Remember the moments
December 20, 2016 10:24am CST
Take a moment to, well, remember the good moments today. I keep saying this year was rough, because it was, for many of us. I know some experienced various losses. I had a dog die. My marriage finally died. That last thing, though, was for the best. I tried. I really did. But he wasn't the best person, had anger issues that were taken out on me often. I stuck with it, even though if I had someone else facing that level of abuse I myself would have told them to walk. Where am I going with this? This morning I was digging through all my old posts, looking for poems for that book I am slowly working on. I could see how much I tried this year. I gave it my best shot. But he chose to cheat, and he chose the ending. I think I said he had plans to save money and basically give it to me and tell me to move on out. I had no idea. I knew we were struggling, and later I knew he thought we were prob not going to make it, but I hadn't given up. I was killing myself trying to fix things. I know now the reason was, that he had all these plans that didn't involve me. I did warn his sidepiece of his temper and abuse, only because she has kids. Didn't need that on my conscious. Anyways, again, I rabbit trail here. I got sad this AM, seeing how hard I tried and how little it mattered....but here is where I was wrong. It did matter. To me. Those moments were, are, super important. I can look back and know I tried. This was not my fault. I didn't give up. I didn't cheat, or lie. I tried. I can now do my best to move on, in a life I am, to be honest, much much happier in. I can remind myself that I didn't fail. That it takes two. That the things I learned about myself make me a better person, and I can take those moments on and live better. So remember the good moments with me today, even if those good moments are small ones, like the smell of your coffee fresh this morning. There will be plenty of bad moments wanting to drag us back down, back into them. Say no! Find that good moment and hold on tight. “You need to spend time crawling alone through shadows to truly appreciate what it is to stand in the sun.” - Shaun Hick
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This is a good attitude, we can better appreciate the good moments if we have lived difficult and hard times. I had better years than this leap year, but I also had other years when I have lost people I loved and I encountered problems and difficulties. Anyway, every day has good moments, as you say, at least the smell of my coffee in the morning and the quiet moment watching a movie with my husband before going to sleep.
• Centralia, Missouri
in oct I caught my soon to be x cheating on me. I have proof, there was no question. The woman in question was someone I thought was a friend. Apparently not. I quit, and moved back north to be closer to my family, moved in with a dear friend. that help?
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
I love that quote. Yes, you have come a long way this year. You had struggles that I wouldn't wish on anyone. But you came through. You are a winner not a failure. You are a strong woman and you stand in the sun. You don't crawl along alone in the shadows, even if you need to in order to stand tall. Those times are behind you. Forward into your future now.
• United States
All things considered I had a great year, just like many others I've had and many more to come. I had two, or maybe three, different lives - first marriage, single life and this marriage. Things change, we move on and eventually things settle down. Many have been where you are, myself included. But it isn't the end of the world, it's a new beginning.
• Preston, England
He chose 'his ending' - he gave you a fresh beginning. Your story has so much more ahead of you. Great that you warned the other woman. From there on in, it is up to her - you have nothing to blame yourself for in any of this. Sometimes it really doesn't take two - the loss is all his.
It's inspiring. I have rough times too. I get disappointed in life too not everything goes well as I want to. I just pray a lot for God to help me survive and not concentrate on bad things that are happening but be positive and remember the good moments I have this year 2016
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
My heart actually hurt for you when you when you felt so hopeless. I had been there and I knew how it felt. But the good that came from my break up? Becky! She is the most wonderful person, man or woman, that I ever met. Not only that, for some crazy reason, she loves me. I'm tell you gal, all the hurt I suffered was worth it to end up with Becky. She makes me happier than a kitten following a leaky cow.
• Boise, Idaho
He sounds like an utter jerk. Sure glad you hadn't invested more time in him. Real nice to make all these plans that didn't even include you. What a jerk! Karma will get him. We can't really enjoy the positive without knowing and evaluating the negative side of things.