Been around for a while
By Felicia Kane
@DesirousDreamer (34783)
Peoria, Arizona
March 4, 2017 10:21am CST
This post is not towards any one person, this is not indirectly for anyone. This is for you, this is for me, this is for anyone who might have scared away any new person.
I know many of you have been around for a while.
This is going to be very rude of me to say about some of you, especially many that have been here for a while, but goodness sakes hold up a little bit on newer people.
Do you guys not realize how scary it is when you start yelling at them to write more on their posts?
I like the people who link to guidelines or politely ask for people to elaborate. I like the people that take time to privatively message people on how to post on here and show example posts.
I do not like the people that are so hostile towards new people.
This is not your territory, this is a website and you are getting paid to do such simple work.
I know, some new people are in it just for the pocket change, but when I see, "Sorry, I am new to this site" after people practically attack them and then I see no other posts by them. It breaks my heart.
Some people are trying their best, especially if they are new.
Stop being so aggressive towards new people, they need to learn like you had to learn.
Do not demand them to learn. HELP them learn.
Do not make them feel terrible about not knowing, help them know what they need to know.
Do not caps, do not yell, do not make them feel terrible.
Learn to be nice. We all know what to report, we all know what we are supposed to do on here, we all know how to BE NICE
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@Morleyhunt (21737)
• Canada
4 Mar 17
I have not seen anyone "yelling" at newbies. I see a lot of Mylotters saying welcome and pointing them towards guidelines. I see newbies who don't respond to comments made, but post one oneline post after another. After ten such posts I move on. I understand that they are new, but if they genuinely want to do well it is in their own best interest to at least pretend to respond to other Mylotters.
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@DesirousDreamer (34783)
• Peoria, Arizona
4 Mar 17
I am mostly talking about the people who have made like 2 posts, still new, and no one has given them guidance. I read a lot of newbie posts. After 10 posts and they don't get it, yes, report them, but I don't know I feel like people need to be more gentle if this is their first da. There is a different between trying and not trying at all to be an active person on here. Some want to learn and never get a chance.
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@jujunme (2501)
• United States
4 Mar 17
To tell you the truth, i haven't noticed anyone yelling at or berating newcomers.
Most long time members here take the time to instruct and guide them.
even when they tend to repeat their actions over and over again, which can become very frustrating.
i am also a long time member of Mylot and i don't believe i have ever yelled at or insulted any newcomer, but i have become impatient with those who ask over and over again why they're not being paid when they have practically done nothing to deserve payment or why their discussion was deleted , when it wasn't a discussion at all or went against the guidelines. and believe me, you state that we should try to be nicer, well the same goes for the newcomers who can get pretty nasty themselves even when all we're doing is trying to help them.,
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@DesirousDreamer (34783)
• Peoria, Arizona
4 Mar 17
I have seen it a lot because I go on a lot of newbie posts.
There are people who do well and showing guidlines but then some just posts the link to guidelines, say nothing and more on. That is a little rude.
There are new people that are pretty bad, but some this kind of site is new to them and want to learn. Some just need to be taught. If someone has posted 10 posts and still not getting it, report them, if you feel like they are not getting it with their first or second posts, people should reach out and try and help. That is what I am talking about.
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@DesirousDreamer (34783)
• Peoria, Arizona
4 Mar 17
I have only been on here for a year, but it is really not cool. People become territorial, and learn how it is like to be a new person.
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@Morleyhunt (21737)
• Canada
4 Mar 17
You must read a lot of posts I never see. I've rarely noticed anyone being rude to a newcomer. Suggesting that they read the guidelines sounds courteous, not rude to me.
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@MGjhaud (23171)
• Philippines
4 Mar 17
@DesirousDreamer I was on the verge of attacking a mylotter before(for the first time) because he/she called a newbie stupid for using texting language. So instead i sent a private message to this newbie about it because she didn't seem to understand what a text-speak is. She told me "It was my fault" and that she was still trying to get used to mylotting. I reread that message just now and checked her profile.. that newbie has been inactive since. 
It's not very welcoming, you know.. How hard is it to explain in a nice way as to why the post is a no-no here instead of hitting them right away or giving them a link of the guidelines without knowing why.
