For wedding preparations should anyone demand for financial assistance even before someone accepts to be part of the committee?

@waflay (2727)
Nairobi, Kenya
May 18, 2017 4:25am CST
I saw the in the social media, this lady claims to have been called rude for turning down a request by her former classmate to be part of his wedding committee.She says what annoyed her was the fact that they had not met or talked for the last nine years only to receive a message with his demands and even including the amount of cash that she ought to give as her contributions. I have always thought that if you plan on having a lavish wedding, you ought to plan well in advance and start saving for the D-day.Or better still if you need assistance from your friends, then inform them formally invite and give them a chance to pledge their financial contributions.
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@boiboing (12881)
• Northampton, England
18 May 17
I would call her 'rude' too - and I'd probably throw in selfish and possibly lazy too.
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@waflay (2727)
• Nairobi, Kenya
18 May 17
Maybe but I think this texting thing just caught her off guard.
@MALUSE (44537)
• Uzbekistan
18 May 17
I'm surprised by your harsh reaction. Someone doesn't contact you for nine years and then invites you telling you how much money you're expected to bring with you. I would be mightily miffed, to say the least.
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@shivamani10 (11187)
• Hyderabad, India
18 May 17
The mistake lies with the both. The turning down the request appears to be rude. There are many friends who do not talk or communicate for many years but still, they maintain their friendship when the occasion comes. This is the real friendship.
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@waflay (2727)
• Nairobi, Kenya
18 May 17
I guess their cutting off communication was possibly the determining factor here.True friends should always stand for one another.
• New Delhi, India
18 May 17
I completely agree with your view
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@waflay (2727)
• Nairobi, Kenya
18 May 17
Any good decision is only good enough if all parties are involved.
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• New Delhi, India
18 May 17
@waflay yes...
@Shavkat (65887)
• Philippines
18 May 17
I think she is acting nonsense and rude.
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@waflay (2727)
• Nairobi, Kenya
18 May 17
I think this guy ought to have called her over even if for a cup of coffee to at least try to do some catching up on the both of their lives.
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@Shavkat (65887)
• Philippines
19 May 17
@waflay I think it is fine to do this. But with the personality of the girl, I am not sure.
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@inter4 (322)
• Nanjing, China
18 May 17
The similar thing happened to me once . A junior classmate of mine sent a message to me oneday ,he invited me to his wedding. At that time I hadn't connected with him for over 7 years since graduate. I told him that I hadn't time to participate his wedding and I had no earnings as I was still in school. He blamed me and then blocked me , I feel a little disappointed .
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@waflay (2727)
• Nairobi, Kenya
18 May 17
I guess this has happened to lots of people. I wonder what they expect... jump in and milk yourself dry for someone who just popped up from your past? I don't think so. It takes a really generous person to fall for that trap.
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