How do you heal a broken heart?

Sunset
Philippines
June 13, 2016 4:05am CST
I'm not good in comforting those who are not feeling well emotionally. Ask me for an advice and I'll try my best to give you one. Talk to me about your rantings in life and I will listen. Cry in front of me and I panic. I hate myself for not being able to comfort those who needed it most. I'm not even sure if a hug will do or a pat on the back will help. All I can offer is my presence, being there in silence while tears are flowing out. I had my heart broken before but I cried alone. I was able to mend it in silence. So when a friend came to me crying... I just sat there and stare. Feeling bad about myself, deep inside. How do you comfort someone? # Photo taken by yours truly.
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@bestie (3272)
• Philippines
13 Jun 16
Being a good listener is a great way to comfort someone.An assurance that you're willing to listen and be with him/her in such moment is good enough to make that person feel better.
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@aarifa (1210)
• India
13 Jun 16
The profile is yours?.you are beautiful.
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• Philippines
13 Jun 16
Thank you @bestie. I really appreciate sharing your thoughts.
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@aarifa (1210)
• India
13 Jun 16
Cool. No past feelings. Energize yourself with yoga and some of games will give you the knowledge of how could feeling. Dont stress yourself.
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• Philippines
13 Jun 16
Sure.
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@youless (112123)
• Guangzhou, China
14 Jun 16
I think sometimes we just can't help much for the people who are heart broken. All we can do may just listen to them quietly. Nothing can really mend a broken heart. But the time will somewhat be helpful. After some time, everything will be gone.
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@youless (112123)
• Guangzhou, China
14 Jun 16
@rachz_kisses Yeah, a hug will be very sweet
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• Philippines
14 Jun 16
Yes. I think the only thing we can do is to listen.... and maybe a hug.
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@just4him (306853)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
13 Jun 16
Sometimes a hug is better than words ever will be. Listening is also great. Words are hard in those moments.
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@just4him (306853)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
14 Jun 16
@rachz_kisses Sometimes that's the best thing a person can do.
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• Philippines
13 Jun 16
I know. A hug would be better but I just hold her hand while she cried.... but she thanked me though for just being there. I wish I could have done more rather than just sit there and keep silent.
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@Lucky15 (37346)
• Philippines
13 Jun 16
Give a hug...let her cry
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@Lucky15 (37346)
• Philippines
13 Jun 16
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
13 Jun 16
Lending a shoulder to lean on?
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• Philippines
13 Jun 16
Maybe next time I'll give her a hug or a shoulder to lean on. Thanks @Lucky15 and @sunrisefan for the comment.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Jun 16
Hey by listening to them is a comfort already. Maybe you are not that emotional enclined to people who are suffering.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Jun 16
@rachz_kisses Oh. Okay. Well,give them a hug it will help them a lot.
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• Philippines
14 Jun 16
I feel their pain though... don't get me wrong. It's just that I'm not sure if my gesture will comfort them. I do listen and I am thinking what else I could do to lessen the pain... other than listening and being silent.
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@Danzylop (1120)
• Philippines
15 Jun 16
It actually makes you feel very important for people who opens up their problems bEcause they know that you can give them a piece of advice. I have alot of friends. I just honestly advise them based on what is true. Many people fail by giving false advice because of being sesitive to ones feeligns.
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• Philippines
15 Jun 16
True. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
13 Jun 16
Just by being there, not saying anything would be enough. Sometimes friends don't come running to you for an advice, they come running to you coz they just needed someone to cry on and to listen to them.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
13 Jun 16
@rachz_kisses Sometimes it's better to stay quiet when you don't know what to say.
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• Philippines
13 Jun 16
Yes. I did just by doing that. Though I was thinking I could do more... but I'm thankful still that it made her feel better.
@cherriefic (10400)
• Philippines
14 Jun 16
I guess it depends on the person you are consoling. I often give advice to close friends.
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• Philippines
22 Jun 16
That's good.
@Teep11 (7674)
• United States
22 Jun 16
Not everyone will know how to comfort others but they can be good listeners and listening is just as good as consoling.
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• Philippines
22 Jun 16
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
• Philippines
16 Jun 16
I don't know. that's probably why I remain single at least.
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• Philippines
22 Jun 16
Well I guess listening will do. I do that all the time.
• Eugene, Oregon
14 Jun 16
I would say that I know you hurt now, but it will get better in time and tell them that I speak from experience.
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• Philippines
22 Jun 16
Thank you for that nice comment.
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@shubhu3 (36464)
• New Delhi, India
13 Jun 16
Just listen and let your friend have a went out .Sometimes friends just need a person to listen and nothing else .I found are there they would feel being heard and valued. :)
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@shubhu3 (36464)
• New Delhi, India
14 Jun 16
@rachz_kisses Anytime buddy. :)
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• Philippines
13 Jun 16
Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
13 Jun 16
A listening ear would somehow heal a broken heart. Even a simple presence would sometimes be enough.
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• Philippines
13 Jun 16
Thanks. I feel good about myself right now after reading your comment. Somehow, I did the right thing.
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
13 Jun 16
@rachz_kisses And I'm happy too that my comment has somehow helped :)
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@Chungshop (2355)
13 Jun 16
I never have this experience, let time be the healing, the best solution.
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• Philippines
13 Jun 16
Yes. You are right my friend. Only time can heal a broken heart.
@marlina (154165)
• Canada
13 Jun 16
The best thing to do is to listen to your friend talk her heart out.
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• Philippines
14 Jun 16
Yes. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I really appreciate it.
@Yar_Joey (3271)
• Philippines
14 Jun 16
You have to do it yourself of course your friends and family can help you but you do it yourself.
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• Philippines
22 Jun 16
And probably let time heals...
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@VivaLaDani13 (60485)
• Perth, Australia
7 Aug 16
@rachz_kisses I know that it can be quite uncomfortable sometimes when someone is upset and all you want to do is help but fear you aren't doing good enough to help them but I think that as long as you are there to just listen, that's good enough on it's own anyway. Sometimes people don't even want advice. They just want someone there to listen to them vent.
• Philippines
8 Aug 16
You're right. I felt relieved when she thanked me for just being there for her. It was a good feeling though.
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• Zamboanga City, Philippines
13 Jun 16
At the age of 10? Some of my friends asking me for an advise those people are broken heart. I also helped them. As the passed by the friends who asked me for advise. I bet they already mature enough to handle such things like that. It depends on them. Til now I have some new friends asking me some advise too. and hopefully in near future they are mature enough to handle it on their own. I may be not a good adviser but I really do help my friends. of course what are friends for right? And yes, you'll get hard time to conform your friend. because sometimes your friend might not helping themselves. (possibly they won't listen to your advise) But I do believe is do my goal is to heal my friend's broken heart. and make them okay at the end of period. I really help my friends alot.
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• Philippines
14 Jun 16
Wow. You're such a good person. They are lucky to you as friend.
@Sneha464 (40)
13 Jun 16
True. At times you do feel helpless when you cannot do anything for someone when you really want to. However being there for the person in itself would be a great help... :)
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• Philippines
13 Jun 16
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this.
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