Would you adopt a child born without limbs?..
By Hazel Vee
@epiffanie (11326)
Australia
April 29, 2017 11:32pm CST
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After my youngest son was born when I was 30, I wanted to adopt a little girl because I wanted so much to have a daughter, but made up my mind after the age of 30, no more pregnancy for me.. But the other half was not willing to share the home with another child..
When I got divorced at the age of 35, I gave up on my dream of having a daughter. They won't let you adopt if you are a single parent.. When I got remarried at 45, even though my husband was willing to adopt, we are considered too old for it..
Last night I came across this youtube Channel Stewart Family who adopted a little girl from the Philippines who was born without limbs. I was so touched by their story.. I am so amazed that there are people like them who are so full of love for others who are in need.. They showed me what LOVE really is ..
I feel so grateful for the little girl that she found a home, loving parents and siblings.. I can not imagine the energy, emotion and time they put into the care of this beautiful child.. I can't help wondering what would happen to her in the future when her siblings have their own lives to live and her parents are passed on..
There are so many things I have taken for granted until I came across stories like this..I have seen a few more stories of people born with extreme disabilities.. Some of these cases still can't be explained by the experts.. Such are the mysteries and flukes of life..
I am grateful that I and my children are not in this predicament, but it does not sound right to say that we are blessed because we are born this way and not that way, does it? ..
Anyway, would you consider adopting a child born without limbs or with any disabilities at all? Would you think of me as unloving and selfish human being if I say that I am not willing to take on that responsibility?..
Bess .
here's the link .. if you have spare time to watch this amazing people..
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21 responses
@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
30 Apr 17
Yes it's hard to take on that responsibility .. This family get a lot of help from others too so they can take care of this child..
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
17 Aug 17
I couldn't either.. I have deep respect and admiration for those who can .. I just do my bit in helping fellow human in some other ways..
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@scheng1 (24650)
• Singapore
30 Apr 17
I am not willing to take on the responsibility too.
It will be a responsibility for life. I will have to think about setting up a trust fund to support the child forever.
The house will have to undergo extensive renovation for the disabled to move around freely and safely.
It sure is too much work, and I have no experience handling it.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
17 Aug 17
Yes.. there's so many things need to considered when taking on this kind of responsibility ..
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@prashu228 (37525)
• India
30 Apr 17
That's nice but i wont be able to do that, we have to give her time and look after her at every single point, we should do justice otherwise it will be hell for her
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
29 May 17
Would I consider adopting such a child? Well, to be honest @epiffanie I truly don't know It all depends on so many factors. First of all, would I have the means, financial, emotional and health wise, to take on the responsibility. Would I be confident to accept this challenge of someone else's child without letting him/her down?
If the answer to my queries is yes, maybe then I would venture to parent this huge responsibility. ALL the same, I admire those who are compassionate enough to accept this challenge.
Thank You for shedding light on such an important issue. God Bless & nice meeting you.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
27 Aug 17
@Gabugs .. Yes indeed, there's so much to consider ... If I am a millionaire and will not run out of funds even when I'm gone, if I can afford to employ carers, there is no doubt that I will take on the responsibility in adopting unwanted physically disabled children ... Because I know I am capable of extending love .. Children with this kind of disability needs a 24 hours care.. At least 3 carers will be needed ...
Thank you so much for giving this a thought and it's so nice meeting your here too ..
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
12 Jun 17
What upsets me, is the people who have these children and many times put them up for adoption for someone else to raise. I can see when finances play a role in it. Glad though that things are turning around for this child.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
17 Aug 17
I thought of that too.. It's really not fair that parents of these children abandoned them to be raised by others ..
@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
28 Aug 17
Yes indeed .. it is a huge responsibility .. Not everyone can do that ..
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
17 Aug 17
I think I wouldn't if I am with a full time job. A child like that would need a full attention. So a stay at home mom can have her.
I can't help shedding tears while watching that link. The Stewart family are angels here on earth. And I have noticed their boy seems of another nationality. Oh, they really touched my heart for being so loving and kind.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
27 Aug 17
Yes indeed! .. So grateful that there are people like the Stewart family ..
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
30 May 17
I don't find it selfish at all that you wouldn't want to, I wouldn't be able to do that either. I love children very much but it takes a different kind of person to be able to adopt a little one with a disability and it takes someone that has a good amount of financial resources that I do not have.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
27 Aug 17
Yes exactly right .. But when it comes to finances, I think this family is getting a lot of help from a few organisations and individuals.. which is really good because they need all the help they can get ..
@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
5 May 17
I think you are wise to know that this is not something you could handle. I am not sure that I could either.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
17 Aug 17
It's good though that many people are prepared to do this otherwise, it's a lonely existence for those children..
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@PatZAnthony (14752)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
7 May 17
There are many reasons to love a person, and those without limbs or certain abilities can still be loved by someone. Many people do adopt those who are disabled and understand some of what they will deal with, but it is not for everyone.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
28 Aug 17
Yes indeed .. and I have great respect and admiration for those that can ..
@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
27 Aug 17
I agree! .. not everyone of us has that gift of love beyond compare ..
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
17 Aug 17
There is nothing wrong with being selfish .. and it's not good to be selfless..
@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
17 Aug 17
I always say that I'd rather be selfish than selfless...
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@abhinalstrikr (4111)
• India
30 Apr 17
Love sees nothing more important than love itself,story is awesome for me if i have enough of money i would love to do social works for this type of kids,who are nothing less than humans itself,not hatred for them sympathy instead
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
28 Aug 17
Yes.. I too will care for disabled children if I have enough money ...
@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
30 Apr 17
I also saw it on FB and admired the couple for taking in the girl in spite of her appearance. I could not adopt her, we are not rich to have a lifetime nanny to take care of her. Maybe the couple have plans for her when they are no longer around. God bless them!
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
17 Aug 17
They get a lot of financial help too from some charity organisations .. But it is the time and devotion to this child that I admire of them the most ..
@FayeHazel (40246)
• United States
1 May 17
What an amazing story. Thanks for sharing. No, I think no less of you for not wishing to adopt such a specialized case. The child would need a lot of specialized care, and a lot of stress would go with this role. This because I wouldn't either - this because I don't want children at all. I wanted to be someone's aunt -- however that's impossible as I'm an only child.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
28 Aug 17
Thank you! indeed, this child needs a lot of specialised care ..
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