A friend has been fooled

@vickyrose (1981)
Canberra, Australia
August 14, 2016 11:58pm CST
This was on facebook. One of my friends who was looking for 'romance' was thrilled to connect with someone apparently rich, handsome, a US citizen and passionate all that she can ask for, for a man of her dreams. She was found on Facebook, they became friends and their relationship became 'special'. I was happy for her when she told me about her new online 'boyfriend' and the dreams they have for each other. After three months, we caught up and of course, I asked her about her cyber 'boyfriend' who promised her the world. Her face dropped. She said that he's gone. What do you mean gone? I asked. She burst into tears, the cyber 'boyfriend' suddenly disappeared from Facebook and on her Messenger contact list. Apparently, this guy had a multi million dollar project in South Africa because he was a big time engineer. He was there for the project but the 30% promised him wasn't paid yet. He needed some money to cover some immediate expenses. The guy said that since they have a very special relationship and in view of the millions of dollars to be paid to him, which he will share with her, when the project is finished in three months, he asked her to send him some money, which she did. She sent him $1000 through Western Union. He still communicated with her for a bit, then, suddenly, he was gone. Just like that. I was shocked with her experience. Do you have or someone you know have a similar experience like this?
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@ilocosboy (33257)
• Philippines
15 Aug 16
yes my cousin got a relation to an american, it just like your story at first they are friends and then become lovers.he is also an engineer and he has a project in italy and he is residing for the mean time because of the project but he is from america.at first he told my cousin that he is sending a box with thier wedding ring and a cash money,but the company said my cousin should pay 35 thousand pesos before she get the box but suddenly my cousin gave that amount but she did not get the box.we advice her not to pay for it because it's a scam but she did not listen to us.the guy is very happy because he get a money from my cousin and my cousin is crying because the love she felt is not true and the money was gone.
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• Philippines
15 Aug 16
see, the modus operandi is very similar and, unfortunately, with the same sad ending. how is your cousin now?
@vickyrose (1981)
• Canberra, Australia
16 Aug 16
That's sad, so they are victimising some of our kababayans who must be gullible and wanting an american partner...i hope that she recovers from the heartbreak. it's only money, hope she learns her lesson.
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@ilocosboy (33257)
• Philippines
16 Aug 16
@vickyrose and now she's in saudi as ofw to earn another money for her family and i hope she will not be fooled again
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@Ujjawal29 (255)
• New Delhi, India
15 Aug 16
I have heard alot about these kind of scams happening online. For him she was just another victim
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@vickyrose (1981)
• Canberra, Australia
16 Aug 16
Indeed, might be looking for another victim....now, so beware to those who accept unknown strangers online. I wonder if there are men who are also victimized by women?
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• New Delhi, India
16 Aug 16
@vickyrose yeah the no. of men victimised by women is more. I dont remeber but i saw a documentary where a man made fake account of a girl and victimised other men
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@vickyrose (1981)
• Canberra, Australia
18 Aug 16
@Ujjawal29 yes, that's true, even here. that's a good perspective, some women do it too.
@hereandthere (24151)
• Philippines
15 Aug 16
i think it's a common online scam. $1000 is huge. i hope she never sends money to strangers again.
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• New Delhi, India
15 Aug 16
Yeah. I totally agree
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@vickyrose (1981)
• Canberra, Australia
16 Aug 16
It is a huge amount as far as i'm concerned too.
@sol_cee (13616)
• Japan
15 Aug 16
I can't blame your friend. At some point, we trust and we get betrayed.
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@vickyrose (1981)
• Canberra, Australia
16 Aug 16
I feel really sorry for her. Maybe charge it to experience and hopefully she'll learn from it.
@jaboUK (50705)
• United Kingdom
15 Aug 16
She must have been very naive to fall for that - similar cases have received a lot of publicity, so has she been living under a stone?
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@vickyrose (1981)
• Canberra, Australia
16 Aug 16
She must have been, she let me read some of the correspondence, it looked so real and he's a handsome and romantic guy who promised to protect and love her till eternity.. ayayayay!
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@louievill (16344)
• Philippines
15 Aug 16
That guy is probably out there having a nice time while sipping champagne and thinking of the next scam and victim. We should all be careful online especially if money is involved.
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@vickyrose (1981)
• Canberra, Australia
16 Aug 16
I bet that he would be. Yes, it's our responsibility to be careful indeed.
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@Macarrosel (7635)
• Philippines
18 Aug 16
I have known similar Facebook scam. My sister had similar experienced about it but good thing she never send money to the person. They will make friend request in Facebook, putting gorgeous photos in their profile and send good messages to you and when you become intimate they will say they have big amount of money but the ending is they will ask money from you. My sister was being scammed few times already but never gave money to them. Your friend should never believe that they have large money or multí million investments for these are not true. That's why I never accept when these People makes friend request for surely they are scam who try to ask money from us in the end.
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@Sun7788 (262)
• Changzhou, China
15 Aug 16
Recently, cyber scams have been in ascendant trend, Did your friend call the police after sufferring such substantial and mental losses?
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@vickyrose (1981)
• Canberra, Australia
16 Aug 16
No, she probably reported it on FB as he was an American and he was in South Africa...But he deleted his account and probably set up another one for another victim
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@Sun7788 (262)
• Changzhou, China
17 Aug 16
@vickyrose Terrible! Hope your friend can soon walk out of grief. All the countries should establish strict laws to fight international online scams.
@CinnamonGrl (5798)
• Paradise, California
15 Aug 16
Not to that point, no. I know people who have been fooled by supposed sweethearts online, but I don't know anybody who was played for cash. Or if they were, they haven't admitted it. That's horrible.
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• Philippines
15 Aug 16
it's possible. like a nightmare you just want to forget.
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@vickyrose (1981)
• Canberra, Australia
16 Aug 16
@hereandthere @CinnamonGrl maybe some are embarrassed to admit it and yes, it can be a heartbreaking nightmare. Like being in love and dumped after duping one with some money. It's appalling how they operate.
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@LadyDuck (122222)
• Switzerland
15 Aug 16
No, and I would have never sent money to this guy. When someone who pretends to be rich asks for money is fishy. He could call his banker and have $1,000 nowhere in the world.
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@vickyrose (1981)
• Canberra, Australia
16 Aug 16
Yes, it's very fishy and yes, with a multi million project alleged, there should be some insurance or bank backing. Great insight, Anna!
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@cahaya1983 (9656)
• Malaysia
15 Aug 16
Sorry to hear about your friend. I can't help wondering how people can often be fooled by such scams when they have been reported too often. I really feel sorry for the victims, but people really need to be more alert and aware of these things.
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@vickyrose (1981)
• Canberra, Australia
16 Aug 16
Yes indeed. There's an adage that says.. money spoils friendship. When it's involved specially on cyberspace, it should be alarm bells.
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@SIMPLYD (75375)
• Philippines
19 Aug 16
Well, what is new ? A lot has been duped on online relationships . They will go into a relationship and along the way one of them will ask for money because of this and that and will just be returned . When a partner in a relationship gotten from the internet asks for a money you should be suspicious already .
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@AkoPinay (10827)
• Philippines
21 Aug 16
If someone asked for money or asked street address promising to send a package I wont trust that person. I met someone like that so I blocked him immediately.