Rescuing a Friend from an Uncomfortable Situation
@DeborahDiane (40063)
Laguna Woods, California
March 24, 2017 10:08pm CST
When our daughter was at the wedding she attended last week, she told us how she had "rescued" a friend from an uncomfortable situation.
Our daughter and her friends are all in their mid-30s. One member of the wedding party was a very intoxicated man in his late 60s, who was attending the wedding with his wife, and he kept trying to corner one particular young woman, standing very close and hovering over her uncomfortably.
Our daughter remembered that she and the other young woman had taken French together in high school. Our daughter later majored in French in college and is still very fluent.
She walked up to her girlfriend. She later told me she actually had to nudge the man aside to talk to her friend.
Then she asked, in French, if the girl still spoke French. The girl replied, in French, that she did. In fact, she has lived in Paris the past four years. Our daughter asked if the man was bothering her, and the girl said that he was.
Our daughter said they started chatting away in French to each other and, eventually, the man gave up and walked away.
Later, after they returned to their seats and other friends, the young woman texted our daughter, in French, and thanked her for the "rescue."
Have you ever helped someone get out of an uncomfortable situation?
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21 responses
@crossbones27 (48456)
• Mojave, California
25 Mar 17
All the time in my youth, now I stay away from all that stuff.
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@DeborahDiane (40063)
• Laguna Woods, California
25 Mar 17
@crossbones27 - Sometimes, at social events, someone else can make us uncomfortable. It is smart to avoid those situations when we can.
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@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
25 Mar 17
That is so nice. Have not done anythng like that. Perhaps I just tried to stop some friends from teasing our friend when I felt that she was no longer comfortable. And answering a question for someone during a meeting.
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@DeborahDiane (40063)
• Laguna Woods, California
25 Mar 17
@nottoooldtowrite - That is nice that you stopped people from teasing someone, and you helped out by answering a question. We all need others to come to our aid once in a while.
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@GardenGerty (157661)
• United States
26 Mar 17
Those are good ways to help,as well.
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@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
26 Mar 17
@DeborahDiane and it feels good when you know that you helped in some way.
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@LadyDuck (458976)
• Switzerland
26 Mar 17
@DeborahDiane This is sad, but it is true, I am sure it happened to most of us to be in an uncomfortable situation.
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@DeborahDiane (40063)
• Laguna Woods, California
27 Mar 17
@LadyDuck - Too bad that women have to be rescued so often from men like this. It can be scary and very uncomfortable.
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@DeborahDiane (40063)
• Laguna Woods, California
25 Mar 17
@LadyDuck - It is a shame that we sometimes feel the need to be rescued, but I am sure it has happened to most women at one time or another.
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@MarymargII (12422)
• Toronto, Ontario
25 Mar 17
YOur daughter was very aware and very "on the ball" to do that and I would do the same- although without the French- lol! The world needs more people like your daughter!
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@DeborahDiane (40063)
• Laguna Woods, California
25 Mar 17
@Marymargll - Thank you! I was proud of our daughter, not just for what she did, but because she noticed the situation in the first place. I'm sure you would do the same.
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@DeborahDiane (40063)
• Laguna Woods, California
27 Mar 17
@MarymargII - I'm glad she helped out a friend. I'm always happy when my daughters do things like that.
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@MarymargII (12422)
• Toronto, Ontario
27 Mar 17
@DeborahDiane Yes noticing and knowing those situations are what show the real caring people up as others don't care to notice! So good of her!
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@DeborahDiane (40063)
• Laguna Woods, California
26 Mar 17
@inter4 - I'm glad you have found other ways to help people out of difficult situations. There are lots of things she could have done. I'm just glad she was able to avoid making a scene.
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@Shwetasingh (1333)
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25 Mar 17
Ya I did. In my college time I used to live in hostel. One day I was going to a shop . It was evening and the path was not much crowded. Suddenly I realized a small girl's shout . Soooo it was a big no.. I always used to keep an umbrella just for safety as the place was not very safe. As soon as I heard this I started thinking should I or shouldn't I... Soon I realized my responsibility and run towards that place with the huge shout ... Whois this??? Some passers-by noticed my run and they also stopped there. Soon I reached and I saw a 12-13 years old girl and a running oldy . He was scared by my shout ao he left the girl and run away . I asked the girl about her home then with the help of the hostel authority we sent her to home.
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@DeborahDiane (40063)
• Laguna Woods, California
26 Mar 17
@Shwetasingh - What you did for that young girl was wonderful. She could have had something awful happen to her that day. Your help may have changed her life for the better.
