Do you need a perfect figure to love?

India
September 16, 2016 8:13am CST
i always wonder why men like to love a girl with a perfect body? or women like men with muscles? does it really matter? my boyfriend always keeps telling me that i should be looking after my beauty and etc stuff which I'm not at all interested in...i mean i like to get dressed up maintain a good personality but I'm little skinny. I don't build up my weight though i do many things..its the same...so there's nothing I can do about it. So I keep wondering if relationships are based on how beautiful a girl/boy can be will it last longer...? i know its ok to make it a point to have a beautiful partner, but is it so important?
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@tanvi99 (229)
• India
16 Sep 16
No i don't think so . Only beauty of heart is important . A person having beautiful face may have ugly heart . So according to me figure is not important .
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• India
17 Sep 16
I feel the same way...but it doesn't work!
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@tanvi99 (229)
• India
17 Sep 16
@shaheena11 It works though I am single but I believe in it .
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• India
17 Sep 16
@tanvi99 lovely....stay single and stay happy!!
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@CinnamonGrl (6065)
• Paradise, California
16 Sep 16
Maybe it's because i'm older now, but I would rather be single (which I am) than have someone who didn't love me for who I am.
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@ms1864 (6975)
• Bangalore, India
16 Sep 16
wow...i already feel that way...and i have never really been in any serious relationship.
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• India
17 Sep 16
Well said...! Though it's difficult...you said it right
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• India
17 Sep 16
@ms1864 you are lucky not to have fallen into serious relationships...I feel so...
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@raki369 (1025)
17 Sep 16
I feel the same way.
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• India
17 Sep 16
Happened with you???
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@raki369 (1025)
17 Sep 16
@shaheena11 Yes...I am also very skinny. My girlfriend asked me to gain body. How it is possible. It is genetic problem
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• India
17 Sep 16
@raki369 these people!!!!! Hmm don't worry...we can look young forever! that is what is usually think to boost up my self!
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@XinfulThotz (4184)
• Singapore, Singapore
17 Sep 16
appearance change as we age...it is what is inside that matters more.. but of course if having a nice appearance makes you feel good, then it is okay.
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• India
17 Sep 16
What if it feel good to someone we love and we try to feel it necessary!
• Singapore, Singapore
17 Sep 16
@shaheena11 then don't force yourself. Just be happy..
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@tanvi99 (229)
• India
17 Sep 16
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@SHOHANA (7167)
• Bangladesh
17 Sep 16
no and never, a beautiful heart is important
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• India
18 Sep 16
Exactly!
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@RitzzView (2758)
• India
17 Sep 16
Yes, looks do matter. In social life and also in professional life. The more you look appealing, the more you'll get attention. This thing also goes on relationship sector. The first and the important thing is, first impression. But his thing is good it's just the first thing anyone would look for.. Is good looks. There are many other things as well.. Like personality, nature, behaviour, etc which makes us attracted towards the person. And the thing which helps the relation last is nothing but care towards each other, respect and support towards each other. Looks are just first step!
• India
18 Sep 16
Fair enough to understand what you said ....
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@dbiswas (55)
• India
17 Sep 16
Love should never be based on anyone's physical outlook as its the inner beauty which stays, outer beauty is not there to stay for long. But yes while in a relationship its important to maintain oneself.
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• India
18 Sep 16
Trying to look beautiful for the one you love is far different from making you feel down by the one you love for not looking beautiful according to his/ her definition and level of beauty.! Maintaining your body is never possible...it changes with age...children...etc etc...but what use is of a beautiful princess with a stone hurt? For me it's the purity of heart and thoughts...beauty comes within yourself when have them !
@5thHouse (1692)
• Sheffield, England
17 Sep 16
I think attraction is a very complex thing. Men tend to be more obviously 'visual' in what attracts them, but I think the chemistry between two people is based on so many things. I have been attracted to people who, if someone just showed me a photo of them, I would've probably thought they were quite ordinary. But getting to know someone - their mannerisms, the way they speak, the way they laugh, the particular vibe they give off, it all goes into the melting pot.
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• India
17 Sep 16
Very true...It is very normal tendency for youngsters to like or get attracted to someone with just good looks. But there is something more that is actually needed to strengthen the bond!
@ms1864 (6975)
• Bangalore, India
16 Sep 16
Sweetheart...i think you already know the answer to your question... Love based on physical attributes won't last....because everyone will physically change. If you love someone...love them for their heart...for their mind...things that rarely change. I find it offensive that your boyfriends is telling you to look after your beauty. That is your choice. In the past, i have outright rejected boys who have said they like me because of the way i look....and nothing else...they didn't even know anything about me. That is just infatuation...a complete waste of time and effort. I don't even like boys with muscle...i like guys to look normal...
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• India
17 Sep 16
Haha sweetie...thanks for the words! Yeah just craving for a beautiful partner can never be love... it's attraction towards their appearance...once they change physically the love changes too..sometimes it changes onto someone else too ...
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@crafty01 (337)
• Jamshedpur, India
27 Sep 16
You are correct, beauty is not so important, its conviction , trust, attachment, wisdom that governs the relationship.
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