Isn't it possible?
By anamika
@anamika161088 (11868)
India
July 23, 2016 12:20am CST
Good morning friends!
One of my friend recently got married. She is very much career oriented and can have a very bright future. There are people (elderly traditional fellows) who say that having happy married life and bright career simultaneously is not possible especially when you are a lady.
She is in dilemma now. Gone are the days when it was actually difficult!
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@supervalon (1208)
• North Las Vegas, Nevada
23 Jul 16
I completely agree with what Mr.Shavkat said.
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@supervalon (1208)
• North Las Vegas, Nevada
23 Jul 16
First of all, i'm glad that your friend found her happiness in life and got married.
Second, leave those old middle age sayings. Who says that a woman cannot have a successful carrier while being in marriage clearly hasn't met Germany. 40% of the Germany women, leave the maternity to go to work. Cheer up!
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@anamika161088 (11868)
• India
23 Jul 16
Totally agree with you. India is tier 3 nation and might be the conservative approach of elder generation is keeping it back.
@anamika161088 (11868)
• India
23 Jul 16
@hydraa Good point Bhagyashree. Here preserving history feels more important than having a bright future of the whole nation.
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@annierose (19234)
• Philippines
24 Jul 16
I have heard some Filipinos saying that if a woman has a good career, she has a poor love life and vice versa. I am not so sure about it. I have a good career and I also have a healthy love life. I am not yet married, though. I think we are the one doing our destiny. In my own opinion, we can both have a good career and a happy marriage life if we want to.
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@anamika161088 (11868)
• India
24 Jul 16
It's great that you have a healthy love life and good career life as well. Good luck to you.
Well I think it all depends on how well you manage your time, relations and enjoy.
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@annierose (19234)
• Philippines
24 Jul 16
@anamika161088 I think so. Let us not listen to the opinion other people that we have to always choose between love and career for we cannot have both of them. If that is what they want to believe, then just respect them. Our happiness does not depend on them. Our happiness lies in our attitude and action toward life.
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@anamika161088 (11868)
• India
24 Jul 16
@annierose Exactly! Everyone has got right to take one's own decision in the life.
@anamika161088 (11868)
• India
23 Jul 16
True. Working enhances the self confidence, make her self dependent, gives dignity and social prestige.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60541)
• Perth, Australia
9 Jul 18
@anamika161088 I'm glad to know your friend is married and has a great career. Times have changed drastically where women can both be married and have a successful career. It can be a bit more difficult when women get pregnant and have children but if both partners in the marriage help each other out then both can have great careers as well as being great parents. It's just all about working hard and communication.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60541)
• Perth, Australia
10 Jul 18
@anamika161088 Very sad. With this day and age, was really hoping men could be giving women respect and credit.
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@anamika161088 (11868)
• India
11 Jul 18
@VivaLaDani13 True. Its their right and it should be given.
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@anamika161088 (11868)
• India
10 Jul 18
Yes.. It demands efforts from both side. Unfortunately we have patriarchal society and it's very difficult to make males understand it.
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@williamjisir66 (594)
• Hangzhou, China
25 Jul 16
My niece got married a month ago. Yesterday my family went to visit her in her house and she told me that she has quit her job because her newly married husband asked her to. Of course, she agreed because she is now pregnant and needs to take good care of her baby inside. I guess it will be some years before she comes out to work again when her baby is old enough.
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@anamika161088 (11868)
• India
25 Jul 16
Yeah she can resume working after a couple of years. It would be good for her and her baby to keep a break for a year or so.
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@praveenkumar06 (4077)
• Hyderabad, India
23 Jul 16
She must talk to husband open about her future plans and to the family member , then depending on opinions of all take a decision it only good for u and family member ,
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@else34 (13517)
• New Delhi, India
23 Jul 16
@anamika161088,Women are joining army now.They can do everything.
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@hydraa (807)
• Mumbai, India
23 Jul 16
This is the reason I am totally against marriage. People in India are so narrow-minded that they want men to work and succeed because he's the one responsible for feeding his family, wherein it's ok for the women to be at home and look after the family. Though the situations are changing now, I believe not much has changed so far.
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@anamika161088 (11868)
• India
23 Jul 16
Agree with you Bhagyashree. People here in India are not very liberal . Their conservative thought process is difficult to change.
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@aninditasen (15758)
• Raurkela, India
23 Jul 16
It is possible to have a good career even after marriage if the in-laws are supportive. These elderly people are not traditional but are dogmatic.
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@anamika161088 (11868)
• India
23 Jul 16
Although our generation people do the things they want to. The thing is if they get support, things go smoothly else issues happen every now and then.
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@rachz_kisses (3798)
• Philippines
24 Jul 16
Oh puhleez. Women nowadays can do what she wants. She can have a good career and a family. Don't let her listen to them, they're not the one paying her bills anyway.
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@anamika161088 (11868)
• India
24 Jul 16
Correct! She should listen to her heart and use her brains.
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