@GardenGerty (157661)
• United States
26 Mar 17
I probably have, but do not remember right now, other than just inviting the "new girl" to sit with me at lunch in high school. That was ages ago. I am sure I have done other things since then, but I am not able to come up with it right now. I seem to be stuck on High School.
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@DeborahDiane (40063)
• Laguna Woods, California
26 Mar 17
@GardenGerty - I'm sure that new girl appreciated your kindness. I bet you have done other nice things, too.
@PainsOnSlate (21854)
• Canada
25 Mar 17
That was a great thing to do for a friend. You have a smart daughter.... I wonder what I would do having to speak in English. I have helped friends in my life but never had to save someone from a dirty old man...
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@PainsOnSlate (21854)
• Canada
26 Mar 17
@DeborahDiane I thought as I read it was brilliant!
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@DeborahDiane (40063)
• Laguna Woods, California
25 Mar 17
@PainsOnSlate - I think she could have done the same thing speaking in English ... just chatted with her friend until the man got bored and left. It was just handy that she was able to ask the girl in French if she needed rescuing.
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@JamesHxstatic (29257)
• Eugene, Oregon
25 Mar 17
That was such a good way to handle the situation. I have done similar things, engaging a woman in conversation (English) and guiding her away from the hoverer.
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@DeborahDiane (40063)
• Laguna Woods, California
25 Mar 17
@JamesHxstatic - It sounds like you have good instincts and can tell when someone feels uncomfortable and needs a "rescue."
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@JamesHxstatic (29257)
• Eugene, Oregon
26 Mar 17
@DeborahDiane I like to think so.
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@DeborahDiane (40063)
• Laguna Woods, California
25 Mar 17
@DianneN - I'm glad you have been rescued when you needed it. Hopefully, you never have to rescue anyone else, although I am sure you would if you noticed someone who seemed uncomfortable.
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@DeborahDiane (40063)
• Laguna Woods, California
25 Mar 17
@paigea - I hope he woke up embarrassed the next day, too. I would think that his wife might have had a few things to say to him, too!
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@DeborahDiane (40063)
• Laguna Woods, California
28 Mar 17
@paigea - I agree. The wife must have felt humiliated, too.
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@DeborahDiane (40063)
• Laguna Woods, California
26 Mar 17
@aninditasen - I hope you never have a friend who is in such an uncomfortable situation. I was sorry the drunk man made our daughter's friend so uncomfortable. The wedding party would have been more fun without the drunk!
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@aninditasen (15746)
• Raurkela, India
26 Mar 17
@DeborahDiane I am the last one to attend parties where drinks are served. It's not common in India.
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@Happy2BeMe (99390)
• Canada
25 Mar 17
That was great of your daughter to get her out of that uncomfortable situation.
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@DeborahDiane (40063)
• Laguna Woods, California
26 Mar 17
@Happy2BeMe - I'm glad she was able to help her friend. Too bad the drunk man created the situation where the woman needed to be rescued.
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@WritesFromTheHeart (89)
• Hamilton, Bermuda
20 Oct 17
You Daughter Sounds Very Special and Unique she sounds like you raised her well because she has compassion and love for others She has a Heart for other people and that is a rare quality these days I am glad that she was able to help her friend get out of this not so good situation she did the right thing I am hoping that if she get in that situation that someone else will pay it forward and help her get out of that situation too,.
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@allknowing (130084)
• India
25 Mar 17
That was nice of your daughter to do that.
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@DeborahDiane (40063)
• Laguna Woods, California
25 Mar 17
@allknowing - I was glad she was able to help her friend. There is nothing worse than being cornered by a drunk, and not want to simply shove him out of the way and make a scene.
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
25 Mar 17
thumb's up to your daughter for being observant, helpful and a quick thinker. i feel bad for the man's wife.
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@DeborahDiane (40063)
• Laguna Woods, California
25 Mar 17
@hereandthere - I feel sorry for the man's wife, too. Obviously, she lives with a man who drinks too much and then becomes overly friendly with strange women. Not a good combination for a happy marriage.
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@DeborahDiane (40063)
• Laguna Woods, California
25 Mar 17
@jstory07 - I was happy that our daughter was able to help.
@DeborahDiane (40063)
• Laguna Woods, California
25 Mar 17
@sallypup - Yes, weddings can be joyful occasions, but there are often ugly incidents at weddings, too.
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@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
25 Mar 17
To many times beng around drunk people is not fun, and even when under the influence i have helped my female friends get away from scum bags trying to hit on them despite the fact they knew they were married.
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@DeborahDiane (40063)
• Laguna Woods, California
26 Mar 17
@chrissbergstrom - I'm glad you have been able to help women you know get away from scum bags like this man. I'm sure they appreciated the help!
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