I feel guilty

Bloomington, Illinois
August 15, 2016 9:08pm CST
So it may sound crazy, but the most common emotion I feel lately, it guilt. Is that even an emotion? Anyway, right now we are moving into a new house in 2 weeks. I am so very excited because it is so much nicer than the home we have lived in the first year of our marriage. Things seem to be looking up. But then, my husband is not seeming to be excited at all. opposite in fact. He seems to be upset by it. So college courses start next week and he has been wanting to go back to school. I completely support this. But the thing is, I remind him to do the paperwork and financial aid, he forgets until the week before school, then complains for 2 months that he couldn't go to school. This has been happening the last 2 school semesters. So for a year now. However, this year I thought i would try to help him. So i filled out all the paperwork, completed financial aid, everything but registered. They sent a letter with 2 more forms needing filled out so that he could register. He never did them and now he is all mopey that he can't go to school because we can't afford for him to go out of our pockets. I just feel like every time he brings it up, I am to blame. We got married, so he couldn't go to school, he lost his job for a short while so we got into debt and he couldn't go to school, and most recently, we are moving into a new house so we can't afford school. I just feel guilty about everything in life. The house isn't spotless, i feel guilty. He can't finish his associates degree, I feel guilty because he has to work to provide for me. I had a miscarriage and I feel guilty because I couldn't carry his child. I just don't know what to do. I absolutely love my husband and couldn't imagine where I would be in life without him. So how do i shake these feelings of guilt and inadequacy??? :(
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@CinnamonGrl (7083)
• Santa Fe, New Mexico
16 Aug 16
Does your husband know you are feeling this way?
• Bloomington, Illinois
16 Aug 16
no he doesnt. should i tell him?
• Santa Fe, New Mexico
16 Aug 16
@danicapaige Well it just sounds like you are taking on the entire load for both of you. He isn't sharing the responsibility when it sounds like a lot of what is going on has to do with him not stepping up to the plate. you are taking on way too much blame. So yes, I would say tell him you're feeling like this, I bet he doesn't have a clue.
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• Bloomington, Illinois
1 Sep 16
@CinnamonGrl thank you sue!