Preschool update: My 2 1/2-year-old non-talker

@TheHorse (238398)
Walnut Creek, California
January 4, 2017 5:36pm CST
I think I enjoy my #3 job even more than my #1 and #2 jobs. I basically get paid to play with some delightful 2 1/2- through 5-year-olds at my friend's preschool. In a previous post, I mentioned a 2 1/2-year-old I recently met there who has expressive aphasia. Although his comprehension is fine, he won't talk. When he needs something, he gestures and grunts. He also knows the sign for "more." Of course, he made me curious, and I wanted to work with him as much as possible. As it turns out, he and I have become quite attached in only a few weeks. Being a man in a primarily female environment may give me an edge with him. Today, we made a wall out of magnet tiles, read some books together, did some puzzles, banged on my "kid guitar" together, and played outside. When I was taking pretend sips of pretend tea someone had made with sand, he did the same. He is far from autistic: his eye contact is good, he infers others' intent, he is very social, and he expresses distress when someone invades his space or when a favorite teacher has to leave the classroom. Today, with me, he was nodding "yes" and "no" clearly and appropriately, and also uttering some phrases that sounded like attempts to speak. I think I've heard him say "firetruck" (in reference to the firetrucks on his boots) and I also think he tried to say "It's over there," in reference to something he wanted. He may have also tried to say my name today, and let me know with clear gestures (one to his butt and the other toward the bathroom) when he wanted me to change his poopy diaper Needless to say, I'll be providing updates about this young fella. He's made my life more interesting.
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@vandana7 (102699)
• India
5 Jan 17
Aw Pony...you are so great with little kids I feel touched and in a way I envy you...that is the kind of set I would like to be with 24/7...life would be such a party! lol. Hope he does manage to come out of his shell...by the way I noticed "Being a man in a primarily female environment ..." I wonder if @DaddyEvil noticed that...
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@vandana7 (102699)
• India
5 Jan 17
@TheHorse ... SMH... I knew you would take it like that...SMH... I was teasing you..SMH..that is where DE and me are on same wavelength..lol.
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@TheHorse (238398)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Jan 17
@vandana7 Oh dear.
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@TheHorse (238398)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Jan 17
I've read a lot of gender-related research, but I still don't really know how much of a difference it makes being a man when you work with very young children.
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• United States
4 Jan 17
Aww he sure is progressing! I've never changed a diaper before
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@TheHorse (238398)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Jan 17
Changing diapers, and in particular poopy diapers, is not my specialty. But at some point a fella has to "man up" and do what has to be done.
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• United States
5 Jan 17
@TheHorse I am sure he trusts you to change his diaper so he flagged you down. :)
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@TheHorse (238398)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Jan 17
@infatuatedbby We're "in the zone" right now. So I'm his favorite adult playmate, favorite diaper changer, and favorite "conversationalist." I'm going to go out on a limb and say that he's going to be using expressive language within two months.
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@celticeagle (190127)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Jan 17
Intriguing. I wonder if some intense work can bring out some language from this little person. I hope so.
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@celticeagle (190127)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Jan 17
@TheHorse ......It may take some time but helping him to experience new words and how to use them in a sentence may be just what he needs.
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@TheHorse (238398)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Jan 17
I'm giving him some extra attention, and I hope I don't slight any other littlies. But all I'm doing right now is talking to him as if he were speaking to me using English words. If I ask him "open ended" questions, like "Which color magnet tile square would you like next?" he'll answer with a point, and I'll say, "Oh, the green one?" He'll nod his head, and we'll go from there. I think he's going to use spoken language when he's ready, and I think it will be soon.
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@TheHorse (238398)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Jan 17
@celticeagle Exactly. I think the best way to stimulate language development in children is simply to have conversations with them.
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
7 Jan 17
I hope you have the chance to get a good handle on what will help him!
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• Centralia, Missouri
14 Jan 17
@TheHorse how much older?
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@TheHorse (238398)
• Walnut Creek, California
14 Jan 17
@Jessicalynnt Oh, the 3 1/2-year-olds and above (up to five).
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@TheHorse (238398)
• Walnut Creek, California
13 Jan 17
I'll be working with him for the rest of the school year on Fridays. Tomorrow I'm with the older kids, though.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
4 Jan 17
He sounds like a very special kid.
