Remember the moments

Centralia, Missouri
December 20, 2016 10:24am CST
Take a moment to, well, remember the good moments today. I keep saying this year was rough, because it was, for many of us. I know some experienced various losses. I had a dog die. My marriage finally died. That last thing, though, was for the best. I tried. I really did. But he wasn't the best person, had anger issues that were taken out on me often. I stuck with it, even though if I had someone else facing that level of abuse I myself would have told them to walk. Where am I going with this? This morning I was digging through all my old posts, looking for poems for that book I am slowly working on. I could see how much I tried this year. I gave it my best shot. But he chose to cheat, and he chose the ending. I think I said he had plans to save money and basically give it to me and tell me to move on out. I had no idea. I knew we were struggling, and later I knew he thought we were prob not going to make it, but I hadn't given up. I was killing myself trying to fix things. I know now the reason was, that he had all these plans that didn't involve me. I did warn his sidepiece of his temper and abuse, only because she has kids. Didn't need that on my conscious. Anyways, again, I rabbit trail here. I got sad this AM, seeing how hard I tried and how little it mattered....but here is where I was wrong. It did matter. To me. Those moments were, are, super important. I can look back and know I tried. This was not my fault. I didn't give up. I didn't cheat, or lie. I tried. I can now do my best to move on, in a life I am, to be honest, much much happier in. I can remind myself that I didn't fail. That it takes two. That the things I learned about myself make me a better person, and I can take those moments on and live better. So remember the good moments with me today, even if those good moments are small ones, like the smell of your coffee fresh this morning. There will be plenty of bad moments wanting to drag us back down, back into them. Say no! Find that good moment and hold on tight. “You need to spend time crawling alone through shadows to truly appreciate what it is to stand in the sun.” - Shaun Hick
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@LadyDuck (118253)
• Switzerland
20 Dec
This is a good attitude, we can better appreciate the good moments if we have lived difficult and hard times. I had better years than this leap year, but I also had other years when I have lost people I loved and I encountered problems and difficulties. Anyway, every day has good moments, as you say, at least the smell of my coffee in the morning and the quiet moment watching a movie with my husband before going to sleep.
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@vandana7 (57187)
• India
20 Dec
Wow...smell of coffee..:) Nice way to begin counting blessings. :)
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• Centralia, Missouri
20 Dec
I myself would rather have a moment with some tea, but same deal! lol
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@LadyDuck (118253)
• Switzerland
21 Dec
@vandana7 If I have no coffee in the morning I cannot function.
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@Corbin5 (78536)
• United States
20 Dec
Yes, you should endorse yourself for the effort you put forth. It is true, the tiniest things in life that are positive are worth taking note of.
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• Centralia, Missouri
20 Dec
right now I am going to be glad for the nap I am about to take
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@Corbin5 (78536)
• United States
20 Dec
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• New Delhi, India
20 Dec
Even I have many blessings this year...thank God
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• Centralia, Missouri
20 Dec
indeed so.
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• New Delhi, India
21 Dec
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@valmnz (12573)
• New Zealand
20 Dec
With an attitude like yours, you can't help but be a winner in life. I admire you for both moving on and for sharing with us. I obviously missed a lot on here during my absence.
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• Centralia, Missouri
21 Dec
in oct I caught my soon to be x cheating on me. I have proof, there was no question. The woman in question was someone I thought was a friend. Apparently not. I quit, and moved back north to be closer to my family, moved in with a dear friend. that help?
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@valmnz (12573)
• New Zealand
21 Dec
@Jessicalynnt no explanation was needed, but thanks anyway
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• Centralia, Missouri
21 Dec
@valmnz it helps things make more sense. it was a rough time, still is, but I really am happier and in a better place. Will be even happier when everything is finalized and I don't have to deal with him anymore.
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@just4him (88973)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
21 Dec
I love that quote. Yes, you have come a long way this year. You had struggles that I wouldn't wish on anyone. But you came through. You are a winner not a failure. You are a strong woman and you stand in the sun. You don't crawl along alone in the shadows, even if you need to in order to stand tall. Those times are behind you. Forward into your future now.
