See ya, I guess?
By Felicia Kane
@DesirousDreamer (34783)
Peoria, Arizona
March 22, 2017 5:58pm CST
I have been very down today. I don't get it, I really do not get it.
I was having a nice convesation with a guy, we have been walking for a week and a haalf, and then boom! Vanished! Blocked on everything, even things I didn't even add him on.
He didn't seem like the guy that would be having another girl behind the scenes, so I am thinking I just said something wrong, pissed him off, and never to hear from again.
I spent the whole morning trying to cry from it, but I have cried over this stupid situation so many times that it was hard to bring tears. I do not want to get numb over being left behind. I don't want that. But it keeps happening.
I don't care if you do not want to talk anymore, but at least tell me why first?
It is like getting fired from a job. I was fired from my job without a reason why and I don't even know what I am supposed to fix if I am to get another job like that one again. So, why do people keep leaving me without a reason why first? What do I even need to fix to be able to date someone and actually have it last?
I am getting really tired of this, I am not even trying to look for someone to love anymore. I just want them to fall in front of me, because that seems like the only way anymore for me. Perhaps I am opposite of everyone else. Someone just fall from the sky and land in my lap, I'll take a fallen angel.
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@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
22 Mar 17
I am sorry you are going through this. Some people are just immature. They don't care if they hurt somebody. Who knows what was behind it or why he did it. You will probably never know the reason. Let yourself feel sad but then pick yourself up and keep moving forward. When the time is right you will find that special someone. 
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@DesirousDreamer (34783)
• Peoria, Arizona
24 Mar 17
I guess it is better than I don't know. Even though it sucks people just leaving me, but ohhh well. Just have to move on! Thank you!
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Mar 17
I'm sorry that guy sounds immature. =( You will find love when you least expect it. Now that your not looking it will happen I'm sure. That's when I found my husband-when I gave up on love.
I will be praying that God sends you who your supposed to be with. =) Until then you have friends here to get you through the tough days.
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@DesirousDreamer (34783)
• Peoria, Arizona
24 Mar 17
That is how I am at the moment. I am not really looking for anyone. If someone comes by, that is cool, but I am more focused on my work.
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@GardenGerty (157563)
• United States
22 Mar 17
That is awful, and on the guy's part pretty immature. Not sure what I think about the job thing, though.
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@DesirousDreamer (34783)
• Peoria, Arizona
24 Mar 17
The fact this happened for the second time, it really strange. Oh well. His loss.
@Shavkat (137213)
• Philippines
24 Mar 17
@DesirousDreamer I know, my friend. Things will be fine soon. You can just all the things you feel here. It will help, my friend.
@DesirousDreamer (34783)
• Peoria, Arizona
24 Mar 17
Haha it is pretty easy to ignore when he doesn't exist in my life anymore.
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@sabtraversa (12952)
• Italy
25 Mar 17
People are getting more and more awkward with social situations.
Maybe all we have to do is to get used to it. 
I tend to be blunt, so guys often have to confess before they can flee.
I'm guilty of fleeing without saying a word though, but I think it's easy to notice when I'm completely uninterested in someone, that's when I allow myself to misbehave. Your case was weird, sorry to hear. 
Well, I never look for someone to love, it always happens by itself. 
The loss of freedom, the time you waste thinking or doing something for this person, focus less on your plans and goals. Love also has side effects, that's why I never look for it. 
Just be patient and someone will fall. 
I guess all you can do is to try to accept these situations and accept your reaction to them. And you always come first, no matter what, take care.
I tend to be blunt, so guys often have to confess before they can flee.
I'm guilty of fleeing without saying a word though, but I think it's easy to notice when I'm completely uninterested in someone, that's when I allow myself to misbehave. Your case was weird, sorry to hear.
Well, I never look for someone to love, it always happens by itself.
The loss of freedom, the time you waste thinking or doing something for this person, focus less on your plans and goals. Love also has side effects, that's why I never look for it.
Just be patient and someone will fall.
I guess all you can do is to try to accept these situations and accept your reaction to them. And you always come first, no matter what, take care. @DesirousDreamer (34783)
• Peoria, Arizona
26 Mar 17
I only flee when I know someone is just not my type. But at least I tell them before I leave haha
I hate when people just disappear. It is sad and makes me worry and then I realize what has happened and then I just get frustrated.
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@theBlock (2657)
• United States
22 Mar 17
@DesirousDreamer
Well,,,that's-his-loss....I'm-sure-he's-missing-out-on-a-wonderful-woman....I-wish-you-love---girl!
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@DesirousDreamer (34783)
• Peoria, Arizona
24 Mar 17
Haha yeah, thank you. His loss!
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@celticeagle (159105)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Mar 17
I agree with the others. Immature. Be glad you didn't waste more time on him and move on.
@DesirousDreamer (34783)
• Peoria, Arizona
24 Mar 17
Yeah, very true. Oh well. It is still frustrating.
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@ricki_911 (21625)
• Toronto, Ontario
22 Mar 17
Many times over thinking it will cause issues. It can me many issues of why he blocked you but none of us would know. He's a coward a d my ex did this after 2 years he just up and disappeared ignoring me blocking me then months later he shows up like nothing happened.
@DesirousDreamer (34783)
• Peoria, Arizona
24 Mar 17
It is so weird because this is the second time this has happened this year. Just vanished. Luckily it hasn't been that long with talking, but still. It was so weird.
@HebrewGreekStudies (1646)
• Canada
26 Mar 17
I'm sincerely sorry to hear that-I can understand that feeling, the hurt, and also almost a kind of tiring over it happening to the point of becoming a kind of, numbness, or even a kind of bored feeling with it...like at some point in my life there were ppl coming and going so often, not just in terms of relationships but also friendships, aquantences and ppl at word that I became bored with it a little and then just...oddly became chill with it. Like, chill with the feeling of impermanence. Because somewhere there I came to the conclusion, that that is what this life is like by it's very nature. Of course, all that said, in my mind this one short phrase keeps resounding in my head about what you just went through with him..."What a jerk!"
@shantalclay (623)
• Baguio, Philippines
23 Mar 17
He don't deserve you. There is always someone better than him and that's for sure. I hope you get through it soon and sooner.
