Unemployed and caught significant other cheating

Trinidad And Tobago
September 29, 2016 1:30pm CST
I have a friend who got retrenched three weeks ago. Prior to this, she begun to suspect that her partner who lives with her at her home, was engaged in a budding relationship with someone else. She was able to confirm this two days ago by accessing his phone. She wants to let him know that she knows, she also wants to let the third party know what the situation really is but has to do so before she presents him with her knowledge. She has two children from her previous marriage and he is very financially supportive of them and her. Any advice people?
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@Happy2BeMe (74975)
• Canada
29 Sep 16
If I was her I would definitely confront him with the information that she has and let him explain himself. See what he has to say about this other woman. I, too, would like to know if she knows there other woman? If she does she could confront her if she wanted too. It is hard when you depend on somebody else financially but just because you do does not mean have you have to tolerate being cheated on and lied to. Nobody deserves that.
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• Trinidad And Tobago
29 Sep 16
She does not know the other woman. But she noticed over the past couple of months he was not answering his phone when a particular name called his phone. On the third occasion she asked him about znd he said that she was the person running the charity he supported and he does not answer her if he has nothing to contribute. Of course he was testy and defensive by her inquiry.
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@Happy2BeMe (74975)
• Canada
29 Sep 16
@AbbygailJ that is usually a red flag. Chances are he is lying to the other woman too.
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• Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
30 Sep 16
@AbbygailJ. Bow-wow, he is a smart dog. A charity, Wow . Talk about cool under pressure
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• Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
29 Sep 16
These situations are so hard. Huh. My sense is confront him and take it from there. He's the one cheating on and lying to her, not the 3rd party. Regarding the $$, not sure about that , she's got to really use her head.
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• Trinidad And Tobago
29 Sep 16
She is not blaming the third party at all. But she wants the third party to know that he is a cheater. She leaves her shoes in the car and she noticed that of late whenever he goes out the shoes somehow end up wedged under the front seat. Sometimes the sweatshirt she keeps in the car happens to fall and hide the shoes. So clearly the third party does not even know she is a third party.
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• Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
30 Sep 16
@AbbygailJ. I guess... I just think about dealing with the source of the pain. Nobody ever agrees with me, I think you lose focus by directing anger and hurt at the GF. She's not the one laying beside you at night acting like it's all good.
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• Trinidad And Tobago
2 Oct 16
@sherryericha well she confronted him. And he had no choice but to admit it. He accepted full responsibility for his actions. She also contacted the third party sending her excerpts of her own conversations with her man as proof. Turns out the chic knew nothing. She actually thanked my friend for bringing the situation to light.
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@marguicha (100366)
• Chile
29 Sep 16
It is difficult to advise, friend. But as I have seen, usually a third party appears when the couple have problems. Thus, it is not the third person the cause of the problem, but the consecuence of it.
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• Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
30 Sep 16
Yes
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@STOUTjodee (3474)
• United States
29 Sep 16
Does she know the third party? I would suggest that she ask her partner about it and then go from there, maybe it's something innocent.
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• Trinidad And Tobago
29 Sep 16
Its not something innocent at all. On Monday last he left home saying he was going to the squash court. The whatsapp excerpt shows that as soon as he left home he messaged the third party asking if he could come over. The next morning she was thanking him for the back massage!
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• Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
30 Sep 16
Okay, and my payout is $1million this month
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• Mumbai, India
30 Sep 16
unemployment is very dangerous
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• Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
30 Sep 16
Too much time on your hands, stress, self-esteem issues, etc. I agree with you.
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