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• Centralia, Missouri
21 Dec
I needed a good quote to finish this off, and found that one. Sometimes I find myself crawling without even realizing, and have to stand back up again
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@just4him (88973)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
21 Dec
@Jessicalynnt I think we're all like that.
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• United States
20 Dec
All things considered I had a great year, just like many others I've had and many more to come. I had two, or maybe three, different lives - first marriage, single life and this marriage. Things change, we move on and eventually things settle down. Many have been where you are, myself included. But it isn't the end of the world, it's a new beginning.
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• Centralia, Missouri
20 Dec
I keep reminding myself, and a few others recently of that, it's not a failure, it's simply a chapter ending and a new and apparently better one, beginning
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• United States
20 Dec
@Jessicalynnt better is the operative word!!!
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• Preston, England
20 Dec
He chose 'his ending' - he gave you a fresh beginning. Your story has so much more ahead of you. Great that you warned the other woman. From there on in, it is up to her - you have nothing to blame yourself for in any of this. Sometimes it really doesn't take two - the loss is all his.
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• Centralia, Missouri
20 Dec
you know, I think you are right. I'm much much better off now, and in a better, safer place, one I wouldn't have gotten too if he hadn't done the things he had done.
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@DianneN (57241)
• United States
20 Dec
You have the right attitude and that's the best thing you can have. Close this door and a new one will open.
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• Centralia, Missouri
21 Dec
I wish it was closed,but until the divorce is finalized and I am rid of the truck, I get to keep on dealing with him now and then
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@DianneN (57241)
• United States
21 Dec
@Jessicalynnt That sux, but think positive thoughts.
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• Eugene, Oregon
20 Dec
This is very true and a good reminder as well.
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• Centralia, Missouri
20 Dec
trying to find some positive
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• Eugene, Oregon
22 Dec
@Jessicalynnt Sometimes that is all we can do.
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@vandana7 (57187)
• India
20 Dec
Ability to look at the situation dispassionately helps and you seem to be doing that. Good for you. You are on path to recovering for sure and better future awaits you...hugs..love..tc
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• Centralia, Missouri
20 Dec
I am not always as calm about it, sometimes it still really get's to me.
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@vandana7 (57187)
• India
20 Dec
@Jessicalynnt ... Hang in...time is the best healer.
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@Tampa_girl7 (21241)
• United States
21 Dec
Good for you. Keep your chin up and keep thinking positive.
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• Centralia, Missouri
22 Dec
I try, some days are harder than others
@Bluedoll (17055)
• Canada
21 Dec
No one knows what tomorrow will bring and in it there may be some happiness.
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• Centralia, Missouri
21 Dec
today apparetnly is a fight off a migraine day, so hopefully it will, or tomorrow will, be better
@LoriAMoore (9604)
• United States
20 Dec
Stay happy!
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• Centralia, Missouri
21 Dec
I am trying!!
@averygirl72 (12419)
• Philippines
21 Dec
It's inspiring. I have rough times too. I get disappointed in life too not everything goes well as I want to. I just pray a lot for God to help me survive and not concentrate on bad things that are happening but be positive and remember the good moments I have this year 2016
@UncleJoe (8069)
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
21 Dec
My heart actually hurt for you when you when you felt so hopeless. I had been there and I knew how it felt. But the good that came from my break up? Becky! She is the most wonderful person, man or woman, that I ever met. Not only that, for some crazy reason, she loves me. I'm tell you gal, all the hurt I suffered was worth it to end up with Becky. She makes me happier than a kitten following a leaky cow.
@JudyEv (96613)
• Bunbury, Australia
21 Dec
Lovely post. I can remember your posts about how you were trying to do or be this or that to try to make things better. I am so pleased you are in a better place now.
@celticeagle (114155)
• Boise, Idaho
21 Dec
He sounds like an utter jerk. Sure glad you hadn't invested more time in him. Real nice to make all these plans that didn't even include you. What a jerk! Karma will get him. We can't really enjoy the positive without knowing and evaluating the negative side of things.