Self Obsessed or Self Centered?
August 18, 2016 1:30am CST
My boyfriend has a way of saying everything. Whenever we are having a conversation, he responds with such an impact as if he wants to make a point. Ya, many of the times he is right with his thoughts and beliefs. He is a great analyst for most of the time in a situational crises. And as a matter of fact, his observations and remarks proves to be true too at times. However, this has made him to be more like a "Whatever I am thinking is right" type of man. He finds it hard to accept others thinking. He has his own standards set. If one dont fall in that line, he makes such impactful statements that he dont regard others opinion. I have calmly tried to make him explain that each person is different. try acknowledge their opinion too. try to see and understand their point of view too. but he felt offended. he says that he never knew he will have to think twice before conversing with his Girlfriend. he thought he could be flawless and i wont judge him. he should have the freedom to speak without thinking to me at least. I replied, I m not judging you, rather am just making a point that sometimes listen to others too. try to understand others point of view too. he isnt wrong, but others can also be not wrong. i just tried to make him explain. But he felt offended and now he is upset with me.
18 Aug 16
At least, you have all the time to know him well so that when you make your final decision whether to be with him for the rest of your life, or not, you are well informed and you will not blame anybody or anything. There are really people like your boyfriend, who are still to find a girlfriend like you who will allow them to learn. I know that he will listen to you, as he realize that not everything is stored in his mind, and that, not all of his opinions are correct in all areas.
• Bangalore, India
18 Aug 16
It's not easy for a lot of people to let go of their individual beliefs and open their mind to other possibilities...this is a drawback...but its the way they are...some people work purely on logic. If there is no proof, they refuse to consider it. It is the irony that sometimes intelligent people can be close minded. Such people can not change fast. their inability to understand other people ends up hurting the other person. I have someone like this in my family....so i can understand.