@Morleyhunt Hi, Morley. I always check the recent discussions and i see one liner posts every now and then or posts that i do not understand at all. you probably don't see them because they get deleted right away unfortunately. i do see some responses that does not help newbies on how to last long here. Not long ago someone just responded "Reported!" to a newbie's post.. Really? 
I also do appreciate people suggesting to read the guidelines but not all newbies will understand why they're being asked to read it. why not say it outright like say something more or make it a real discussion then paste the guidelines link to further assist them.. in that way, discussion will happen and maybe that newbie will edit the post and make it better. instead of pushing it to have it deleted.
i love it here and i want this site to grow bigger.
It's not very welcoming, you know.. How hard is it to explain in a nice way as to why the post is a no-no here instead of hitting them right away or giving them a link of the guidelines without knowing why.
@Morleyhunt Hi, Morley. I always check the recent discussions and i see one liner posts every now and then or posts that i do not understand at all. you probably don't see them because they get deleted right away unfortunately. i do see some responses that does not help newbies on how to last long here. Not long ago someone just responded "Reported!" to a newbie's post.. Really? I also do appreciate people suggesting to read the guidelines but not all newbies will understand why they're being asked to read it. why not say it outright like say something more or make it a real discussion then paste the guidelines link to further assist them.. in that way, discussion will happen and maybe that newbie will edit the post and make it better. instead of pushing it to have it deleted.
i love it here and i want this site to grow bigger.
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
4 Mar 17
May I ask you a favour?
When (if) you see me being harsh with a new user, don't yell at me immediately please. Instead watch the follow up.
I don't send them PMs to explain things, I make them DO things. I get them to react to what I say. If they do they are winners and will stay - and many of them do. I follow them (stalk is the correct term I believe) in all of their activity, leaving comments, until they are ready to fly off alone all over the Lot.
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@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Mar 17
I am one that can see both sides. I know it can be scary but it also gets old to see newbies do these things and they don't make it here. They don't get it, they get bored with it and move on. I think I would appreciate some help if I was new. That is not to say this help can't be done in a nice and tactful way. I don't deal with the new ones. I write posts that can be of help to them.
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@Mike197602 (15487)
• United Kingdom
4 Mar 17
I'm not that nice to people with one post who are blatantly here to spam.
If I come across a new member I always try to help by providing a link and a little advice.
If I see them down the road a little and they're still breaking the rules I'll give them a repeat of the link but I'll also report them.
@Mike197602 (15487)
• United Kingdom
4 Mar 17
@DesirousDreamer I have the help section always open on a new tab whenever I'm here
As a new user of mylot I was helped a lot more than I deserved primarily by @mysdianait.
To stay alive any site needs new users...some stay for a day and some stay for a decade...it is very very important to help new users if we can
Being rude/confrontational/nasty to a new user is absolutely counterproductive to the site as a whole.
As a new user of mylot I was helped a lot more than I deserved primarily by @mysdianait.
To stay alive any site needs new users...some stay for a day and some stay for a decade...it is very very important to help new users if we can
Being rude/confrontational/nasty to a new user is absolutely counterproductive to the site as a whole.@DesirousDreamer (34783)
• Peoria, Arizona
4 Mar 17
@Mike197602 That makes so much sense!
Some people just get so territorial. I see it on websites and games, really just everywhere. A newbie comes in and people want to attack.
I just hope people can encourage each other to be nice and help out others, and perhaps tell new users that they are doing well!
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@DesirousDreamer (34783)
• Peoria, Arizona
4 Mar 17
That is different! You go after the ones that repeat the rules. I am talking about the ones that only post once or twice and people don't bother to help them out even if they are confused. I know you always try and help with linking the guidelines, I begin to think the is bookmarked for you haha
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@Orson_Kart (6114)
• United Kingdom
5 Mar 17
I never have a go at newbies, nor do I point them toward the guidelines, there are plenty of others who like to do that. Plus I have never read them myself, so I don't want to appear the hypocrite.
And anyway, I prefer to follow the rules stated in Fight Club 
And anyway, I prefer to follow the rules stated in Fight Club 
@DesirousDreamer (34783)
• Peoria, Arizona
4 Mar 17
don't thank me, it is just called human decency! Haha!
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