Why Must I Not Gossip?

@Gabugs (1895)
United States
May 10, 2017 12:51pm CST
Gossip gets me nowhere. It is a sheer waste of my time. It could carry with it negative vibes and malicious connotations. It serves no purpose; but tends to create more harm than good for all those who regularly indulge in this pass time. Although some folks maybe of the opinion that gossip would be O.K. for those who have nothing better to do, I do not totally agree on this front. To think of it, each of us could do something better, something positive instead of indulging in plain gossip. No matter what your age, we could make better use of our time. Time is indeed a precious God-given commodity which should be used wisely. However, I would not hesitate to offer well-meaning, constructive criticism to those who seek it. For one thing, its intent is to help someone do better at whatever he or she may be doing. It could be mutually satisfying to both the giver and the receiver, for it would not carry with it negative undertones. As unlike gossip, there would be no risk involved in bringing down someone’s image or ego. Most of all, I would enjoy participating in a good conversation or healthy discussions. These are often stimulating for the brain, enhancing my focus on what is being discussed. Besides, they enable me to gain knowledge with the exchange of ideas and experiences. So, what about you folks? Do you enjoy gossiping occasionally? Are you open to give and receive constructive criticism? Or do you only choose to participate in good conversation or healthy discussions? Or perhaps, a combination of all the above three? IMAGE: Courtesy of Pixabay
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
12 May 17
It's natural to talk about other people sometimes, but when it turns into denigrating other people, that's the time to stop.
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• Laguna Woods, California
13 May 17
@jaboUK - I agree. I just commented the same thing. I occasionally chat with friends about our mutual friends, but we try to never be critical or mean.
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
12 May 17
You have certainly hit the nail on the head Janet @jaboUK However, at times, people do not realize when they need to stop. Or sometimes, they do it deliberately to hurt someone they do not agree with.
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• India
13 May 17
thats exactly my sentiment
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@celticeagle (159474)
• Boise, Idaho
10 May 17
Gossip can be hurtful. To participate in a good conversation is one thing, Gossip is something totally different. Telling true or, at times, untrue things about other people is a waste of everyone's time. If there is news that person should be the one to tell it, not heard from other people. Giving and receiving constructive criticism is one thing. To the person, not behind their back.
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
11 May 17
@celticeagle You are 100% right in your thinking. Alas! wish more people would follow this ; then life would be so much more pleasurable!
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@celticeagle (159474)
• Boise, Idaho
11 May 17
@Gabugs .....Wouldn't it though?
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
13 May 17
@celticeagle Perhaps, gossip is carried on recklessly without giving thought to the amount of damage it could cause to another human being.
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• United States
12 May 17
I have no one to gossip with even if I desired that scenario. Even online, I am too busy myLotting to do so.
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• United States
13 May 17
@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
12 May 17
You are indeed wise to follow the right course of action @TiarasOceanView
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• Philippines
11 May 17
I hate gossips, they are never entirely real and it destroys some one's reputation. I remember in the news that a woman got jailed for gossiping and cause a broken relationships.
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
11 May 17
Really? @Letranknight2015 Yes, gossiping incessantly can be dangerous. In a way, even if what is said, is true, there could be no excuse for speaking behind someone's back.
@jstory07 (134601)
• Roseburg, Oregon
10 May 17
I do not like to hear gossip and it goes no further than me. Since I do not like to pass it own.
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
10 May 17
That's a very good policy you are following @jstory07
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
11 May 17
A bit of gossip with my very very good friends once in a while...But nothing downright malicious. And I never tell what another person confides to me as a secret. As a rule however I keep away from groups who indulge in gossip...I get my head into my latest novel
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
11 May 17
@responsiveneme That's the way to go indeed! You may be right to a certain extent especially if you have some good news to share about a mutual family member/friend. That indeed would not be gossip. If the intent is good and not malicious, it would not be gossip. Agree?
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@PatZAnthony (14752)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
15 May 17
It is a terrible habit that serves no useful purpose, yet many humans can spend house doing this @Gabugs
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@PatZAnthony (14752)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
17 May 17
@Gabugs Hoping not to be like that! Don't mind getting older, but don't want to be known as a gossip.
@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
15 May 17
@PatZAnthony It seems they enjoy gossiping as they have nothing better to do- - - especially old ladies in the neighborhood.
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@DeborahDiane (40064)
• Laguna Woods, California
13 May 17
I enjoy chatting with my friends and, occasionally, we will mention other mutual friends we know ... especially if they are ill or going through a difficult time. However, I guess those conversations could be considered gossip. I don't like mean-spirited, critical types of discussions about other people, however.
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• Laguna Woods, California
13 May 17
@Gabugs - I agree. I only feel uncomfortable when the conversation becomes critical.
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
13 May 17
@DeborahDiane Certainly, it would be best to criticize a person on his/her face instead of his/her back.
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
13 May 17
Conversations and discussions regarding mutual friends is understandable and certainly not gossip as the the " intent" is not malicious.
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