Hopeful Help

@nanette64 (18090)
Fairfield, Texas
June 15, 2017 9:40am CST
I have mentioned that I don't normally have 2 pennies to rub together and that robbing Peter to pay Paul is a constant struggle. The bills are overwhelming and by the middle of the month, there is zip, zero, zilch, nada. When my daughter came to visit and she saw that I literally looked like a skeleton, her and Cary went to the grocery store to buy me food. She was so upset that the freezer was empty, the refrigerator was empty and the cupboards had a few boxes of macaroni and cheese. We have always joked about winning the lottery (yeah, like I've got a dollar to buy one). Yesterday she informed me that she started a Go Fund Me page. I was surprised, shocked and grateful all at the same time. I wish at age 66 that I could work a job and trust me if it wasn't for my physical condition, I would still be working. I've worked since I was 11-years-old; sometimes 2 jobs at the same time for most of my life. It sucks when you have to figure out what bills you are going to pay and which ones you're not.
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@CinnamonGrl (6074)
• Paradise, California
15 Jun 17
I am 66 also and living at my 96 year old mother's home. I had to stop work at 54 due to a surgery that left me with severe chronic pain. I know where you're coming from.and it's no dang fun. I don't know how I'm going to survive when my folks are gone, really. Finances are a terrible worry. I get my SS tomorrow, I can help you a little if you would like to msg. me with the Go Fund Me page.You didn't do anything wrong, you deserve some help. Good for your daughter to start the page. Hugs.
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@nanette64 (18090)
• Fairfield, Texas
15 Jun 17
I appreciate your offer of help @CinnamonGrl but you hang onto every penny you get tomorrow. I feel ya.
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@LadyDuck (183282)
• Switzerland
15 Jun 17
@CinnamonGrl I am also 66 and my Mom is 96, but we do not live together.
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@Kandae11 (40358)
15 Jun 17
I am happy that your daughter came and got you groceries. Is she your only child?
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@marlina (79730)
• Canada
15 Jun 17
@nanette64 So sorry to read about your son. Can't be easy to go through this.
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@nanette64 (18090)
• Fairfield, Texas
15 Jun 17
@marlina About all I have is hope.
@JolietJake (51104)
• United States
15 Jun 17
I know what you mean, I often have to rob Peter AND Paul to pay Phillip.
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@nanette64 (18090)
• Fairfield, Texas
15 Jun 17
It sucks big time don't it @JolietJake ? That standing on the corner thing may become a reality. Oh lord have mercy.
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@amadeo (76181)
• United States
15 Jun 17
that is terrible to hear.No need to be out of food there.Do you have a food pantry in your area?
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@nanette64 (18090)
• Fairfield, Texas
15 Jun 17
I do @amadeo but they don't give me much since I'm alone.
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@marlina (79730)
• Canada
15 Jun 17
Are you allowed to let us know about the page on Go Fund Me ?
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@nanette64 (18090)
• Fairfield, Texas
15 Jun 17
I'm not sure @marlina . I don't know if the post would be deleted if I did. Maybe @JolietJake knows for sure.
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@JolietJake (51104)
• United States
15 Jun 17
@nanette64 @marlina Unfortunately, linking it, or telling people to PM you for info about it, would both be considered violations.
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@marlina (79730)
• Canada
15 Jun 17
@JolietJake Thanks for telling us about it.
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@NJChicaa (47635)
• United States
15 Jun 17
That is terrible. Are you eligible for food stamps?
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@nanette64 (18090)
• Fairfield, Texas
15 Jun 17
They give me $16 a month @NJChicaa . I guess they figure I don't need more than a box of cereal, loaf of bread and gallon of milk.
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@NJChicaa (47635)
• United States
15 Jun 17
@nanette64 that is absurd!!!!
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@nanette64 (18090)
• Fairfield, Texas
15 Jun 17
@NJChicaa I know, I don't get it. It's not like I'm asking for steak & lobster.
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@Tampa_girl7 (26816)
• United States
15 Jun 17
You are blessed to have your daughter. Is there a food pantry in your area ?
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@Tampa_girl7 (26816)
• United States
15 Jun 17
@nanette64 we also have churches around here that help.
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@nanette64 (18090)
• Fairfield, Texas
15 Jun 17
@Tampa_girl7 I did try that once but because I wasn't a member, they didn't want to help.
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@Tampa_girl7 (26816)
• United States
15 Jun 17
@nanette64 that's just not right.
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@marlina (79730)
• Canada
15 Jun 17
Sorry that you are having such difficulties. Hope that helps.
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@nanette64 (18090)
• Fairfield, Texas
15 Jun 17
Me too @marlina . I've got enough physical stress let alone adding mental stress too.
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@marlina (79730)
• Canada
15 Jun 17
@nanette64 Physical stress brings a lot of mental stress to a person.
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@LadyDuck (183282)
• Switzerland
15 Jun 17
I am glad that your daughter bought food for you. She surely fears you do not eat enough and I think she is right.
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@nanette64 (18090)
• Fairfield, Texas
15 Jun 17
Yeah, I'm what you call a skinny-minnie @LadyDuck .
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@LadyDuck (183282)
• Switzerland
15 Jun 17
@nanette64 I am not anorexic but I am not big either. When I traveled to the United States several time people told me that I was too thin and I needed to eat more. Surely not, I am well without extra weight to carry around.
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@nanette64 (18090)
• Fairfield, Texas
15 Jun 17
@LadyDuck There ya go. And besides; who want to have to buy a new wardrobe to accommodate extra pounds.
