Hard times

@hillhjill (6912)
United States
February 27, 2017 5:06pm CST
My husband and I have fallen on some hard times and live with his mother right now till we get the money we need to move.. well at first I didn't have a job so she didn't have us pay any bills. Well we got food stamps and we would go out and buy food for the house.. it was the right thing to do.. but then we were buying all the food and they were not buying anything.. So the other night we had nothing to eat but a dollar pizza and they went out and got enough hamburgers so they could make burgers for them. So that pizza we had we split in between us and they didn't even bother to see if we had enough to eat.. just saying I don't think that it is fair that we can spend everything with are card that is only to support us on 4 people and they can't get any food if we are running low.
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@pureme (1475)
28 Feb 17
there is always a hard time in anybody's life, but sure enough, it will go away sooneest
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@hillhjill (6912)
• United States
28 Feb 17
Yes it will and I can't wait till that day comes.
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@pureme (1475)
28 Feb 17
@hillhjill my dear sister, the day is very near to you, just be patience. weeping may endure for a night but joy comes in the morning. your morning is here by the corner
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@hillhjill (6912)
• United States
28 Feb 17
@pureme thank you so much.. what you said is awesome.
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@Courtlynn (55260)
• United States
28 Feb 17
That's definitely not right. I would be so mad if I were you. Maybe you should use your card just on you two next time and see how they like it.
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@hillhjill (6912)
• United States
28 Feb 17
Yeah we have been talking about doing that.. but she knows when it loads and if we don't get anything for the house on that day she will go off on us saying the most awful things.
@Courtlynn (55260)
• United States
28 Feb 17
@hillhjill so let her. Its just supposed to be for you 2 anyways.
@hillhjill (6912)
• United States
28 Feb 17
@Courtlynn yeah true.. but it drives my husband crazy and like all of us he already has enough problems to deal with and it causes all of us to get into a big fight about this house and everything she can think of.
@Juliaacv (34150)
• Canada
27 Feb 17
I'm sorry that you're going thru this, it cannot be easy. Maybe it is time to have a little sit down discussion regarding how you feel about this, hopefully it will change things for the better.
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@hillhjill (6912)
• United States
27 Feb 17
Thank you.We have sat down with her and she said that we are taking a vantage of her and that we don't do anything for the house.. so we just gave up on it.. she is very good and what she does and she can make anybody feel bad..
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@Juliaacv (34150)
• Canada
27 Feb 17
@hillhjill Remember the old saying.......bread on the water always returns......she'll get hers one day too.
@hillhjill (6912)
• United States
28 Feb 17
@Juliaacv yes she will.. she thinks that she is perfect and I'm not kidding.. according to her. Well we know how she is and on day someone is going to snap off on her and I don't think she will know what to do when it does happen.
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@yanzalong (10174)
• Indonesia
28 Feb 17
So, this happened to almost anyone in the world. My parents had difficult times often when I was a kid. I didn't understand anything like that at that age. Now I am grown up and getting old and also experience hard time from time to time. However, I am 100% sure Almighty God gives solution and leads us to time of ease.
@hillhjill (6912)
• United States
28 Feb 17
Yes he does.
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• United States
27 Feb 17
It sounds to me as if your inlaws see you guys providing food as your "rent". Did you get the pizza before they got the burgers? They might have just assumed you are eating that pizza because that's all you and your husband wanted. Do they know you are running low?
@hillhjill (6912)
• United States
27 Feb 17
No we didn't get that pizza before the hamburger I had a couple of bucks left from my paycheck and that is how we got the pizza for that night... and she knows we are running low because all the food we buy goes into the deep freeze.. and we started buying food for the house because of me not having a job so yeah in away it is rent.. but I don't think it should be the whole amount we get for the two of us.
• United States
28 Feb 17
I am thinking the same as @ScribbledAdNauseum They may think it's rent I'd be nice if they had offered some hamburgers to you guys too though.
@hillhjill (6912)
• United States
28 Feb 17
@infatuatedbby yes it would of been nice.. but they only got the 2lb one so they could make them food only and not have enough to go around.. that is how they work.
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@sharon6345 (142006)
• United States
27 Feb 17
That same thing happened when kay was living here. I was feeding three people on mine and not once would they think to stock up the house. When she went and got hers about a year later they would shop for themselves. Last week they were here getting dish soap, food and cash now today she curse me out because I wanted my house keys. you need to keep your stamps for you and your household. Did you read about that man that went to prison who shared his stamps. You might be able to search it. it was over a year ago I read it .
