I was married to a tree

Gurgaon, India
April 2, 2017 9:28pm CST
Yes it happens in real life too. As a Bollywood movie is released at this topic, I thought I should share my story with you all that it really happens in India. In our culture we match kundali of girl and boy before they get married to make sure that their stars match perfectly. My stars were too much stronger than my would be husband and he wanted this Banarasi girl only so before getting married to him I was married to a peepal tree. Elders believe that the tree will take all the bad effects of stars and the girl and boy will be safe in future.
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@Happy2BeMe (99392)
• Canada
3 Apr 17
That is very interesting. I have never heard of such a thing. Now you are married to your husband so I will you a life time of happiness together.
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@Happy2BeMe (99392)
• Canada
3 Apr 17
@Bodyandbrain That is wonderful. I love this site because I learn so much about other culture's and customs from around the world.
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• Gurgaon, India
4 Apr 17
@Happy2BeMe yes that's true, it's really a wonderful platform to communicate with people from different places and learn about the different cultures.
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• Gurgaon, India
3 Apr 17
It's part of typical Hindu rituals. Thanks for your wishes,we are having a beautiful life together.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
5 Apr 17
It is really interesting to hear that to neutralize ill omens in your horoscope, before actually getting married to your husband, you were married to a tree. It is difficult for me to say how much neutralization affect this would have caused in your life, you know it better than me. In modern age, it seems like a superstition to marry a tree to overcome these kind of problems mentioned in horoscopes. You both are looking great in the picture. Thanks for sharing.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
5 Apr 17
@Bodyandbrain It might have been a ritual but you you won't forget it for lifetime.
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• Gurgaon, India
5 Apr 17
It was just a formality and ritual to get done as my husband's maternal grandfather believed in these things. It was funny for me and I still joke about it.
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• Gurgaon, India
5 Apr 17
@dpk262006 yes, really I can never forget.
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@Shavkat (137212)
• Philippines
3 Apr 17
Is this your love story?
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• Gurgaon, India
3 Apr 17
No can't say love story because it was arranged marriage, but of course we were free to take our decision and we choosed each other.
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@Shavkat (137212)
• Philippines
3 Apr 17
@Bodyandbrain I heard about fixed marriage. It is a part of embracing the culture.
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• Gurgaon, India
3 Apr 17
@Shavkat yes in our society elders take responsibility to find a match for their children and generally it works well but at the same time in the modern world young people have freedom to choose their life partner.
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@shaynas (5488)
• India
5 Apr 17
Oh my god...and did not you protest? It's not logical you know!
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@shaynas (5488)
• India
5 Apr 17
@HAPPSINGH yeah...may be! I wonder if someone has suggested this to me and what would i have done to them
@shaynas (5488)
• India
5 Apr 17
@HAPPSINGH ha ha...very funny!! The most affected being in the whole process is of course the tree...to let his wife go with some other man! Thanks for understanding the pain! And about option it depends. I can never ever be forced to do anything i don't approve- mind you, nothing! I feel my parents brought me up like that :)
• Gurgaon, India
5 Apr 17
Right, I didn't found it logical but it was just a formality to satisfy our elders, my husband's maternal grandfather believed in these things and he didn't want any danger for his grandson. I was much childish to enjoy the process.
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• Kolkata, India
11 Apr 17
It happens in our culture also. This is something I have also known from childhood that if someone is having mangal dasha then he/she would be married to tree sometimes to dogs and so on. All this rituals sometimes sounds funny, but then again its our culture, so respect is something which should be made to it.
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• Gurgaon, India
12 Apr 17
Yes that is the truth. Although new generation don't find any logic in these rituals but we need to respect our elders believe and our culture.
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• Gurgaon, India
12 Apr 17
@subhajitsil6 you are right. In which state and city do you live?
• Kolkata, India
12 Apr 17
@Bodyandbrain Yes we have to.
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@Mass_Sonu (1021)
• India
5 Apr 17
@Bodyandbrain personally I feel that whatever culture we follow, nothing to worry as long as no visible harm is done, more over, why make the elders unhappy? So, whatever you did, I think it's a good experience to talk about & remember
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• Gurgaon, India
5 Apr 17
@Mass_Sonu thanks. In which state and city do you live?
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• Gurgaon, India
5 Apr 17
Thanks, at least someone speaks like how I think about it. It was not harmful for anyone and elders got satisfied that rituals are followed properly. It even made my marriage special because we didn't get each other easily.
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@Mass_Sonu (1021)
• India
5 Apr 17
@Bodyandbrain I'm also from India so I can understand , and you are welcome. Good picture, nice couple :)
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• India
17 Jun 17
Waw , i have seems these in films. It is really there right ... Cool
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• India
18 Jun 17
@Bodyandbrain but in kerala i didn't saw this .
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• Gurgaon, India
18 Jun 17
@sunilparthan I know, do they mach stars of boy and girl before marriage?
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• Gurgaon, India
17 Jun 17
Yes it really happens in India.
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@DianneN (247080)
• United States
17 May 17
I've heard about arranged marriages in your country. You make a very beautiful couple, and I hope all the bad effects of the stars were taken by that tree.
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@DianneN (247080)
• United States
17 May 17
@Bodyandbrain You're welcome. It's a nice tradition to keep the rituals alive.
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• Gurgaon, India
17 May 17
Actually elders believe in these things but these rituals are just a formality now. Thanks for your nice words.
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• Gurgaon, India
18 May 17
@DianneN yes to keep our tradition alive is good as there are many great things in it.
