Is the SCHOOL BULLYING being taken an action SERIOUSLY?

Pasay, Philippines
April 8, 2017 12:39am CST
I've attended the homeschooling orientation last Tuesday for me to discover the curriculum being taught if I am already decided to enroll my little one. We were asked regarding the reason of why we all want our children to prefer homeschooling instead of the traditional schools. As I listened to the other parents the most common reason is because they are being BULLIED in school as others doesn't no longer want to go school, yet they are others who have serious kind of illness but then they would still encounter some classmates who are inconsiderate that would still make fun of it. While listening to them it makes me wonder now if how the schools take this action seriously. I am in doubt if the schools implemented it properly regarding the Anti Bullying act in which we have already a law for that. Because if they are really taken an action seriously then I don't think this will be a common reason of why other parents wouldn't no longer want their kids to stay away from that school. In some other cases I've also read that there are some principals who are having unfair decision that favors the students that are bullies. I could imagine as well the unfair or bias decision regarding this case. However I still believe that it still have the psychological effect, emotionally, self esteem or self confidence, mentally and other more concerns. It will also affects the studies and learning capacity of the each student if the bullying exists that much and not taken action seriously. We all know and understood about the primary reason why we send our children to schools is for them to LEARN in all kinds of aspect, yet we are all PAYING the schools. Having friends is just actually a bonus part of being in school, yet there must be no bullying involve after all. I just don't see any point of how come there are other school authorities who are ignoring this kind of situation.
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• Philippines
8 Apr 17
I've been a victim of bullying myself. It was all because of an misunderstanding and mom being a teacher accused some one of hurting me. After that, the bullying never stopped. It only took until my third year highschool to actually have friends.
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• Pasay, Philippines
10 Apr 17
I became a victim too, and take note it is actually boys who are doing that to me. Yet I've experience a big shame when others knew I am admiring a guy. That is the reason why I became more vigilant when facing and encounter guys, when I am admiring another guy I became too quiet. This is also the reason why it always came to my mentality that when I am going to marry it should be someone who will respect me as a person and a woman and thank God it was accomplished. If there's any issue about abusive marriages especially to women, I am too affected to it, even though I didn't literally experience being hurt physically but the verbal abuse then I know how it feels. On the other side of me in the effect of experiencing being a bullied, I became a vengeful person to the extent that I am always seeking for justices. Biases became big issue in my case and most of the time I am already ignoring other people who became bias to me up to the point that there are others that I don't accept them on my facebook account and not even inviting them to our own occasions or celebrations.
• Philippines
10 Apr 17
@Metatronik Well, try not to be vengeful now that you have a family. I mean you have God supposed doing that for you.
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• Pasay, Philippines
10 Apr 17
@Letranknight2015 Thanks a lot to your advise. For now I would probably stop since a former house helper had even reported me in Tulfo for cyberbullying her. I just revealed all the information that she did to me.
@averygirl72 (16617)
• Philippines
8 Apr 17
That's the reason why parents choose homeschooling than regular school
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• Pasay, Philippines
10 Apr 17
I am actually surprised about it and the health reasons is just the secondary. Now the schools must realize that dealing a problem about bullying is VALID and a serious matter.
@jstory07 (69828)
• Roseburg, Oregon
8 Apr 17
Bulling is still going on in the schools and the schools do nothing about it.
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• Pasay, Philippines
10 Apr 17
My pet peeves too ever since. Seems that schools are ignoring it at times it makes the victim of the bully feel that they are already less as a person and bullying is like an issue that must be just ignore. There are students who are emotionally strong enough to deal with bullying but then we are all different. What if a student who is being bullied has emotional problems too in other matters it can be in a family too?
• Australia
8 Apr 17
There are several reasons why parents prefer homeschooling their children than entrusting them to traditional school. It's individual choice after careful study, intelligent research and investigative evaluation and understanding in arriving at their final decision to homeschool. We've homeschool since 1994. I knew I could teach, train secure and love my children better. We've been part of a supportive homeschool network in our community.
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• Pasay, Philippines
10 Apr 17
In my case the reason why I want my kid is to influence the VALUE of LEARNING and hoping that I can inspire her and let her feel that education is FUN, instead of the feeling of obligation to study, to have high grades, and something that should be scared of specially the hard subjects. I want to use the practical method which is what we are usually doing in real life situation. I am hoping that I can teach my kid soon.
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• Australia
17 Apr 17
@Metatronik You are the one and only best mother and teacher for your children. You'll do great in providing a loving, caring, intelligent thinking, and love of learning home environment for you and your precious children. Bless your heart! May God give you the desires of your heart for your children. :-)
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• Pasay, Philippines
23 Apr 17
@everwonderwhy Thank you I am hoping that my child will appreciate and understand me how I care for her.
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@diosabella (4809)
8 Apr 17
I think homeschooling is perfect for students with good parents. I mean parents that have time to teach their children all they need to know. But majority of students from public schools cannot afford that.
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• Pasay, Philippines
10 Apr 17
That is the problem, in fact my husband wants our kid to send in public school so that she could learn also the difficulties. My issue here is if the teacher are fair enough in giving grades, educate the children or students well. I don't like the old fashion way that it will feel the students to study for the sake of the grades rather than the reward of learning to use it in real life situation. I don't like the system as well that you have to give something to the teacher in order for them not to fail the student or just to give good grades.
