Where Do I Go from Here?

By G
Philippines
February 17, 2017 6:35pm CST
It is almost a year since I was transferred, together with my boss, in a new company (same group) and I often ask myself if there is a better place for me to work. The transfer was not the President's call and I guess if he had a way he would rather get new people for the new team. We, however, have the expertise that is why we were asked to join that company. Given that, we are the least favorite. I mean there should be no favoritism but we feellike the President is favoring the other team, the one he worked with for so long. Just that team head since turnover of people under him was fast. He too was not reasonable and that is a long story to share. As I have said we are turning one year yet i seems like my team head has not adjusted yet. True that during the earlier months I was one with her in complaining and criticizing current policies but I have outgrew that. I mean I have accepted that I cannot control everything but I can contril how I react. By the way my New Year's resolution is to stay positive. Since January I got aloof to her. We used to have lunch together and she would always complain about this and that and even share her frustrations to the new memberof our team who eventually resigned. I think she is not a good example because as a leader she should motivate us and not pull us down with all the negativity. On a regular day you would see her enter the office with eyebrows crossed and dhe would breathe loudly before sitying down. And oh her voice is too loud it irritates me. She would compkain that she has too much to do and so on and so forth. Last December I told her that we have to accept that this is our situation in our new post but I guess she has not accepted it yet. Now I feel unmotivated. She is older than me and more senior in position so she should know better. She is a team head. She should act as one. Still wondering where to go... or maybe I should talk to her again.
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@shaggin (25310)
• United States
18 Feb
That would be a lot better if she was not so negative and tried to help build her team up by being positive and kind. Working in a negative work environment is what causes so many people to leave a job they love.
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• Philippines
18 Feb
So true. I see so many opportunities for the company. Our Chairman is so supportive and appreciative too. Those are the things that make me stay for now.
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@shaggin (25310)
• United States
18 Feb
@nottoooldtowrite aww well at least you have thse positive things to distract you from the negatives.
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• Philippines
18 Feb
@shaggin that's right. Like that rainbow after the storm thing.
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@LadyDuck (118496)
• Switzerland
18 Feb
It's wrong to be negative and it brings nowhere to be unhappy and to complain all the time. I hope she will soon understand that she has to accept the new situation and what you told her is right.
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• Philippines
18 Feb
Considering that she is a senior officer already, she should know better. She should act her position. But she is too busy complaining. I hope things will et better though.
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@LadyDuck (118496)
• Switzerland
18 Feb
@nottoooldtowrite I sincerely hope things will get better, because it's a pain to work with a complainer.
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• Philippines
18 Feb
@LadyDuck so true. Thank you. I always like it when she has meetings because it means that she will be out and I can do my work in peace.
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@Kandae11 (25590)
18 Feb
Remember your resolution? stay positive and things will work out.
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• Philippines
18 Feb
Yes will do. I specifically made that resolution to lighten my load. If I carry the burden of too much workload and my boss's complaints I would never move forward.
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@dpk262006 (53822)
• Delhi, India
18 Feb
Communication is the best way to resolve any issue. ..
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• Philippines
18 Feb
Yes, I talked to her before but I guess another talk won't hurt.
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@dpk262006 (53822)
• Delhi, India
18 Feb
@nottoooldtowrite You could talk again keeping your ego aside.
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• Philippines
18 Feb
@dpk262006 yes I will. She is my boss anyway.
@allen0187 (26364)
• Philippines
18 Feb
Stay still. You need not do anything. Learn to be patient. She will soon see that what you told here is what is best for the team.
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• Philippines
18 Feb
I hope she realizes that soon. I have told her so many things in my attempt to shift her to positivity. Though really I believe she should be the one doing that as she is the team head.
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@allen0187 (26364)
• Philippines
18 Feb
@nottoooldtowrite might be a good time for you to slide into that position or at least do the 'cheer the team' routine while your team head is still sulking.
• Philippines
18 Feb
@allen0187 have been doing that lately but I do get exhausted too. I have a lot of work as well as I am not in the office to play around. She should know. I guess she gets too panicky and she stresses herself wanting to prove something.
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@Gillygirl (15292)
• Sutton, England
18 Feb
Try and rise above it and don't let her negativity rub off on you. It will pay dividends in the end.
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• Philippines
18 Feb
That is what I really am trying to do now. Trying to be the better person.
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@Gillygirl (15292)
• Sutton, England
18 Feb
@nottoooldtowrite It is the best way and you don't have to lower yourself to her standards.
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• Philippines
18 Feb
@Gillygirl right. I will be the better person.
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@ridingbet (36366)
• Philippines
18 Feb
i think you can talk to her specially if your work experiences are more than what she has, or if your position is equal to, or close to her position. but i am sorry you have that dilemma. i hope everything will be sorted out.
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• Philippines
18 Feb
She is my boss. I will talk to her.
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@ridingbet (36366)
• Philippines
18 Feb
@nottoooldtowrite yyou have the right to d2 that my friend . good luck
@Platespinner (18072)
• Winston Salem, North Carolina
18 Feb
Negativity like that tends to drag everyone down.
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• Philippines
18 Feb
So true. I think she needs a seminar on stress management and people handling.
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@PatZAnthony (11730)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
18 Feb
Maybe try to talk to her, then decide what you want to do.
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• Philippines
18 Feb
I will build the courage to talk to her again. Maybe put some sense to cover up for all her complaints and criticisms.
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@DianneN (57247)
• United States
19 Feb
That is not the way to be as a leader. It sounds as though she should quit and look for a less stressful job.
• Philippines
19 Feb
I know. She shoul have motivated us.
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• Lakewood, Colorado
19 Feb
I hope by now you have come to some solution about this person my friend. I am sorry you had to transfer to this place. What is happening now?