He is so much more then his diagnosis!
@shaggin (71666)
United States
May 20, 2017 12:41pm CST
On the Autism groups I joined on Facebook the people start their posts with "My aspie...". It really bugs me to see this. I do not refer to my son like that I refer to him as my son or my son who has Aspergers etc.
They are so much more the diagnosis they received.
I would not want my mom referring to me as "My depressive". To me hearing someone refer to their child who has Aspergers as "My aspie" is as bad as a parent with a mentally challenged child referring to them by the R word!
I am thinking of unfollow those groups and pages on Facebook.
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@GardenGerty (157563)
• United States
20 May 17
People need some common sense. Every child is different, whether they are on the autism spectrum or not. They ARE more than their diagnosis. We all are. I like your analogy of your mom calling you "her depressive" which I am pretty certain she does not do. You are right, they are so so wrong.
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@shaggin (71666)
• United States
25 May 17
I doubt many parents would call their kids their depressive yet they find it okay to call their child who has Aspergers their aspie. I just don't think it's right.
@marguicha (215492)
• Chile
20 May 17
I absolutly agree with you!!! When I was diagnosed with cancer some people said about me that I was fighting the "good" or "big" fight and that I was so brave! By no means! I was living my life as best as I could, just as I´m doing it now.
Your child will live a wonderful life as long as he is loved. And so will you as all people we love should be counted as blessings.
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@marguicha (215492)
• Chile
25 May 17
@shaggin You are absolutly right. We don´t want anyone to say we are brave. But it would be nicer to come with a pie or something to have a coffee together. And talk about anything BUT our sorrows.
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@Tina30219 (81538)
• Onaway, Michigan
21 May 17
I agree it is not right to think of a child that way. Yeah I agree I am sure you can find other groups on facebook better than the ones you are talking about.
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@shaggin (71666)
• United States
24 May 17
My guess is that all the groups that allow the members to write posts will have the same issue.
@JudyEv (325854)
• Rockingham, Australia
21 May 17
Can you not add a message saying why you find this offensive? (but maybe use a 'softer' word than 'offensive'). Sometimes people just don't think. Maybe they will stop this once it's been pointed out to them. It's a shame they are doing this I think. I'm sure the kids all have a lot of other positive attributes - as you say.
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
20 May 17
Yes I get that Shaggin.
Sounds to make it trendy or something. It would bother me too.
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
22 May 17
@shaggin I really don't like those terms with anything. Terrible.
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@shaggin (71666)
• United States
24 May 17
I agree. They seem to think it is a cute way to refer to them but I do not like it. Even my son's counselor refers to one of her grandsons that way :-\
@RasmaSandra (73473)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
20 May 17
Sounds like they are taking things much too lightly and anyway if you have a serious illness it is no laughing matter no matter what.
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@shaggin (71666)
• United States
22 May 17
Even my son's counselor refers to her "aspie grandchild".
@shaggin (71666)
• United States
27 May 17
We should refer to them as what they are our children ... Not refer to them as our autistic children etc. I just wish people would think about how they speak first. I think it's bad to make a child feel labeled.
