jun 16
@SIMPLYD for sure this will be my line for the ladies especially the widows - - "O, you have not changed . . you are still a knockout!"
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@SIMPLYD (83290)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
@antonbunot Bolero ka talaga . Oh my how do i translate that ?
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@ridingbet (59680)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
i hope your friend will accept her medical condition, and be able to live the way a person with that disease live--- like any ordinary person. it is advised to treat a person with a disability as somebody who is able.
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@SIMPLYD (83290)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
I think she already lived with her condition because just going to the homecoming with everyone of the schoolmates seeing her emaciated and with tremors , is an acceptance of what she is now .
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@ridingbet (59680)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
@SIMPLYD we learned that when handling with autistic children--- we must not treat them as special children but as regular normal kids. i believe your friend will also like that treatment.
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@SIMPLYD (83290)
• Philippines
10 Jun 16
@ridingbet That is true . And i guess that's what she likes it to be .
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@Yar_Joey (3296)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
I am sorry about your frend. But for me, I will like to join reunions if we get to see everybody's health as well
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@SIMPLYD (83290)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
That's a good intention you have there . For our batchmates , those that are ill just post in FB of their condition but not show their picture of it . Thus , some of us would go to the house of that batchmates , bringing with us fruits and medicines as some are doctors already .
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@Yar_Joey (3296)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
@SIMPLYD But why do they not attend the reunions when they are ill? It is not to gain sympathy but it is their new selfs now.
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@SIMPLYD (83290)
• Philippines
10 Jun 16
@Yar_Joey Well , people have different perceptions of themselves . Some are courageous to face anyone at their present state of health . Others would like to be more discreet . They choose their closest only to see them like that .
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@Dextoi (2424)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
That's sad... I went to an alumni homecoming once but i'm not really thinking of going again.
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@SIMPLYD (83290)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
Sad indeed that she's that already . But why don't you like of going again ?
@Dextoi (2424)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
@SIMPLYD I didn;t go to school just to make friends... I had some friends back then but we can hangout any time... just not on that 'special day' lol
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@SIMPLYD (83290)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
@Dextoi So you like it to be just with whom you are closest with .
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10 Jun 16
I think.I.would if it is a highschool or elementary reunion not college.
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@SIMPLYD (83290)
• Philippines
10 Jun 16
In same condition as my former school mate ?
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10 Jun 16
@SIMPLYD yes. I would not mind attending. I have found my real friends in highschool and elementary I would want to have a great time with then
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@SIMPLYD (83290)
• Philippines
10 Jun 16
@Iam_jauntyjen That's good . I am happy to know that .
@LadyDuck (177201)
• Switzerland
8 Jun 16
I do not know if I would attend, but if she feels well enough to attend the meeting there is not reason not to come only because she has limited mobility.
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@SIMPLYD (83290)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
Sometimes , we tend to think how awkward we would look with some disability already . But then , the desire to see our classmates will prevail over that .
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@LadyDuck (177201)
• Switzerland
9 Jun 16
@SIMPLYD Yes, I believe that the desire to stay with friends prevail over how we look.
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@SIMPLYD (83290)
• Philippines
10 Jun 16
@LadyDuck Yes, that's what it was for her . I admire her for being that courageous .
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@just4him (127250)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
8 Jun 16
It depends. I'm slow moving, but I intend to go to my high school reunion this year.
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@SIMPLYD (83290)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
Slow moving is still mobile , so you can still enjoy your high school reunion to the max .
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@just4him (127250)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
9 Jun 16
@SIMPLYD I hope to.
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@MGjhaud (20671)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
i dont like reunions so no i wont. i feel sad for your batchmate but i salute her for trying to come out and enjoy.
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@SIMPLYD (83290)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
But why not ? Even when you were still not with a bit of that ? It's a happy occasion , so you will miss a lot . Indeed , my schoolmate is so courageous .
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@MGjhaud (20671)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
i dont know, but its just not my thing. hehe
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@Lucky15 (33698)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
Maybe no..maybe yes. Reuniting with batchmates is catching up with.them
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@SIMPLYD (83290)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
For my batchmates , we just visit at home those who are sick and bring with us foods and medicines . That way , it will only be us to whom she really is close with that can understand and see her present condition .
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@Lucky15 (33698)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
@SIMPLYD thatnwould be the best
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@skysnap (18039)
8 Jun 16
thats sad. i think tide of time it seems :/
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@SIMPLYD (83290)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
It's sad indeed that she is like that again . Though i admire her courage in attending despite her condition .
@skysnap (18039)
9 Jun 16
@SIMPLYD yes. hope everything goes well.
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@JudyEv (134903)
• Bunbury, Australia
10 Jun 16
Maybe she wanted the chance to connect with her old friends. Maybe she wasn't able to do that from her home.
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@SIMPLYD (83290)
• Philippines
10 Jun 16
That's what i am thinking too . But i admire her for her courage to face the schoolmates despite her condition now .
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@acelawrites (12303)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
I won't attend anymore. But we can not judge her, maybe she just wanted to see her former friends.
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@SIMPLYD (83290)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
We think the same way . Yes, we can't . All we can surmise is that she wants to see her former friends . And i admire her for her courage to do that .
@DianneN (85355)
• United States
8 Jun 16
I would still visit. She showed tremendous courage, the poor woman.
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@SIMPLYD (83290)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
You are a courageous woman too , to show them how you are now with a disability or disease .
@ida123 (6237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
8 Jun 16
If I were in her shoes, I won't also. I don't want my classmates and batch mates to be bothered of my slow movements and most of all I don't want them to pity on me. I'll just stay at home. Just like my classmate in high school before, she didn't attend our batch reunion because she had a stroke, her half body was paralyzed but can move slowly and when my other batch mates told her condition, we visited her and give her some amount for her meds and medication and we do that yearly when we have our batch reunion.
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@SIMPLYD (83290)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
We feel the same way . Actually , that' what me and my batchmates do . We just visit them at their houses and bring medicines and foods . At least , it will only be us not any other people who can see his /her condition .
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@TRBRocks420 (82968)
• Banks, Oregon
8 Jun 16
I don't think I would, but I don't now either and, prayers to your friend.
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@SIMPLYD (83290)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
I understand because i also think the same way . I don't want to be pitied on the first place .
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@salonga (27955)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
I won't attend anymore perhaps but I appreciate that woman's effort to still attend your Homecoming, maybe she didn't want to miss the event and was really hoping to see you all again.
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@SIMPLYD (83290)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
We think the same way . Yes, she's so courageous to still show her present form now to all the schoolmates . I admired her for that .
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@cherigucchi (4866)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
I am not sure if I would but I feel so sorry for your schoolmate. May be she just wanted to reconnect,
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@SIMPLYD (83290)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
I think you are unsure because for you it will depend on how you will be when at the reunion venue already . Yes, i understand that she wants to reconnect with her batchmates .
@jaboUK (55052)
• United Kingdom
9 Jun 16
That must be really difficult for her, and I think she is courageous to show up when she's in that condition. What's the difference between a batchmate and a schoolmate?
• Jacksonville, Florida
9 Jun 16
I guess she felt well enough to go so that's good. I feel bad for her too, that must be awful. =(