Is being stupid the way to go?

Jacksonville, Florida
August 30, 2016 12:23am CST
Well... In the couple of weeks that I have been a member on myLot, it is official. Stupid and frivolous discussions, are the only ones that seem to get the most comments. I like to write. I put meaning into many of my discussions. But the only ones that seem to get the most responses, are the ones that don't have a lot of substance. I don't like being an idiot, but if I want to make any $$$ here, I guess I have to learn to be one. I know that not all discussions that get a lot of responses, are stupid and/or frivolous. But many are...and those are the ones I am speaking of... So...I will need to think about what kind of stupid, idiotic, meaningless, and frivolous discussion I can come up with... I really don't like being stupid, but I guess I have no other choice, if I want members to talk to me here. I am still not doing too bad in the $$$ department. But I like discussions. Interactions... And like many of you have experienced...people that get the most responses, spend more time starting dumb discussions, that they don't really look at anyone else's posts. I have commented on many of those types of discussions. But a few regulars that write these types of posts, have yet to visit me once. So I am not reading their stuff anymore. I see their username, and I just move on to the next discussion, no matter what type of heading they give. I won't write stupid stuff all the time, because I really don't enjoy it. But I will do it once in a while, just to see if I can get a few discussions going... So here is a "toast"...to my "new and improved" stupid, and frivolous, future discussions!!!
6 people like this
8 responses
@fizzytom (760)
• Maribor, Slovenia
30 Aug 16
Maybe that's a bit unfair. I think discussions that are quite broad and general get a lot of responses because most people can offer a response. If the topic becomes too specialised then it's harder to get comments because a lot of people might feel unable to contribute.
3 people like this
• Jacksonville, Florida
30 Aug 16
I did not say all discussions. But I look at a lot of discussions that get 30, 40, 50 + comments, and they are exactly as I described. You may not have seen this, but I have... Even with my posts. The ones where I am just asking how everyone is doing, will get several responses. However, the ones that I put a lot of meaning into...might get two or three responses. It is just my observation.
@fizzytom (760)
• Maribor, Slovenia
30 Aug 16
@teresatrotter Actually you said "Stupid and frivolous discussions, are the only ones that seem to get the most comments" It's not that I disagree with you entirely but maybe what you think is 'stupid' is what someone else considers interesting.
1 person likes this
• Jacksonville, Florida
30 Aug 16
@fizzytom - I agree. Not everyone thinks the same about what is considered a stupid discussion. I am not speaking about discussions that get 10-20 responses. Most of them are pretty decent discussions. I am speakng of the ones that get 50 or more. There are many who think 10-20 responses are huge. But the bigger discussions are posts that make fun of people, and/or myLot... Or make you think something is real, and it is totally fake, and it makes everyone look stupid. It is nice to have fun and joke around. But some of it goes way too far...
@Bluedoll (17075)
• Canada
30 Aug 16
I'm looking at the top rated discussions at the moment and I don't see any frivolous discussions though often a few will appear in that list. Sometimes the post has been around for a while and that is why it has a lot of responses. That's my observations.
1 person likes this
• Jacksonville, Florida
30 Aug 16
I guess it is a better night tonight. Because there have been a few days, where I did not see that many good discussions. But you also have to consider...what you think a "lot" of comments are... 10-20 responses is not what I am speaking about. I am talking about the ones that get 50 or more. I don't see too many good discussions with those types of responses.
@Bluedoll (17075)
• Canada
30 Aug 16
@teresatrotter It does vary so hard to define but I can agree I've seen 50 type response post which are nothing more than as you described. Deeper discussions tend to have longer comments but a lot less of them for sure.
@skysnap (17818)
30 Aug 16
Sometimes we have to be stupid to be intelligent in some situations.
1 person likes this
• Jacksonville, Florida
30 Aug 16
That is the best comment I have gotten so far!!!
1 person likes this
@hereandthere (28864)
• Philippines
30 Aug 16
on the other hand, there are also members who still write what they like and don't mind if they get little to no responses and don't track their earnings. i'd like to be that way, too, to just express myself, regardless.
1 person likes this
• Jacksonville, Florida
30 Aug 16
I agree with that as well. But I have to admit that from time to time, I would like some good input. And some of my posts that I think would get that, get less than others, that I think would not attract that many responses.
