Tell Them What They Need to Hear, Not What They Want to Hear

Phoenix, Arizona
June 5, 2017 3:18pm CST
Have you ever had to tell someone what they needed to hear and not what they wanted to hear? I have an ex, from high school who messages me randomly. This started about a month ago. I guess he just got out of jail. He is always wanting to know, what I am doing and if I can hang out. Normally I ignore it. The other day though, it got annoying. I mean, I am engaged and he is married. I don't think it would be right for us to hang out. I told him that he should be hanging out with his family, since he has been away for so long. He shouldn't be trying to hang out with other women. He has been messaging my sister as well. When I told him how I felt, he got very defensive and said I was being judgemental. I just felt like since he has been away from his family for so long (Wife and kids) he should be hanging out with them.
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7 responses
• United States
5 Jun
Wow he should be grateful that he has now got time with his family..What a scoundrel he is. Nah you were right to tell him..nevermind his pouting antics. Sounds a bit of a sleeze.
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@luispas (1719)
• Venezuela
5 Jun
Oh he's so wrong, you're right, he need to spend time with his family instead of trying to be with you or your sister. He's being disrespectful. So well done To know when to tell the truth, I think it depends on the situation and the person who's going to hear it
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• Phoenix, Arizona
6 Jun
He wasn't too happy with what I had to say and deleted me. Oh, well. He was just looking to get into some trouble.
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@luispas (1719)
• Venezuela
6 Jun
@star_disgate I guess that's better, less problems for you haha
@Courtlynn (65021)
• United States
5 Jun
Agreed. I know a few men like this. Its sad.
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@MALUSE (37006)
• Germany
5 Jun
What you did was the right thing.
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@Fishmomma (11524)
• United States
5 Jun
I agree with the other posters. I'm feeling sorry for his children, as they should have more time with Dad and his wife deserves a man that is supportive and helpful to their family.
@Mike197602 (13366)
• Worcester, England
5 Jun
sounds like a loser to me. Drop him
@Fleura (7054)
• United Kingdom
5 Jun
You are right, I know people like that as well. they should just concentrate on their own lives first.