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@TheHorse (238398)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Jan 17
I find him delightful. I'd love to take a picture of him, but I'm going to do the confidentiality thing for now. He's cute as a button, but a photo can't capture the joy of interacting with him.
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@TheHorse (238398)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Jan 17
@just4him It might show his expression when he sees me, which is pretty delightful. I hope I get to play with him on Friday. But I'm working with the "older" kids that day.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
5 Jan 17
@TheHorse No it wouldn't. It would only show how cute he is.
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@JudyEv (382693)
• Rockingham, Australia
5 Jan 17
I can imagine it is very interesting watching his progress even if it is somewhat slow.
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@TheHorse (238398)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Jan 17
The progress of our establishing a friendship has been remarkably fast. He lights up when he sees me and grabs my hand to take me over to what he's doing. He's started saying things that aren't grunts. I wonder if he'll be what I call a "cloud talker," which is one who says things that nobody understands which suddenly turn into complete sentences.
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@TheHorse (238398)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Jan 17
@JudyEv Tomorrow, I won't be working there. And I'm with the "big kids" on Friday. I hope I get a chance to interact with him on Friday.
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@JudyEv (382693)
• Rockingham, Australia
5 Jan 17
@TheHorse Establishing a relationship would be the first and most important thing. It is good getting updates about his progress.
@inertia4 (27978)
• United States
5 Jan 17
He certainly sounds like a very intelligent little child. Awesome. I think you will make lots of headway with him. He will begin to talk more and more as time goes on. Sometimes a child just needs to feel comfortable with someone they can trust in order to open up.
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@inertia4 (27978)
• United States
12 Jan 17
@TheHorse That is the best thing you can do. I am sure over time he will come around. Building his confidence is important.
@TheHorse (238398)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Jan 17
I hope he opens up and talks over time. I'll Just keep playing with him and talking to him for now.
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@DaddyEvil (174797)
• United States
11 Jan 17
One diaper at a time, it sounds like, pony! (grinning at you!) (You won't hold it against me if I decline to shake your hand, right? still grinning!) It does sound like he is beginning to respond to you paying attention to him... I wonder how much attention he receives from his dad? If any at all... *SMH!* You might be useful for something, after all, pony! (teasing you!)
• Midland, Michigan
13 Jan 17
Three jobs? I thought I had it rough with two, but my two are almost full-time, maybe yours are a bit less than that? It's great that you're able to help out at the school in this way. Maybe you'll be instrumental in helping this young man begin talking.
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@TheHorse (238398)
• Walnut Creek, California
13 Jan 17
I hope so! My three jobs are are all fun in one way or another, so I don't mind them. It adds up to having enough time to play a bit and sleep, but I'd rather be a workaholic than bored.
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• Eugene, Oregon
5 Jan 17
What a challenge for you and what a pleasure to have a chance to work with him.
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@TheHorse (238398)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Jan 17
He's a delight. My hunch is he'll be taking soon. But my role right now is just to continue making him feel safe and heard.
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• Eugene, Oregon
5 Jan 17
@TheHorse What a breakthrough that would be!
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
5 Jan 17
Sounds like you are getting through to him. I bet he will be talking before you know it. Kids do things on their own time.
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@TheHorse (238398)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Jan 17
They really do. If we expose them to all the right things (including a language-rich environment), then we know were doing the right things.
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
12 Jan 17
@TheHorse Absolutely
@teamfreak16 (43685)
• Denver, Colorado
5 Jan 17
Sounds like you are making great progress!
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@TheHorse (238398)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Jan 17
We're moving forward. I'm not working there tomorrow, and I'm working with the older group Friday. But I'll make a point of checking in with him on Friday.
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@Happy2BeMe (99353)
• Canada
5 Jan 17
That is so wonderful that you are making a difference in this child's life. It is nice to hear of his progress.
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@TheHorse (238398)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Jan 17
I hope MyLotters don't get tired of my updates! I'm pretty fired up about working with this little guy.
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@Happy2BeMe (99353)
• Canada
5 Jan 17
@TheHorse I am sure that they won't mind at all
@diosabella (4789)
13 Jan 17
Thank goodness there's someone like you to help him.
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@TheHorse (238398)
• Walnut Creek, California
13 Jan 17
I enjoy it. I just hope there's a long-term effect!
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13 Jan 17
@TheHorse There will be. He will always remember you. Your his bestfriend right now.