How to refuse someone?

I just say no. I feel like people make things a lot harder and more difficult than it needs to be. If you don't want to do something then just say no. It's not that hard. You should never be unhappy because you want to make others happy or like you. You also don't have to make up excuses or reasons on why you don't want to help them either. I am all for helping people but 1) you can't help people who don't want to help themselves 2) you can successfully help someone if you are happy, healthy, and helping yourself.

I'm willing to help people to a certain extent. Family especially...I've no known limits to what I would do for my family as yet. For other people I'd go to the level I feel is appropriate...beyond that I'd just say no and if they don't get it I'd put it across in more forceful terms

Yes...it is quite simple..come up with a believable lie.

for me its harder to refuse some one because what if its happend to me its hurts right?im welling to help somebody but think twice ,.talked to some one frankly thats one of helping somebody