Can People Really Change?
@JonathanNash (121)
Thailand
December 7, 2016 4:40pm CST
We have all heard time and time again that people never change. Lately I have gone through a very emotional time in my life. I found myself always demanding attention from my wife and as a result of this we are now living in different countries. I have always been stuck in my mindset and only after she left was I willing to look at myself to find if the problem was with me. After many nights without sleep I decided to look at some self help videos. I never knew just how wrong I was in the way I was thinking and feeling. Now my relationship with my wife is hopefully on the mend and we are talking and skyping daily. I would like to hear from anyone who has gone through something like this.
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@Kandae11 (53692)
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7 Dec 16
Well they say 'it takes two to tango' but you are accepting full responsibility for the rift in your marriage, that is the first step toward healing. Some folk don't get a second chance ,so I am happy that you and your wife are on the path to reconciliation.
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@therealmaryyy (3162)
• Philippines
7 Dec 16
Change is the only constant in life. I do believe that people have the choice to change- either change for the good or for the better. :)
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@JonathanNash (121)
• Thailand
7 Dec 16
I wished many other people thought like you.
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@carebear29 (31961)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
8 Dec 16
My marriage is good example of this one. We have gone through separations and such and I keep taking him back because he said he will change and when I do its the same story over and over.
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@carebear29 (31961)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
8 Dec 16
@JonathanNash Very true. Just don't make her stear from you for any reason
@JonathanNash (121)
• Thailand
8 Dec 16
I hope my wife don't think the same about me. I have made many changes in my mindset and just want to be the best husband I can be.
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@Harriet1993 (102)
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8 Dec 16
I am not married so I probably have no merit at all commenting on this but I really do hope things work out with your wife. Everyone deserves to be happy and loved x
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@digicashceo (41)
• Norfolk, Virginia
7 Dec 16
I have gone through something similar a long time ago. It seems that when two people, such as a husband and wife, live together small things can turn into large fights. Often we rarely fault ourselves. Partly because as human beings we tend to think that "it CANNOT be ME". The other reason being we are on the INSIDE looking INSIDE. But when that person leaves us we are able to spend a great amount of time introspectively looking into oneself. Through self examination we often find that our behavior partly contributed to the break up. As long as people are alive and thinking, they can change for the better. They just have to be willing. Most relationships can be saved.
@digicashceo (41)
• Norfolk, Virginia
9 Dec 16
@JonathanNash You are very welcome and that is very true. Anything worthwhile is not easy. If that was so we wouldn't grow as human beings. A muscle becomes stronger under stress. Diamonds are formed by unimaginable pressure. The same with us.
@JonathanNash (121)
• Thailand
7 Dec 16
Very wise words and thank you for sharing them with me. The road to happiness is not easy
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@JonathanNash (121)
• Thailand
8 Dec 16
Slowly but its seems to be getting there
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@annastasiaaaaaa (727)
• Philippines
10 Dec 16
I think change is inevitable and it's a constant thing in this world. Change could mean so many things too. Good changes and bad changes, yes. But in you case, I hope your love for each other won't change. Seriously. All the best!
@nerdy_nerd (71)
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9 Dec 16
As they say..... Change is the essence of life..... people do change with time.....at least that's what I believe.... And yeah I have changed in the last two years..... I was very emotional and weak and was not in a position to handle even slightest things...but now...I became stronger......
@erictsuma (9726)
• Mombasa, Kenya
2 Mar 21
Yes people can change if they are willing to change for the better.