@Jessicalynnt (47790)
• Centralia, Missouri
30 Aug 16
lol, guess it is a matter of opinion. I dont see this as stupid or frivolous. I tend to post on whatever I want. I do limit the length of a post, and I keep the poems to once a week. I try to vary post types. So I guess do the serious when you want, but also throw out a silly one as well!
1 person likes this
@Rajo14 (92)
• United States
30 Aug 16
A post has to be interesting and relatable to me in order to make me want to respond. Its not about great writing, depth or silliness specifically, but rather whether I relate or not. Sometimes, its a lack of believability that leaves me rolling my eyes instead of responding. People aren't stupid and sometimes they just want to join in with something fun and light. We all have seriousness in our lives. Nothing wrong with enjoying the lighter side of things. Just my two cents :)
• Jacksonville, Florida
30 Aug 16
I agree with being silly every now and then. I like to do that... But I don't agree when you say people are not stupid. Plenty of people are stupid , and some of their posts are so juvenile, that it can become irritating sometimes. However...to be fair... Maybe those people consider doing these kind of posts, as having fun. I don't... I appreciate your input.
@Rajo14 (92)
• United States
30 Aug 16
@teresatrotter I think I could've worded my post better. What I meant is, that being able to connect with people enough to cause them to respond is a certain kind of smart. Wanting to respond to something "stupid" doesn't necessarily mean someone is stupid (not that you suggested such). I've been considering this "phenomenon" going on in the current presidential election. Some have said that a certain candidate speaks at the level of a fifth grader and I've heard some call him a moron. Others believe his campaign has been pure genius. Regardless of my view, it's undeniable that he's been able to connect with millions of people to the point of securing a major party nomination. Many highly intelligent men and women have come out in support of a man who can sling insults around like we haven't heard since middle school. Intelligent, educated, doctors, governors, senators all have come out to support a man of whom others say is an idiot. Is it because stupid sells? Or is there another kind of "smart" we are overlooking. Certainly, you may know people who have all the college degrees and yet have rarely ever been able to navigate or maintain interpersonal relationships. When no one takes note of their intellect, they stomp their feet and alienate themselves. They look down on the stupid ones who don't "get" them. Meanwhile, they are missing the notion that maybe they could learn something about how to connect with people, how to draw someone in and cause them to want to stay awhile and chat. I have a friend who is highly educated, but carries on with what we call, at my house, "potty humor". She says things that I would never let come out of my mouth. Regardless, she has a bunch of good friends who always seem to have her back when she has troubles. Her social life is constant and many people love her company, including me :)
• Jacksonville, Florida
30 Aug 16
@Rajo14 - Now who needs to word things better? I never called anyone stupid. Saying someone makes a stupid comment is not calling them stupid. Intelligent people make stupid comments and act's stupid sometimes. There is a certain type of humor that I don't laugh at, because it is not funny to me. Frivolous and stupid comments is just an action of what someone does, not who they are. I have been told that I am very funny on Facebook, but I can't be that way here, because my humor consists of mainly one-liners...and they would be considered too short to start a discussion here. Yet on Facebook that same one-liner would get me tons of responses. Different humor attracts different people. This was just an observation post. That's all... But nowhere have I called anyone stupid. Yet...I have read many times from discussions I have seen on myLot...where people are literally being called stupid, and idiot...and other members have fun with it, even though it is against the rules.
@maclanis (1514)
• Belgium
6 Sep 16
I think that the "stupid" discussions are mostly easy to respond to, and that's why people will choose those instead of the ones that actually have some thought put into them. Above all, people are here to earn money, and unfortunately that means quantity over quality. I sometimes get annoyed by those types of discussions, but I have found myself responding to them as well. What also bothers me, is the fact that so many discussions are alike. People ask the same question over and over again just to get easy responses. I may have been guilty of this in the past, but I try to do my best now to create interesting discussions.
@sprite1950 (11273)
• Corsham, England
31 Aug 16
@teresatrotter I find that short posts get the most replies because people do not like wading through a long article. I will answer all kinds of posts as long as I can relate to them although I'm not one for talking about what I had for lunch or similar, it has to be interesting to me. I shall look out for your new style frivolity!!