Treating People Poorly because You're Angry

By Jani
Susanville, California
January 16, 2017 12:29pm CST
I know I do this on occasion as well, even if it is not them that I am angry at. Anger is a hard emotion to control. It would be much better to try to walk away and get a handle on our anger than to hurt those around us because of this brief but passion filled emotion. I've seen people go on for days treating people poorly over something they did to make them angry. I just wonder what the benefit in all of this back and forth nonsense is when it goes on for that long. I've never held a grudge longer than maybe an hour, then I get over it and move on. Let's be happy now
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DianneN
@DianneN (246906)
• United States
17 Jan 17
Anger is an awful emotion. Some people really need to take an anger management class to get it under control.
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Jani
@jhechorain (1198)
• Susanville, California
17 Jan 17
A lot of people should do that but usually won't take the incentive.
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (53679)
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16 Jan 17
Have you noticed the appearance of people who are always angry and hold grudges? They look older than their years -- anger is aging.
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Jani
@jhechorain (1198)
• Susanville, California
16 Jan 17
Yes and unfortunately my mother was one of them
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Kandase
@Kandae11 (53679)
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16 Jan 17
@jhechorain Sorry about that.
Jo Ann
@akalinus (40440)
• United States
16 Jan 17
@jhechorain Sorry about that, it must have made for some tough times.
Carmela
@Carmelanirel2 (8084)
• United States
16 Jan 17
I'm famous for that, but mostly I direct my anger at the one who angered me, but sometimes I will let out a sharp comment at some poor innocent bystander, to which I then apologize to.
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Jani
@jhechorain (1198)
• Susanville, California
17 Jan 17
I tend to keep mostly calm thankfully. I just wonder if holding the anger is a good thing or not. I know like.. meditation or something would help but sometimes you just can't get away to do that when the anger arises.
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Carmela
@Carmelanirel2 (8084)
• United States
17 Jan 17
@jhechorain I think one should step back, but not hold it in. Finding a listening ear is helpful, but I sometimes can't find one.
Jo Ann
@akalinus (40440)
• United States
16 Jan 17
Controlling your tongue when you get angry is a hallmark of maturity. Just remember the hurt and damage you will have to attempt to repair when you are in a better mood. It is better to remember that others have feelings.
Jani
@jhechorain (1198)
• Susanville, California
16 Jan 17
I am pretty good about that. I sometimes wish the things I want to say when I'm angry would come back to me later in an easier, softer manner though. Some of it is not always so outlandish but I don't have the vocabulary when I'm angry to say it right.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (40440)
• United States
16 Jan 17
@jhechorain I understand that. Sometimes, it is better to wait.