Very Interesting Post on Relationships
@just4him (308019)
Green Bay, Wisconsin
July 7, 2016 12:58pm CST
I just read a post by @Marguicha about what to look for in a relationship, and thought I would also chime in on that one.
So what is important to you in a relationship? Is it the outward appearance of the person? Is it their personality? Is it their charm and appeal?
One thing we all know is that beauty fades, and what are we left with? Will we be able to catch a man or woman with the results of fading beauty?
What about money or wealth? Is that attractive? Perhaps, for a little while. It's nice to have money to do the things you want and not live hand to mouth all the time, which most people I know do, including me.
So what does make the perfect relationship? That can only be answered by you. For me it would be what is found on the inside. Intelligence certainly, but the inward beauty of a person who is in tune with God their creator, who sees people not as objects to manipulate, but to learn something from, to enjoy, to see the heart and not what looks good or not so good on the outside. It isn't found in how much money a person has. A person can be dirt poor and be the happiest person on the planet. Does he or she enjoy life for all it's worth? Or do they bemoan their circumstances. I know I tend to gravitate towards people who are positive, that have something to give not to me, but to life in general. Outgoing people, willing to lend a helping hand. Because that's the kind of person I am. I don't want to be around negative people who will only bring me down or belittle me for what I love to do.
We won't stay young and beautiful forever, but we can be young and beautiful within, where it counts more than outward appearances.
Thanks for reading.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Jul 16
that is true. my John was not good looking but always fun to be around. if I could find another like him, I would not be so down and negative all the time
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
7 Jul 16
For us, it has always been the desire of being together come what may.
In any relation to survive the wealth or the beauty are nowhere existent. Agreed, some of the people think different, but then, as you say, the inner wealths are the players in the long run.
To me, there should be openness, acceptance and "forget and forgive" mindset along with the desire to continue on.
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
8 Jul 16
being very comfortable with the person. I can be myself and not worry about a thing
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
8 Jul 16
@just4him ya I would never marry someone if I'm not 100% comfortable being myself with them. regardless of how much I "may" love them
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@just4him (308019)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
8 Jul 16
@Drosophila I couldn't either. At least not anymore. I went that route once, never again.
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@jayaramas (1353)
• Bangalore, India
8 Jul 16
it is between hearts and not brains, so we cannot analyse it by brain!
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@just4him (308019)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
8 Jul 16
I think it takes both. Some seem to have all heart, and some all brains. A good balance would be perfect.
@just4him (308019)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
8 Jul 16
Yes, I agree, people are into physique. I even hear it from my son and grandson when they're in the car with me when they see a 'hot' babe walking down the street. Personally, like you, I go for the personality, honesty, faithfulness, and everything with it.
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@just4him (308019)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
8 Jul 16
God is the glue that holds the relationship together and strengthens it through all the storms that come along. Even when two people are perfect for each other, there will be problems that need solving.
@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
8 Jul 16
I like people who are loyal, no one is perfect, but we need to pull together for each other
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@paigea (35798)
• Canada
8 Jul 16
That is lovely and well put. I love what you said, about seeing people as someone to learn something from, to enjoy, to see the heart and not what looks good or not so good on the outside.
Having been through many of life's hardships I think it's important to be a person who tackles these problems and does what one can. And that is the sort of person I want to share my life with. Nothing to do with what is on the outside.
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@fishtiger58 (29823)
• Momence, Illinois
14 Jul 16
Honesty and their personality is what attracts me,
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@just4him (308019)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
16 Jul 16
@fishtiger58 True. Nothing lasts, but a smile and personality along with honesty will make a day much more pleasant.
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@fishtiger58 (29823)
• Momence, Illinois
16 Jul 16
@just4him Looks fade so not important, I always say this isn't a beauty contest up in here lol.
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@chenluna (39)
• Philippines
8 Jul 16
I agree on what you have said. Relationships are formed not because merely of infatuation or love but there should also be respect on both sides, fidelity, faithfulness and a lot more of that. There's no perfect relationship or perfect people. For a relationship to work, it should be two imperfect persons trying to love the imperfectness of each other. There is no perfect relationship, but there is a real one and for me that's a reason enough to stay in one.
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@just4him (308019)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
8 Jul 16
I totally agree. Nobody is perfect and we don't expect the one we love to be either, but we do expect faithfulness and respect.