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@avi256 (8489)
• Pune, India
19 May 17
Wow, it is great you took that workaround. I know this is Manglik effect on Kundali that results in this tree marriage. I was disappointed missing out on marrying a girl, because of this horoscope game.
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@avi256 (8489)
• Pune, India
19 May 17
@Bodyandbrain Our Pandit did not agree, told that this will not work out. he simply used to write cross against such horoscopes. He didnt even accept bribes.
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• Gurgaon, India
19 May 17
So sad, why didn't you try this ritual?
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• Gurgaon, India
19 May 17
@avi256 oh! Was the girls choosed by you? God has different plans for us and not as we expect.
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
9 Apr 17
Wow, I have never heard such a thing, interesting tradition. I hope that you are very happy together
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
12 Apr 17
@Bodyandbrain That is touching -- that the older generation care as such.... I am happy that you and your husband are happy and congratulations on your child...
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• Gurgaon, India
12 Apr 17
@FayeHazel yes in our country old generation takes the responsibility to get their children married and have a peaceful life. Thanks dear
• Gurgaon, India
10 Apr 17
Yes I know it may sound strange to the people from different places but it really happens in our country, actually it's only a formality old generation prefer to get done, just to make sure that we are safe in future. Yes we are having a beautiful life together, I have one child.
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@spaceseed (2843)
• India
7 May 17
I am manglic as well. and My wife is also manglic so we had a good match.
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@spaceseed (2843)
• India
8 May 17
@Bodyandbrain I am not sure about her but I am having very good times, . May be I am on gainer side.....but I am sure about your husband too he is also on gainer side....finding such a partner. god bless you....mrs banarasi babu
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• Gurgaon, India
8 May 17
@spaceseed may God give you both more and more beautiful moments. I think I am on gainer side because my husband is a brilliant man and it's brilliance which attracts and makes me happy.
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• Gurgaon, India
8 May 17
That is so good. I hope you are having a beautiful life together.
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@syeow1 (5137)
• India
3 Apr 17
Incredible India...
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@syeow1 (5137)
• India
6 Apr 17
@Bodyandbrain busy with work
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• Gurgaon, India
6 Apr 17
@syeow1 okay, take care Good afternoon
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• Gurgaon, India
4 Apr 17
Well said. Where were you these days?
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@ShifaLk (17817)
• India
20 May 17
Omg.... How is it done ???
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• Gurgaon, India
20 May 17
In a simple manner, priest and my father, husband's mama ji and nana ji present, me sitting beside the tree ,hawan kund...
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• Gurgaon, India
20 May 17
@ShifaLk our marriage was fixed and before 15days of our marriage this ritual was being done.
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@ShifaLk (17817)
• India
20 May 17
@Bodyandbrain ohh hehe But your husband's mama ji too ????? Means you were married already with your husband that time ?
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@Roland2 (48)
• United Kingdom
22 Jun 17
Wow, well am speechless but i would say everyone has a culture and beliefs about their traditions and norms.
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• Gurgaon, India
23 Jun 17
Yes, you are right. We have to respect our culture and beliefs. It was just a ritual to satisfy our elders.
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• Gurgaon, India
23 Jun 17
@Roland2 no it was just a ritual and the marriage ended at the same day just after it was completed. I am married to the handsome man, you can see in the picture.
• United Kingdom
23 Jun 17
@Bodyandbrain And still up till now, are you still married to the tree?
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@LeaPea2417 (36469)
• Toccoa, Georgia
21 Apr 17
I have never heard of that. I learned something new today. Best wishes on your marriage.
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• Gurgaon, India
21 Apr 17
Thanks it is a strange ritual in our culture and just a formality.
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@sol_cee (38223)
• Philippines
8 Apr 17
Where's the tree now?
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• Gurgaon, India
8 Apr 17
The tree is still at its place in Varanasi.
@shshiju (10342)
• Cochin, India
5 Apr 17
Interesting story . I think this only happens in India. Culture and religion mixed with humans . What about your Pee Pal tree , is it exist ?
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@shshiju (10342)
• Cochin, India
6 Apr 17
@Bodyandbrain I read a interesting article yesterday . Bride's vehicle caught in traffic jam and he cannot attend the wedding in time. Then he go to the Poojari and make another muhoortham. Then the wedding took place in the changeable time.
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• Gurgaon, India
6 Apr 17
You are right and I think our culture is very interesting. Yes my peepal tree exist.
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• Gurgaon, India
6 Apr 17
@shshiju oh my God, I am speechless.
@responsiveme (22926)
• India
9 May 17
Wish you both a happy life
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• Gurgaon, India
10 May 17
Thank you so much. Have a great day
@Hari101 (1123)
• Chennai, India
3 Apr 17
In my place, at present these activities are decreased but recently I read in the newspaper that a girl was married to a dog. I was totally shocked and then I read the article fully about the news, I found that because some belief in their culture she did that for the welfare of her village.
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• Gurgaon, India
3 Apr 17
Being an Indian you may be knowing that there are many strange practices, but the society is changing and people have become open minded now. A girl getting married to dog is really disgusting.
@Slayqueen (918)
• India
12 Apr 17
I think everything happens for a reason in India.It's a part of our tradition and may seem conservative to some people but there is always a scientific reason attached to it.
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• Gurgaon, India
13 Apr 17
I am happy that you understand and respect our culture and traditions. We may not find it logical or scientific every time but to respect and try to understand is all we can do.
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