Why the horse is happy as a clam right now!

@TheHorse (67110)
Pleasant Hill, California
December 12, 2016 5:14pm CST
In a previous post, I mentioned a child I recently met in the little kid room at the preschool in Berkeley where I sometimes volunteer and sometimes substitute teach. He's 2 1/2 and seemed to have a touch of expressive aphasia. That's fancy psych terminology for "The kid don't talk." Today, I got a call at 8:45 from one of my co-workers there, asking me if I could sub in the older kid room from 10 AM to 1:30 PM. I said yes. I worked mostly with the big kids, but when we were joined outside by the little guys, I noticed my new friend with his jacket on his head upside down. He was trying to put it on. When his face appeared, I was there. I said, "Do you want me to help you with you jacket" He shook his head "no." After he struggled a bit more, with his right arm in the left arm of the jacked, I said, "Can I help you a little bit? I'm really good at this." He nodded his head "yes." When I got his left arm in the left sleeve, I said, "Shall we do your other sleeve together now?" He said "ken," which is Hebrew for "yes," clear as day. When we got the other arm in, I said, "Are you comfortable now?" He nodded "yes." I was already smiling to myself. Then he said, again clear as day, and in English, "Zip it up." I said, "I'll zip it up half way, and you do the rest." He smiled and zipped it up all the way. I said "You're ready to go!" and walked away. I didn't want to overwhelm him. He smiled again and toddled off to find his young friends. I have two hypotheses: 1) Little kids like using language the most when you're collaborating on a project with them; 2) The fact that he understands both Hebrew and English might make things a bit confusing for him when it comes to using expressive language, since he's not sure which language to use. (But knowing two languages will be helpful to him in the long-term.) I'm going to have to do some further research and learn what language he mostly hears at home. I've never spoken with his parents. Now you know what it takes to put The Horse in a good mood!
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@blitzfrick (2912)
• United States
13 Dec 16
Fantastic! What a golden moment. Good job
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@TheHorse (67110)
• Pleasant Hill, California
15 Dec 16
I had fun with him yesterday. He didn't talk much, but he's obviously pretty attached to me.
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@vandana7 (66110)
• India
15 Dec 16
@TheHorse .. You do it with great style...that is what is worth noticing...half zip indeed...I have always scolded kiddos..whenever they are not wearing clothes right...I am learning...but most of the time they can't be bothered wearing clothes right.
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@TheHorse (67110)
• Pleasant Hill, California
15 Dec 16
@vandana7 Three-, four- and five-year-olds have their own sense of style. Flowered pink shorts, a striped purple shirt, and cowboy boots are not uncommon.
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@Morleyhunt (19856)
• Canada
13 Dec 16
Happy to hear about some progress. My parents spoke Dutch at home....the older children were speaking English at school and to each other. The youngest (at that time) was not learning to talk. The doctor recommended only using one language ....after that only English was spoken at home. I'm glad I'm one of the older children and understand and speak two languages.
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@TheHorse (67110)
• Pleasant Hill, California
13 Dec 16
Interesting. I wonder if others have had similar experiences. I wish I knew two languages well.
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@SIMPLYD (80362)
• Philippines
13 Dec 16
You are fond of kids , that's obvious . Do you have kids ?
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@TheHorse (67110)
• Pleasant Hill, California
13 Dec 16
Snotty little brats around my speakers and guitars? I'd have to send them to Fagin to put them to good use.
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@SIMPLYD (80362)
• Philippines
13 Dec 16
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@TheHorse (67110)
• Pleasant Hill, California
13 Dec 16
@SIMPLYD I'd send them out to plant snow peas all over the Bay Area.
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@JudyEv (126362)
• Bunbury, Australia
13 Dec 16
It's small things, isn't it? (that put you in a good mood)
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@TheHorse (67110)
• Pleasant Hill, California
13 Dec 16
It really is. It's the small accomplishments relevant to what's important to you.
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@JudyEv (126362)
• Bunbury, Australia
13 Dec 16
@TheHorse Of course, for the child, and you in a roundabout way, it's not a small thing at all. It's quite huge - but some people would not be able to see just how satisfying it is.
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@TheHorse (67110)
• Pleasant Hill, California
13 Dec 16
@JudyEv That's very true. I'm sure each of us has those immensely satisfying moments that others wouldn't understand.
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@Hannihar (38176)
10 May
@TheHorse You made a real breakthrough with him. That is a good idea to find out what language they speak at home.
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@TheHorse (67110)
• Pleasant Hill, California
10 May
Yes! He's speaking in sentences now. Next year, I'll be his teacher again.
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@Hannihar (38176)
11 May
@TheHorse That is great news that he is speaking in sentences right now and that you will be his teacher. By the way what language do they speak to him at home?
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@TheHorse (67110)
• Pleasant Hill, California
11 May
@Hannihar English. They know very little Hebrew, though they are learning (like me).
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@Jessicalynnt (47895)
• Centralia, Missouri
13 Dec 16
that knowledge could help his teachers too, maybe he needs to hear things both ways
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@TheHorse (67110)
• Pleasant Hill, California
13 Dec 16
I learned from my Director (and friend) that his parents speak mostly (or only) English at home. Maybe all the Hebrew spoken at the preschool confuses him. I'm going to check in with the other teachers and find out whether he's started using some spoken language with them as well.