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@andriaperry (61506)
• Anniston, Alabama
15 Jun 17
You can get food stamps if you do not have enough money to make ends meet. If you get food stamps you get a free Obama phone with 250 minutes a month. If you have a spare bedroom maybe you can rent it out, get a roommate. I would ditch any cable/ dish t.v. and I would cut off the internet if I could not buy food and I most certainly would not be paying for a cell phone. Power and water are the most important to have beside a roof over your head. And when you go to the food pantry let them know that you will not have any food for 2 weeks. Do you live in a place you can plant seeds for fresh vegetables? I heard that you can buy packs of seed and tomato plants with food stamps.
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@nanette64 (18090)
• Fairfield, Texas
15 Jun 17
I don't use a cell phone @andriaperry except for extreme emergencies. I get $16 a month in food stamps. I tried a roommate once and was robbed. Doing the vegetable thing would be hard for me with my spinal injuries.
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@nanette64 (18090)
• Fairfield, Texas
15 Jun 17
@LoriAMoore Originally I filed for Disability and was denied. That was because my stupid attorney forgot to mention it would be a good idea to have an independent, physical test done. Once I did that the judge said if he had that info the 1st time, he would have given the okay. The Disability lasted a full year before being switched to Social Security.
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• India
15 Jun 17
So sorry to hear about your situation. Good that your daughter is there to take care of you. Life is truly a struggle. Still hope for the best.
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@nanette64 (18090)
• Fairfield, Texas
15 Jun 17
We live 3 states away from each other @Blushandglow . When she came down, it had been 2 years since I had seen her. She had paid for me to come to Nebraska to attend my granddaughter's wedding.
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• India
16 Jun 17
@nanette64 have faith. This hard time will soon pass by. Remain hopeful.
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@nanette64 (18090)
• Fairfield, Texas
16 Jun 17
@Blushandglow I will try; thank you.
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@Debscrochet (1129)
• United States
15 Jun 17
So sorry. I hope things get better. Been there myself.
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@nanette64 (18090)
• Fairfield, Texas
15 Jun 17
I guess I should be happy that I don't live in a tent somewhere under a bridge @Debscrochet . That's the upside.
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• United States
16 Jun 17
@nanette64 Yes it could be worse
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@nanette64 (18090)
• Fairfield, Texas
16 Jun 17
@Debscrochet Yeah, no kidding.
@DianneN (88397)
• United States
17 Jun 17
I'm so very sorry to hear about your tough times. There must be some organization that can help you. Thank goodness for your daughter! I hope she can keep an eye on you.
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@nanette64 (18090)
• Fairfield, Texas
19 Jun 17
Even with her being 3 states away, we email M-F and talk on Thursday nights. I wish she was closer though @DianneN .
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@DianneN (88397)
• United States
19 Jun 17
@nanette64 That's a huge distance, but I'm so happy you keep in touch.
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@nanette64 (18090)
• Fairfield, Texas
19 Jun 17
@DianneN Even though she came to visit me at the end of May, it already seems like a year has passed.
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• United States
15 Jun 17
I hope that gofund me raises some cash for you Nanette.. This is so ridiculous..no food in this big country..!!! What about the cats do they get to eat? Thats what my son said not too long ago, pretty soon we will be eating dog or cat food cans.
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@nanette64 (18090)
• Fairfield, Texas
15 Jun 17
The people who took over the animal rescue that I started will sometimes bring me bags that they get from Walmart. Yeah, I have considered eating canned cat food before.
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• United States
15 Jun 17
@nanette64 Yeah it may come to that.. can't rule it out that is for sure.
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@Corbin5 (119896)
• United States
15 Jun 17
So good to hear your daughter is helping you out. Whew! We have been in a similar situation when I was ill for so long. I taught while being sick for years. Quite a struggle. No help, but we made it.
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@nanette64 (18090)
• Fairfield, Texas
15 Jun 17
So far the Go Fund Me page has raised $25. What really gets me is that they also charge 2.9% interest and 5% in fees to do it. Thankfully you made it through the tough times; otherwise you might have had a talk with the critters about sharing their food.
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@Corbin5 (119896)
• United States
16 Jun 17
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@redurnet (1586)
• United Kingdom
19 Jun 17
Sorry about your situation, hope things improve.
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@nanette64 (18090)
• Fairfield, Texas
19 Jun 17
Thank you @redurnet , I hope so too.
@YrNemo (14768)
17 Jun 17
It is tough having to struggle as in your case. All the best.
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@nanette64 (18090)
• Fairfield, Texas
17 Jun 17
Thank you @YrNemo , I keep trying.
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@bellatt (64)
16 Jun 17
Income increase with an upgrade.
Hi. I can relate to not always having enough food in the house.I am glad your daughter was able to get you some food. She got there just in time to help you, The go fund me page for you is great and this should help you a lot. I will be 62 in October so paying rent and having to buy groceries is hard to mange some months. I hope you are doing better now.Have a great weekend.
@nanette64 (18090)
• Fairfield, Texas
19 Jun 17
Yeah, it's actually nice to be able to eat a real, full meal @bellatt . I don't think my stomach knows how to react.
• United States
16 Jun 17
I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through such hard times.
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@jaboUK (55198)
• United Kingdom
16 Jun 17
I'm shocked that your country doesn't help you more Nanette. You are supposed to be one of the most civilised places in the world. I'm so glad that you have a loving daughter even though she doesn't live close to you.
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@nanette64 (18090)
• Fairfield, Texas
16 Jun 17
I think the government wants us old people to just croak off @jaboUK . That way they wouldn't have to pay benefits of any kind. And the sad thing is is that most of us work hard all of our lives. My Lisa is one sweet kid.
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