10 Apr 17
@Metatronik The problem now is the system of the public school and its consistency. Also the K to 12 program curriculum is something to think about too, my mom's opinion is that the curriculum wasn't well thought of. (My mom is a public school teacher for 35 years) Anyway, if your kid landed to the highest section, you have no problem with the teaching and all. Its true that parents give gifts to teachers but its the same in private schools. If you want your kid to be first, a lot of schools like to have gifts public or private. So better have a good research to different school before picking one.
• Philippines
10 Apr 17
Bullying is a reality and it's sad that it can happen to any of our children. My own kids experience bullying at school and I make sure to report any incident to their mentor and class adviser right away. I also talk to my children about why some kids bully, so instead of passing on the bully attitude, they develop empathy and understanding. It's tough to be out there, but at some point our children will have to learn to deal with this scenario their own way. When they grow up, they are likely to experience bullying at work too.
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• Pasay, Philippines
10 Apr 17
When I've actually attended the orientation there are some parents told us that they are being bullied already because of the health condition and others have even psychological issue even the ADHD. I think some are even hurt physically. I've read somewhere too that the reason as well it is because of the bias decision of the school that is in favor of the bully student instead of the victim. My husband actually wants to teach our kid on how to face them too or deal with it, but I told him so that at times it is challenging when you face the principal already and convince that our kid is just defending themselves. At times they would be having horrible decision like a sanction it can be to the bully or the victims of bullying. We will teach our kid too on how she is going to defend herself in arguments or any other confrontations.
@josie_ (7665)
• Philippines
11 Apr 17
Children who bully their classmates have psychological problems that may have been cause by a dysfunctional family or a broken family situation. We should not put the blame entirely on the teachers or school environment because the seeds of the behavior was planted at home.
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• Pasay, Philippines
11 Apr 17
Actually my point here is there are teachers or the school authorities who are not fair enough regarding the situation of the bullying. At times the victim here is given the sanction especially when that student is already over and that is the reason why he or she fought back. The others that are being bullied here are having psychological problems too and yet health conditions at the same time so bullying them is already adding fuel to the fire. We all have different issues at home that is why being a bully is not still an excuse. It is like a crime then the police are not doing anything about it yet unfair to the victim or complainant. What I am trying to say is sometimes it happens.
@josie_ (7665)
• Philippines
11 Apr 17
@Metatronik _I have had my share of bias teachers both when I was in school and as a parent/grandparent having to fight for the rights of my kids and grandchildren against unfair decisions/ action taken by school administrators. But I believe people get bullied because they have a "victim" mentality. Bullies usually are cowards. You have to make a stand and fight for your rights. This is what I tell my grandchildren. No one bullies them.
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• Pasay, Philippines
11 Apr 17
@josie_ There are some bullies as well that they are making themselves strong just because they have connivance or if they are with somebody else, not like they are doing it alone. Some are just joining the bandwagon to feel good about themselves but not being aware of the consequences. I've actually experience bullying from this former house helper that she keeps on abusing me since she knows that my parents will be in favor of her which became true. So long story. Up to the point that since I posted a warning about her on a some girl forum which there is a topic about horrible experience about the house helper she saw my 2015 post on just 2017 then she reported me to one of the media news and asking me to delete my post for her peace of mind. I realized that she is just a coward person too who cannot handle confrontations but still dreaming for the challenges and always wants to provoke a fight for the sake of her attention.
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@Shavkat (65270)
• Philippines
8 Apr 17
I am not sure if it is being handled in our country seriously. Bullying should be stopped and needs to give awareness to parents and teachers on dealing with it.
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• Pasay, Philippines
10 Apr 17
I am still in doubt to that issue even though there is a law already being released. There are some cases too that teachers themselves are bullies too. My husband actually told me that the reason that he wants our daughter to send to school is to teach her how to deal with bullies. I told him so that it can be a great idea although the worst challenge here is the decision of the principal which can be hard to convinced. I insisted much that the reason that I want our kid to home school it is because of the LEARNING and that must be always the primary reason. Not because of the classmates or to learn how to socialize with other people. There are many other ways to make friends not just in school. We are planning as well that I want her to enroll in sports activities.
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@Shavkat (65270)
• Philippines
10 Apr 17
@Metatronik I think it is good to have homeschooling as an option. But the downside, it will compromise the social skills of the child. The best thing is to encourage the child to communicate with the parents. If somebody was bullying them.
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• Pasay, Philippines
10 Apr 17
@Shavkat actually that kind of challenge was discussed too during the orientation. I just told my husband that there are other ways in terms of social skills, I am actually planning to enroll her in gymnastics since I could see that she has the potential to do that kind of sports. In the home school that I've attended which was the Catholic Filipino Academy they organize some other activities too which encourages the students to learn such as instruments, camping and other more in which it can develop the social skills too.
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@allen0187 (33914)
• Philippines
16 Apr 17
Bullying is indeed a serious problem at school and the best way to eradicate this is through further education and information dissemination. it starts and continues both in school and at home. Parents and teachers play both a vital role in resolving this bullying crisis at schools nowadays.
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• Pasay, Philippines
23 Apr 17
I strongly believe that it should be strictly implemented so that the situation would be no longer tolerable. It will really affect the lives of children, emotional, self esteem, psychologically.
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@allen0187 (33914)
• Philippines
24 Apr 17
@Lucky15 (33698)
• Philippines
11 Apr 17
It does always have an effect, more on psychological aspect, pretty sad that there are more bullies out there :(
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• Pasay, Philippines
12 Apr 17
Have you heard about this news? So sad that it came to the point that someone has to be killed because of bullying. This is an example that parents are concern about it, some of them are complaining that their child has already health condition yet they are still being bullied aside from that due to the fact that they are victims already they are the ones given unfair decision to the point that they have to be given a sanction
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