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• Centralia, Missouri
13 Dec 16
@TheHorse or maybe those he plays with, they prob hear more words, if you can get them to remember that is.
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@TheHorse (67110)
• Pleasant Hill, California
13 Dec 16
@Jessicalynnt I think I might be working with the littlies tomorrow. We'll see what happens.
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@Jackalyn (6651)
• Oxford, England
15 Dec 16
I once worked with a boy who simply stopped speaking at the age of 9. It went on a long time. Then one day he just did. Nobody seemed to know why.
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@TheHorse (67110)
• Pleasant Hill, California
15 Dec 16
Fascinating! I wonder what fancy terms the psychologists used to describe this one. There should be whole DSM chapter (perhaps there is) for disorders whose real name is "Hell if I know."
@Jackalyn (6651)
• Oxford, England
15 Dec 16
@TheHorse I agree. I have seen some strange thingsat times.
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@TheHorse (67110)
• Pleasant Hill, California
15 Dec 16
@Jackalyn I think about 60% of ADHD cases are really just cases of "he is a boy."
@akalinus (17510)
• United States
13 Dec 16
That is a great story and a great discovery. Glad you are happy, you deserve to be.
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@TheHorse (67110)
• Pleasant Hill, California
13 Dec 16
I think I'll be there again Thursday. I look forward to seeing this sprout again.
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@akalinus (17510)
• United States
14 Dec 16
@TheHorse I can tell you really love those kids. I think it's great.
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@TheHorse (67110)
• Pleasant Hill, California
20 May
@akalinus It's a year and a half later and he's speaking to me in complete sentences now. You can still tell he has some expressive language issues, but he's making great strides.
@Platespinner (16782)
• Winston Salem, North Carolina
12 Dec 16
I don't think having using two languages is confusing for the child, only to anyone listening who only knows one of the languages. I was in highschool Home Ec before I knew the English names for many common kitchen tools.
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@TheHorse (67110)
• Pleasant Hill, California
13 Dec 16
Where were you from?
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• Winston Salem, North Carolina
13 Dec 16
@TheHorse I was born and raised in Canada, but my parents were both from the Netherlands. My Mom never really mastered English and generally spoke a mix of the two.
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@TheHorse (67110)
• Pleasant Hill, California
20 May
@Platespinner Interesting. I missed this. My young neighbor friend's mom is from Germany and Croatia. Her English is sketchy, but her son's is excellent.
@LadyDuck (163607)
• Switzerland
13 Dec 16
You put a smile on my fave and I needed a good news like this in this cold and foggy day. Congratulations, you are doing a great job with those kids.
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@TheHorse (67110)
• Pleasant Hill, California
13 Dec 16
We must have given you our weather.
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@LadyDuck (163607)
• Switzerland
14 Dec 16
@TheHorse We went to Italy because it was my Mom birthday (96), I did not want to miss to celebrate with her. We got fog all along the road, 90 miles of fog. We came back home pretty stressed.
@vandana7 (66110)
• India
15 Dec 16
About that language thing I noticed my prince charming likes to talk to me in English as if he and me are a team vs..his little sister and he kinda identifies English as a language of grown ups so it is pretty much a way to tell the little one ...look sweetie..I am older than you even if the difference is just about 2 years..lol. When she is not around he slips back into his mother tongue...
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@TheHorse (67110)
• Pleasant Hill, California
15 Dec 16
Kids have their ways of showing that they're "bigger."
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@PainsOnSlate (20335)
• Canada
14 Dec 16
I love that you love children and working with them. I think you must be really good at what you do and you enjoy it too... Life is good for you and the kids.
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@TheHorse (67110)
• Pleasant Hill, California
15 Dec 16
It's pretty rewarded. And the littlies are so darned cute.
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@nanette64 (17696)
• Fairfield, Texas
13 Dec 16
Maybe it's time to learn a little Hebrew @TheHorse .
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@TheHorse (67110)
• Pleasant Hill, California
13 Dec 16
Ken. Todah rabah.
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@teamfreak16 (41175)
• Colorado Springs, Colorado
13 Dec 16
That's cool that he trusts you enough to actually say something.
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@TheHorse (67110)
• Pleasant Hill, California
13 Dec 16
It really is. I hope his expressive vocabulary keeps growing. I may get to see him tomorrow.
@ms1864 (6977)
• Bangalore, India
13 Dec 16
I don't know why...but hearing this makes me really happy.
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@TheHorse (67110)
• Pleasant Hill, California
14 Dec 16
Me too! I just got asked to come in tomorrow, so I hope this kid is there.
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• United States
13 Dec 16
i'm doin' the happy dance with ya! what a treat to get to work with so many youngsters with vast cultural diff'rences - both 't the school 'n also those client young'uns.
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@TheHorse (67110)
• Pleasant Hill, California
13 Dec 16
It really makes it interesting. I hope to learn more about this sprout over the next week or two.
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@amadeo (67749)
• United States
12 Dec 16
I am glad that is not the foot in your mouth. working around children .you should be in a good mood most of the time
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@TheHorse (67110)
• Pleasant Hill, California
13 Dec 16
Do clams have feet? Yep, being around the sprouts usually puts me in a good mood.