should we tell our partener abt our first love

India
September 8, 2006 1:51am CST
should we tell abt our first love to our would be life partener.i am confuse coz i think i should not.he cant accept it what should i do.but soul say i should tell coz relations base should b strong
139 responses
@ngchunyi (130)
• Canada
24 Dec 06
well yes, i am a believer of being completely honestly to my partner
@siva12 (800)
• India
22 Dec 06
We can't give guarantee for our honesty. If we can believe the partner that she/he loves us very much then we can tell. It totally depends on their nature.
@natuser28 (907)
• United States
22 Dec 06
Your partner doesn't care, even if they do want to know about your personal life. In the beginning it all about selfishness then later on, feelings develop.
@emmet18 (1116)
• Romania
21 Dec 06
You probably should tell him about your first lover. And if he relly cares about you than he will not say anything att all.
• Malaysia
11 Dec 06
thats not a good idea man
@zarden (107)
• Philippines
11 Dec 06
yeah i think so, sometimes we really need to share something from our past so that you could really try to get to know each other very much.
• India
11 Dec 06
yes i think if necessary then you should tell your parents about your first love. i think one day they wiil undesrstand dyour feelings . truth makes life strong and beautiful .
@code_11 (902)
• Nigeria
29 Sep 06
its cool to do however the timing most be right to aviod issues arising from it.
• India
29 Sep 06
if u know the person somewat..he should understand u..so then tellin it is no prob...but then some ppl justcant accept such things ..in such cases just forget abt the topic...
@marsha001 (675)
• India
29 Sep 06
if you do not tell him now and he comes to know about your first love after marriage,have you thought of the consequences?
@Draxx76 (27)
• Namibia
29 Sep 06
That depends whether or not one has ever gotten over your first love. In my case I still love her as strongly as ever and do not want my current partner to feel that she's second best and so I dont talk about it.
@missyc (103)
29 Sep 06
for what reason??? your first love was your past and this new person is your future. and ask your self would it make your relationship stronger or will it come between what could have bloosemed into something wonderful because the other person couldnt handle what you have told them and think they have to live up the expectations of your first love. there is no need to tell them anything. the relationship will be strong if you are faithful to each other and honest!!!! but your past love has nothing to do with your futher love.
• United States
29 Sep 06
no I feel that ones past should be left in the past and put behind you
• Jordan
18 Sep 06
i think we should,if he didnt ecxept thats his problem&think it should not be any secret between partner,but you know wht? it depends of the way you tell him that,watch your voice tone:-)
• Indonesia
18 Sep 06
yes u should, cause trust is the foundation of your relationship!.. if you lie once, you will be get another liying..
17 Sep 06
yaa sure.. it won b succesful sory if u wouldnt...
@MINDY0882 (2304)
• United States
17 Sep 06
I havent I think it would just cause problems and why should that matter , that was the past this is the future.I havent asked him about his either..
• India
16 Sep 06
ya..if u think she/he can bear tht
@hotmale (810)
• Pakistan
16 Sep 06
it goes this way that,the longer u wait,the longer u suffer and in such a case if u spend a lot of time just thinking about it,(it may be in years)and when u say it u get a negative response, then waht u gonna do?
• India
16 Sep 06
Why not? what is the harm in telling the truth? It is always better when things r cleared between two concerned people.If he cant accept it thats his problem he has to learn to accept facts & honor ur openness.