Do you need a perfect figure to love?
September 16, 2016 8:13am CST
i always wonder why men like to love a girl with a perfect body? or women like men with muscles? does it really matter? my boyfriend always keeps telling me that i should be looking after my beauty and etc stuff which I'm not at all interested in...i mean i like to get dressed up maintain a good personality but I'm little skinny. I don't build up my weight though i do many things..its the same...so there's nothing I can do about it. So I keep wondering if relationships are based on how beautiful a girl/boy can be will it last longer...? i know its ok to make it a point to have a beautiful partner, but is it so important?
17 Sep 16
Yes, looks do matter. In social life and also in professional life. The more you look appealing, the more you'll get attention. This thing also goes on relationship sector. The first and the important thing is, first impression. But his thing is good it's just the first thing anyone would look for.. Is good looks. There are many other things as well.. Like personality, nature, behaviour, etc which makes us attracted towards the person. And the thing which helps the relation last is nothing but care towards each other, respect and support towards each other. Looks are just first step!
18 Sep 16
Trying to look beautiful for the one you love is far different from making you feel down by the one you love for not looking beautiful according to his/ her definition and level of beauty.! Maintaining your body is never possible...it changes with age...children...etc etc...but what use is of a beautiful princess with a stone hurt? For me it's the purity of heart and thoughts...beauty comes within yourself when have them !
• Sheffield, England
17 Sep 16
I think attraction is a very complex thing. Men tend to be more obviously 'visual' in what attracts them, but I think the chemistry between two people is based on so many things. I have been attracted to people who, if someone just showed me a photo of them, I would've probably thought they were quite ordinary. But getting to know someone - their mannerisms, the way they speak, the way they laugh, the particular vibe they give off, it all goes into the melting pot.
• Bangalore, India
16 Sep 16
Sweetheart...i think you already know the answer to your question... Love based on physical attributes won't last....because everyone will physically change. If you love someone...love them for their heart...for their mind...things that rarely change. I find it offensive that your boyfriends is telling you to look after your beauty. That is your choice. In the past, i have outright rejected boys who have said they like me because of the way i look....and nothing else...they didn't even know anything about me. That is just infatuation...a complete waste of time and effort. I don't even like boys with muscle...i like guys to look normal...
17 Sep 16
Haha sweetie...thanks for the words! Yeah just craving for a beautiful partner can never be love... it's attraction towards their appearance...once they change physically the love changes too..sometimes it changes onto someone else too ...