What can I do for my colleague?

China
June 30, 2016 12:43am CST
She is my colleague.Months ago she lost her husband. He died for a heart attack.They have a 1 and half year old daughter.Sometimes she looks sad.One day when we meeted in the street near our school ,she told me that she missed her husband everyday.Another day she said that many person who known the thing have not known her feeling. hou can I help her?I suggested she could have a trip in the holiday .And she agreed. There are a lot disasters in the world.I think we should thank for our possession.
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@dbherald (491)
• India
30 Jun 16
You should encourage her to look after her one and half year old daughter carefully. What she has lost will never come back & its a good thing that you offered her a holiday trip, I think it will change her mind for the time being.
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• China
30 Jun 16
Yes.You are right.Her little daughter needs her care now.thanks.
• Bogor, Indonesia
30 Jun 16
thats a great idea to get a road tripping with her, but what about the baby?
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• China
30 Jun 16
Her mother-in -low lives with them.Sometimes Grandparents look after the baby .My friend have to work everyday.She can't tell her families her mood .
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• China
30 Jun 16
@satriani92 I think it's good for her and family if she find someone new.
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• Bogor, Indonesia
30 Jun 16
@1210800460 tough woman, what if she find someone new?
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
30 Jun 16
I think the only help you can give her is by being a good friend and you already are. There's nothing more you can do.
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• China
30 Jun 16
yes . I care for her.If she needs I can go to walk with her in spare time.
@sofssu (23662)
1 Jul 16
Grieving is a difficult process.. Especially when you lose your spouse. Give her time and just listen to her.
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• China
1 Jul 16
yes,I am her friend. I can help and listento her.Thanks.
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@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
1 Jul 16
I hope your colleague won't be depressed and she must move on. Try to comfort her and tell her always that life is good and God is always there to help us.
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• China
1 Jul 16
yes,I think she must move on for her and her baby.Thanks.God is always there to help us all.
@Shiva49 (26204)
• Singapore
12 Jul 16
I am a man so there are a bit of restrictions in this regard. Understanding her mental state is important. She should carry on in life but it is easier said than done. She should also find another life partner if she so desires and ready for it - siva
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• China
12 Jul 16
I agree .Maybe this is the way to help her .I will encourage her I will pay for her trip this month.thanks.
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@Shavkat (137213)
• Philippines
30 Jun 16
It is normal to feel that way. We all are going through this. She just needs to have somebody like you.
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• China
30 Jun 16
Thank for you encourage.I know she needs friend now.
@OreoBrownie (3755)
• Commerce, Georgia
8 Jul 16
You can be there for her to lean on as a friend to listen. Sometimes they only need someone to listen.
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• Midland, Michigan
30 Jun 16
In suggesting a holiday trip are you offering to pay for it for her? Many times people dealing with loss just needs someone that will listen, that they can share about the person that is gone. I don't know whether you do that in your country or not. That is a situation that is difficult in any culture and it will take time for the person with a loss to heal. Usually one full year. A trip might be nice, but I'm sure she will still be sad afterward for a long time. It's also to soon for her to find someone to replace her lived one.
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• United States
1 Jul 16
Probably the best thing you can do for her is continue to be kind and be her friend. Sometimes people don't know what to do so they stay away.
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@sj3011 (623)
30 Jun 16
Its happens with my mom too.
• China
30 Jun 16
Sorry to hear that.Care for yourself.