@hillhjill (6912)
• United States
27 Feb 17
Wow that is terrible that she did that to you sorry to hear.. no I haven't seen read that and many times me and my husband has talked about spending on us only but if we don't get anything for the house after they load she will start nagging us saying we are not doing anything for the house or anything and top of it now she is saying she wants half my check from work.. umm no there is no way that is going to happen.
@sharon6345 (142006)
• United States
28 Feb 17
@hillhjill Then you might need to check out rooms in another location till you can figure it out. is the rent high where you live? It sucks when family bleeds you dry.
@hillhjill (6912)
• United States
28 Feb 17
@sharon6345 rent is kinda high right now only because we don't have the money right now.. but beside that it is not to high.
@skydream (1139)
• Agate, Colorado
27 Feb 17
I agree I don't think it's fair. If you are buying all the food and run out then when they get food they should also make sure you have enough to eat especially when they eat the food you buy
@hillhjill (6912)
• United States
27 Feb 17
That is what me and my husband says as well.. it's OK for us to spend everything we got on food and they go out all the time to Walmart or goodwill etc.. I think she can take some of that money she spends on stuff and buy food.
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@skydream (1139)
• Agate, Colorado
27 Feb 17
@hillhjill I agree. They should help provide food too and make sure all is taken care of. I hope the situation gets better for you guys!
@hillhjill (6912)
• United States
27 Feb 17
@skydream thank you and yes it will be getting better I'm just all frustrated today with it all and she goes out again and spends her money on stupid stuff.. but it's all good and I'm looking forward to getting out of here.
@Morleyhunt (21376)
• Canada
28 Feb 17
If you are living there free of charge, you can not expect them to supply you with food. Can you get a job of any kind. McDonalds might not be glamorous but it is income. Living with someone else seems to cause a lot of friction.
@hillhjill (6912)
• United States
28 Feb 17
I do have a job now and don't expect them to supply all the food.. it is just they don't buy food for all of us like we do for them and it was rude that we didn't hardly have anything to eat the other night and she was saying how full she was.. it hit me wrong when she knew we were hungry.. js
@Morleyhunt (21376)
• Canada
28 Feb 17
@hillhjill you and your husband need to get out of that house...into a home of your own and be self reliant as quickly as possible. No one is responsible for feeding and housing you. If you are living in someone else's home they are not responsible to feed you. If you're on your own you can control food coming in and being eaten.
@Fishmomma (11446)
• United States
16 Mar 17
They can cancel your food stamp card, if you give food to people not on the card. There are a lot of rules about the stamps and paperwork to get them based on your income. Hope you can move out soon.
@hillhjill (6912)
• United States
16 Mar 17
Thank you and yes we are moving coming up here real soon.
@KrauseHome (35514)
• United States
28 Feb 17
Sounds like someone is taking advantage of you and not wanting to think about themselves. If I were you I would be looking into moving from there and not looking back if this is the way they are wanting to be. Let them have to figure out how to live again and survive on their own. Wishing you the Best
@hillhjill (6912)
• United States
28 Feb 17
Thank you and yes we are fixing to be gone from here very soon.
@youless (94253)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Feb 17
I am sorry to hear that. I hope things will be better for you.
@hillhjill (6912)
• United States
28 Feb 17
Thank you and yes the will be getting better here soon.
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@franxav (5815)
28 Feb 17
Those hard times will get over and you will have a better life.
@hillhjill (6912)
• United States
28 Feb 17
Thank you and yes they are fixing to be over here very soon and then things will be great again like it was before with just me and husband doing what we want.
@Hate2Iron (8029)
• Canada
27 Feb 17
Sounds like a really hard situation. I hope that things fall into place so that you can get out of there. Hope that it happens in the coming months!!
@hillhjill (6912)
• United States
27 Feb 17
Thank you and yes they are.. we are planing on being out of here by at least next month. So maybe the end of march we will be gone.
@PatZAnthony (13118)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
27 Feb 17
The benefits you receive are only supposed to be used by the recipient, so you would be right to say you can't share what you buy If someone working in the system knew they were eating what your benefits purchased, wouldn't they cancel the card?
@hillhjill (6912)
• United States
27 Feb 17
Yeah I know.. but like I said she will nag us if we don't buy food for the house and she treats us like crap and says we are taking a vantage of her.. she is very good at playing games and people think she is so nice that is only because they don't know her.. but we are fixing to be out of her home in a month so yeah we won't be buying her food no more.
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