Who I am to judge?

By Bhem
@JustBhem (20592)
Davao, Philippines
November 16, 2016 8:49pm CST
I was furious one time when our youngest brother didn't come home for two days. We thought he was on the mountain for a summer climb, but he usually asks permission from us. Until one time. He came home like nothing had happened. He took some of his stuff and went to school and because he knows I will ask him, he left in a hurry and left his phone. As a curious sister, I checked his phone and there, we found out where he stayed. Only recently we found out that he is now staying or rather living in with his partner who is a transgender. He doesn't want to tell us about this at first because he was ashamed. My brother is only 21 years old and still in his High School year and his partner is 25. In a world of today. I know some people will not agree about this kind of relationship and who I am to judge them. As long as my brother is okay with that, I will support him. What can you say about this?
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@Raine38 (8987)
• United States
17 Nov 16
As long as the relationship is not hindering him from finishing his studies, or affecting his relationship with his family and friends then he should do what will make him happy. He may be younger but he is old enough to know right from wrong, and to be honest I don't think he is doing something wrong. Hopefully he opens up to his family about his situation, it is not nice to alienate other loved ones that way. By the end of the day, he is still your brother, he is still family.
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@JustBhem (20592)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Nov 16
Yes. He promised us he will continue his studies which is good. He don't like to talk about it at first and he open up this to us. We agreed and understand him. Thanks.
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• United States
17 Nov 16
As long as he's safe & happy with his life it's okay. He probably doesn't but want people and family to judge him or not ready to open up
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@JustBhem (20592)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Nov 16
At first he was but later on he talks about it which is kinda good and a little bit awkward.
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• United States
17 Nov 16
@JustBhem that's good he is opening up to you all :) even though it can be uneasy at first for both , it's best to be comforting and accepting so he can tell you his whereabouts
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@JustBhem (20592)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Nov 16
@infatuatedbby We need to accept it, after all we are family.
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@magallon (17126)
• Philippines
17 Nov 16
I think your brother needs guidance or advice...
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@JustBhem (20592)
• Davao, Philippines
18 Nov 16
We surely do that. Thanks.
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@magallon (17126)
• Philippines
20 Nov 16
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@Happy2BeMe (66815)
• Canada
17 Nov 16
As long as he is happy then you should be happy for him.
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@JustBhem (20592)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Nov 16
I am and as long as he will continue his studies.
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@Happy2BeMe (66815)
• Canada
17 Nov 16
@JustBhem Yes that is very important too!
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@just4him (89060)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
25 Nov
I do not judge other people's lifestyles.
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@JustBhem (20592)
• Davao, Philippines
25 Nov
Same here, if that's their choice then be it. It's their life after all.
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@epiffanie (8343)
• Australia
20 Nov 16
If he is 21, it's his choice and none of our business .. As long as they are comfortable who they are with, who are we to judge? ..
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@JustBhem (20592)
• Davao, Philippines
22 Nov
I agree more.
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@Lucky15 (33714)
• Philippines
17 Nov 16
you love him dearly and i might do the same thing, support his choice :)
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@JustBhem (20592)
• Davao, Philippines
18 Nov 16
Yes I do. Thanks.
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@ms1864 (6969)
• Bangalore, India
17 Nov 16
you are a good sister. I would have done the same.
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@JustBhem (20592)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Nov 16
Thanks. I am very understanding when it comes to my brother's relationship.
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@stbrians (11838)
• Kakamega, Kenya
27 Nov
He Is Above 18 And A Kid No More. He Needs Guidance Though