Psychosis is not the best word for this..

United States
May 17, 2017 7:31pm CST
I realize this is long, but I assure you it should be a quick read for most.. Psychosis refers to a mental state of mind that is so impaired that reality is lost to the individual affected by it. Psychosis isn't the proper term here, but it's the best I can come up with at the moment. Imagine this, if you will.. A person is conversing with family about the past. They are harping about things that happened to them, and how much of a hardship / trauma it was to them. Meanwhile, and while doing so, they are belittling the people also involved in this past event. The people who were also involved were, in many ways, much more traumatized by the events that unfolded. While the person narrating the past events did have cause to be upset, their burden was nowhere near as great as those whom she was talking about. This person made those other people's burdens seem like quite a big inconvenience to her. Do you know anyone like that? The person to whom I refer is a relative. I am hard pressed to remember a time when things didn't inevitably come back to being about her.. Her hardships, her burdens, her stresses. Furthermore, this person, who was talking about the past, also relayed a situation / event that me (being privy to the conversation) should not have been told about. At the same time, the people to whom she refers have been deceased for several years and should be left to rest in peace. Bringing up any bad things to do with them, in my opinion, is talking bad about the dead. Her role in the family should give her pause from discussing anything bad about the people to whom she is referring. Again, my presence in the room, and her absentmindedness of not asking me to excuse myself, are inexcusable. Her personality did not allow for me to ask her to stop, or to softly chide her for bringing up such things in my presence. In actuality, any kind of reaction out of me would be paramount to her glee. Even exiting the room in my own accord would not give me the reprieve I so desire. I know from past experience that doing such a thing only gave her fuel to pester me further. Let me give you an example... Regarding one of the deceased I mentioned above. This family member was talking about the deceased family member in a bad light (meaning : not nicely) and I did not wish to hear it. I simply got up and exited the room. Upon my return, the discussion had changed. However, instead of offering an apology for her speaking ill of the deceased, she merely teased me about my unwillingness to listen to her about it. Some of you might think the teasing was mild and shouldn't be something that would cause me further distress. However, she knew before discussing the deceased in that manner that I would not like it... Just like today when she brought up a different subject to do with two of our deceased relatives...
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@sallypup (15640)
• Moses Lake, Washington
18 May
You may need to get verbally firmer with the person.
• United States
18 May
As I stated here, it would do no good. I have tried to be verbally firmer, I have tried to appeal to their emotions, but it does no good. Walking away doesn't do any good most times either. She likes to see others suffer. A lot of people I know have a hard time believing me when I say that but my family definitely understands. This woman likes to see other suffer and enjoys bickering with others. Meanwhile, I am the opposite. I don't like to see suffering and I don't want to bicker, atleast not bad naturedly.
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@sallypup (15640)
• Moses Lake, Washington
18 May
@ScribbledAdNauseum Then do what I do. Keep a geographical cure going. I am a mountain pass away from my personal pains in the rump. Feels good.
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• Philippines
18 May
I wouldn't be hanging out with that kind of person EVER again even if it's a Family Member. I don't want spent my eternity with some one who desires the suffering of others. She doesn't really she's not happy and wants others to drag along with her. She's evil from my point of view here. I guess this is why Mom never talks about sensitive and scandalous things to me.
• United States
18 May
You summed her up pretty well.. I wouldn't necessarily call her evil, and she isn't always like this, but she isn't the nicest person either...
• Ponce De Leon, Florida
18 May
You need to be clear to the said family member.
• United States
18 May
I gave an example within the discussion to prove that it does little to no good in most situations. I have tried appealing to their good nature, I have tried to be firm but polite.. .Walking away doesn't even help sometimes. Today she told me something (I alluded to above) about my deceased mother that should have been left in the past...