What are you going to do if...
By Shavkat
@Shavkat (137213)
Philippines
April 19, 2017 5:58am CST
your cousin is always eating in the house. I am not saying that I don't want him to eat every meal in the house. The mere fact, he tried to bum off us on a daily basis. It wasn't supposed to be. He graduated from a university. I think it is about time for him to find a job. It seems he was so insensitive. He needs to make his own. I am not being unkind here. When I was at his age, I tried to find a job to help my parents. This is not right.
What do you think? Am I being selfish?
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19 responses
@infatuatedbby (95001)
• United States
19 Apr 17
Not selfish but he shouldn't bum at your home on a daily basis for food.
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@infatuatedbby (95001)
• United States
19 Apr 17
Yes he totally shouldn't @Shavkat Are you going have a talk with him!
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@Shavkat (137213)
• Philippines
19 Apr 17
@infatuatedbby I am planning to do it tomorrow.
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
19 Apr 17
Not selfish. My cousins have always gotten into our food when theyve been over. Even if they had jobs and money. Its just a thing i guess
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
19 Apr 17
@Shavkat well for your sake, i hope so.
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@allknowing (130064)
• India
20 Apr 17
He should get his own fishing tackle and start fishing for himself.
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@Shavkat (137213)
• Philippines
20 Apr 17
I hope he will realize this. I tried to talk to him. What is his plan? Well, he wanted to go work abroad. Thus, he wanted to be at home and wait for his application push through. I told him to find his source of income while waiting for it.
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
19 Apr 17
I would talk to him and tell him straight to find a job and offer to help him if I have connections or give him a little allowance for transportation if I have extra and ask him to report to me results. Why does he eat there? Does he not have a house of his own
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
19 Apr 17
@Shavkat oh I see Buddy, I want to give you sound advice if I may direct from the bible
New International Version
"For even when we were with you, we gave you this rule: "The one who is unwilling to work shall not eat " 2 Thessalonians 3:10
So stop feeding him
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@Shavkat (137213)
• Philippines
19 Apr 17
@louievill My mother will have this drastic move.lol
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@PainsOnSlate (21854)
• Canada
19 Apr 17
I think he needs to get a job too, even my own children had to get jobs rather than just hanging around and doing nothing...
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@Shavkat (137213)
• Philippines
21 Apr 17
@PainsOnSlate I think my mother had talked to him. I don't see him around lately.
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@PainsOnSlate (21854)
• Canada
20 Apr 17
@Shavkat yikes, looks like he needs a big push - out the door!
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
19 Apr 17
The way you think/feel is just like the way I feel about my daughter. I don't mind she eats at all but she eats almost non-stop. And if she eats and she puts on just a little bit of weight then at least I can see whatever she eats right there on her body... I see nothing... I keep reminding her that I do the shopping to feed the whole family, not just her so.............stop and eat less... Do I make you feel any better? You toward your cousin and me toward my own daughter.... I am a bad mum... surely...
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@Shavkat (137213)
• Philippines
20 Apr 17
@atoz1to10 I tried to have a conversation with him. He seems so hard knuckle. He is late 30's. That's the reason why I am furious of snatching some food at home.
@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
19 Apr 17
@Shavkat no problem... how old is this cousin of yours? Maybe you two need to sit down and have a good talk, man to man, is that the term you use? Maybe after the talk you will save a lot of money..
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
20 Apr 17
No you are not. You have the reason to say that because already graduated in a university. He should, by this time looking for a job already.
@hostessman (11871)
• Tucson, Arizona
20 Apr 17
i would give him a date and tell him he needs to have a job by then or move out
@responsiveme (22926)
• India
19 Apr 17
No, you need to be firm For his own good he should set about being independent.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
20 Apr 17
talk to him, man to man, and show him that he needs to have his own life. that is not selfishness, that is reality bites.
@manasamanu (3746)
• Bangalore, India
19 Apr 17
No, you are being responsible. Indeed he should be too. Some people never understand this and become a burden to their parents, who has to take care of them even after putting all efforts in making his son become a responsible person.
@khaledsifou (317)
• Algeria
19 Apr 17
not selfish... he had to find a job...?? but maybe he could not find a job.. so you cna help him if he stilll looking about small job to make his life better??
