The Kaleidescope Turns Again.....

@Morleyhunt (21021)
Canada
October 31, 2016 6:32am CST
Change is inevitable. Some times we anticipate it with great longing and other times we dread it. Today will be a day of change in our household. A year ago, my father came for a one night sleepover, while my mother spent the night at the hospital. That one night became ten nights. He spent eight more nights in his own home, and then my mother returned to hospital where she ultimately passed away. Meanwhile I had my father as a temporary house guest. Today, almost a year later, he is moving into a retirement residence. None of us are quite sure if this is the right place for him, but it was, ultimately, his decision. By noon today, my husband and I will once again be empty-nesters.
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@Happy2BeMe (74936)
• Canada
31 Oct 16
I wish your Dad well and I hope that the residence is a good fit for him. It will be nice to have your home to yourselves again even though I am sure you will miss having him around.
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@Morleyhunt (21021)
• Canada
31 Oct 16
Thank you. It has been difficult for my husband. My father has always tended to be moody. I grew up with it. My husband is appalled by his childishness. We are actually taking a weeks holiday to take a total breake.
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@MALUSE (43672)
• Uzbekistan
31 Oct 16
@Morleyhunt The holiday is a good idea.
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@Happy2BeMe (74936)
• Canada
31 Oct 16
@Morleyhunt That will be nice to just get away from it all. You deserve your alone time together. It has been well earned.
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@Hari101 (1132)
• Chennai, India
11 Dec 16
Respecting your father's decision. It's a good thing. I wish your father is happy wherever he is. :)
@Morleyhunt (21021)
• Canada
11 Dec 16
He seems to be settling in. There are things he really likes.....he is a little disappointed that the other residents don't sit around and visit with him.
@Juliaacv (33425)
• Canada
31 Oct 16
I wish you Dad well, my Grandpa found a place for him and my Gramma in their final years. They made it home and we had to accept it, as difficult as it was. Enjoy having the house to yourselves again.
@Morleyhunt (21021)
• Canada
31 Oct 16
Hopefully the care he needs is given....I see many potential pitfalls. All we can do is hope for the best.
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• Canada
1 Nov 16
I hope this works out for everyone.
• United States
1 Nov 16
Awww is there any way to keep him in your home ? Those places are sooooo bad . . .
• United States
1 Nov 16
i bet 'tis gonna seem a bit strange, not havin' him there with ya, hon. but, ones gotta respect their wishes. i so love that quilt ya share. perhaps one day i'll tackle those triangle thingies...once i figure jest regular ol' bindin' :) big hugs to ya!!
@SIMPLYD (83313)
• Philippines
31 Oct 16
Maybe your father thinks he is getting to be a burden to both of you with him staying at your house so he just wants to be in a retirement residence .
@Corbin5 (116602)
• United States
31 Oct 16
I do hope the retirement residence works out for your dad. So glad the move was his decision. My dad lived in a retirement residence for 5 years, and he did do well there. He is now in a nursing home 3 minutes from all family, and wants to return to his retirement residence, but at age 95, the residence is not staffed for his medical needs.
@paigea (22484)
• Canada
31 Oct 16
I hope the retirement home suits him. There are good places but it seems so hard to find the right place doesn't it?
@ms1864 (6975)
• Bangalore, India
31 Oct 16
well if he is happy with his decision....i guess we should be happy for him.
@rebelann (42843)
• El Paso, Texas
31 Oct 16
At least you did not put him there so you are free of the guilt. I hope all is well with you and hopefully you won't be too worried about him as he becomes accustomed to his choice. It won't surprise me if you find him asking to move back in.
@CRK109 (14410)
• United States
31 Oct 16
I hope things work out well for your father. I often wonder what will become of me when I'm older since there is no one to care for me.