Still Growing ....

@sueznewz2 (9720)
Alicante, Spain
January 31, 2017 5:58pm CST
I surprised myself today...  I was having a meal in a pub restaurant.., and ordered steak and chips... (sorry..don't  mean to offend any vegetarians out there), when the steak came and I started eating it,  it was as tough as old boots, I was very dissapointed, and was debating what to do... One of the british personality traits is ..., that we very rarely make official complaints, about food, or service, or people queue jumping and things like that. That's  not to say it doesn't  up set us, or ... that we do not complain to each other..., we do, but, we rarely actually complain to the offending party.... and, i'm the same, in many ways.  I am quite strong and assertive, especially at work, when standing up for the rights of the elderly, but, this is sadly lacking when it concerns, doing it for myself... But today ...., that changed, when the waiter came passed my table, I waived him down, of course, being british , I began by saying..., I'm sorry... Anyway, I went on to say, that I felt the steak, was tough, and that I was not satisfied  with the quality of my food,  there was  a momentary, earily silent, pause, and I was just wondering how to say I would like a replacement, I looked at the waiter for a few more  seconds and he said ..would you like another one ..? ( thank goodness, lol )  I had the feeling my resolve was about to dissolve ...lol I just thought i'd share this little victory, it may only be a small victory..., but you never know where these little steps lead... and that whatever age we are ...we can change...
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@amadeo (61699)
• United States
1 Feb 17
If I am not satisfy with any meal.I send it back.This is no offense.Plus it is your money and you want what is right for you.
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• United States
1 Feb 17
I do it when I can;t chew the steak.
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@sueznewz2 (9720)
• Alicante, Spain
1 Feb 17
I totally agree.. but this is the first time ive done it...
@sueznewz2 (9720)
• Alicante, Spain
1 Feb 17
@AbbyGreenhill. That's what my problem was today...
• United States
1 Feb 17
Why apologize for talking about steak?????
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@sueznewz2 (9720)
• Alicante, Spain
1 Feb 17
there you go @AbbyGreenhill there I go again...apologizing ...seems like I've still got to overcome something else ... lol
• United States
1 Feb 17
@sueznewz2 I've never heard a vegan apologize for talking about what they eat LOL!
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@sueznewz2 (9720)
• Alicante, Spain
1 Feb 17
@Happy2BeMe (74340)
• Canada
1 Feb 17
Glad they replaced it for you. Hope the second one way much better.
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@sueznewz2 (9720)
• Alicante, Spain
1 Feb 17
Yes i'm glad they did too... not sure how far I wouldhave been able to press the matter..and ithe replacement was much better...thank you ..@Happy2BeMe
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@Happy2BeMe (74340)
• Canada
1 Feb 17
@sueznewz2 glad to hear
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@Marty1 (31906)
• Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
1 Feb 17
@sueznewz2 That is great you had this victory in standing up for yourself. I say Kudos to you. And remember when you have a goal break it down into little parts and then your goal of being more self-assertive will come true
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@sueznewz2 (9720)
• Alicante, Spain
1 Feb 17
thank you for your encouragement @Marty1
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@lealuvy2j (1989)
• Philippines
1 Feb 17
It seems the british and filipinos have similar traits. We too can be passive-agressive. We complain only in our minds but we don't want to be confrontational but I am glad you were able to get past this personality trait and got a new steak!
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@sueznewz2 (9720)
• Alicante, Spain
1 Feb 17
As you say @lealuvy2j. It sounds like we have similar problems lol... but I did enjoy my victory...both physically and mentally ... lol
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@just4him (109930)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
2 Feb 17
I'm glad you said something. I did that too regarding a meal I had at a restaurant I like, and they actually gave me a discount on the bill.
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@sueznewz2 (9720)
• Alicante, Spain
7 Feb 17
that's even better ... good for you ...
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@just4him (109930)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
10 Feb 17
@sueznewz2 Thank you.
@KristenH (23307)
• Cuyahoga Falls, Ohio
1 Feb 17
So glad you had gotten a new steak for dinner. Hope it tasted much better than the original.
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@sueznewz2 (9720)
• Alicante, Spain
1 Feb 17
Thank you @KristenH it was much better ...
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@KristenH (23307)
• Cuyahoga Falls, Ohio
1 Feb 17
@sueznewz2 You're very welcome. So glad it was better.
@PainsOnSlate (20083)
• Canada
7 Feb 17
Good for you. We would have done the same thing. I grew up as an American, we are not shy about such things.
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@sueznewz2 (9720)
• Alicante, Spain
7 Feb 17
And that's how I think it should be...
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@LadyDuck (147487)
• Switzerland
1 Feb 17
I am Italian, but I never complain about food, service of people. Okay I am a northern and we are not considered "Italians" by the rest of Italy. Of course I tell my husband if something is wrong and I remember that one time in the United States when the waiter asked if everything was fine, my husband said that "my fish was so terrible that I would have never served something like this to my guests".... the waiter immediately proposed to change my food.
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@Juliaacv (28979)
• Canada
1 Feb 17
It is good that they offered a second one to replace it, was it easier to manage?
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@JudyEv (118796)
• Bunbury, Australia
1 Feb 17
I don't think I've ever complained about a meal either. We're much like the British in that regard.
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@Plethos (9601)
• United States
1 Feb 17
i would just tell them that i aint happy with the meal. if they dont bother to make it right, i will just get up and leave, which ive done.
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@jaboUK (53403)
• United Kingdom
1 Feb 17
Oh I learnt to do that too - probably when I was about the age you are now. I have no qualms sending things back now.