For the moms (parents), before you had kids, did you think you'd be a bad parent so you didn't want to have kids?
By Artgirl
@owstalaga (4707)
Philippines
December 24, 2016 9:34am CST
I don't know if it's just me but I am thinking if I get to have kids I don't think I'd be a good mom. 
I might leave them to be raised by their dad or something. I don't think I'm ever gonna be ready to be a parent yet but who knows, right?
So for the moms (parents) out there, did you ever think the way I did? I mean, how can you raise kids if you can't even live well enough on your own right? Or did having kids push you into earning more money than you usually would when you were single? Did you ever think you'd fail at it?
Or maybe you married a rich guy (or someone who's earning well at least) and spent most days at home taking care of the kids?
How do you survive after having kids?
I might leave them to be raised by their dad or something. I don't think I'm ever gonna be ready to be a parent yet but who knows, right?
So for the moms (parents) out there, did you ever think the way I did? I mean, how can you raise kids if you can't even live well enough on your own right? Or did having kids push you into earning more money than you usually would when you were single? Did you ever think you'd fail at it?
Or maybe you married a rich guy (or someone who's earning well at least) and spent most days at home taking care of the kids?
How do you survive after having kids?7 people like this
7 responses
@brokenbee (11090)
• Philippines
23 Jan 17
I am thinking about that, too, I might not be a good mother. Hmmmm!
And I am not so patient with kids. I just don't know if that will change once I will have my own.
I am afraid of responsibilities. I don't want my kids to suffer, if ever.
But I am a good furparent to kittens. Ahihihihi
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@Beatburn (4287)
• Philippines
24 Jan 17
@brokenbee Mylot should make animal emojis.
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@brokenbee (11090)
• Philippines
24 Jan 17
@Beatburn Waaaahaha I love kittens. Hihihi
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
1 Jan 17
I've always known that I will be a good mom.. But can't always be sure whether the man I marry would be a good Dad .. He sure was a very good provider but he very abusive .. So I made the most difficult decision to become the father and the mother to my sons by divorcing him ..So I am actually a good father too ..lol..
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@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
15 Jan 17
Oh I see, sorry to hear that. So having kids must have pushed you to have to earn more than the usual huh being a single mom...
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
16 Jan 17
@owstalaga Yes but I survived it all .. things are all good now 
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
30 Jan 17
@epiffanie That is my worry too. How the Dad would be? I will leave him in a heartbeat for my kiddies. No matter how much I loved him.
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@Beatburn (4287)
• Philippines
23 Jan 17
If you're ready to make sacrifices, give up some liberties, then you are ready. It's a lifetime commitment.
The rewards though are great. You will feel like you don't live just for yourself.
There are others who choose not to have children. They have their reasons and I respect them.
@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
30 Jan 17
No, I don't think so. I don't have any kids ...yet. I worry more about whether I would be able to give them good upbringing. I don't worry about being a bad Mom. I know I will learn as I go. We all will.
@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
8 Jul 17
Awww that's a nice thought. Yeah that's what I was thinking if I can raise a kid well and thus be a good mom for them.
@melissawolsen (9)
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24 Dec 16
well, your already in the 1st step to become a good mother. Knowing that you wont be a good mom is the step to become a better mommy!
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@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
25 Dec 16
Really now? Any additional words of advice then?
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