The patronizing colleague does it again!
By ingrid
@ridingbet (66857)
Philippines
June 16, 2017 1:13am CST
My colleague, who volunteered to have operating room orientation and training “so she will be given 4 workloads this first semester”, is once again making headlines to the part-time instructors like me.
I had a chat with CC, and she messaged that the patronizing colleague DLM, was disgusted because she was given 2 workloads only. According to CC, DLM showed her disappointment with the manner she talked to CC. She said, “I trained for OR and yet I have 2 days only!”
I remarked, and CC agreed, that it was DLM who VOLUNTEERED for the OR training. We have a full-time clinical instructor assigned in OR for several years now, and this male colleague is not leaving the OR area for good.
Besides, the dean and the clinical coordinator are the ones who assign the workload of each CI. It depends on the number of students, and what wards in the hospital do the learners must have their duty on. DLM is trained in Surgery, Orthopedic, Obstetric, and now, OR wards and yet, she wants everything to her advantage.
I am silent about this because she is not communicating with me, but if she tells her dismay to me, I will tell her pointblank that she should learn to accept what is offered to her.
(DLM has the lowest evaluation from our students. She is one of the colleagues in one of my discussions.)
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
17 Jun 17
i don't think she will ever learn her lesson, my lady. her attitude always comes out every time it is the start of the school year/semester. she is trained in almost all wards in the hospital... she still wants all work?
how do you call that? BWAKAW? hahaha!
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
17 Jun 17
@ridingbet Oh is that so. Then, she is that indeed.
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@Shavkat (137215)
• Philippines
17 Jun 17
@ridingbet I am sure because she's afraid to face you. I am also like that. My former colleagues never dared to do it.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
18 Jun 17
@Shavkat we are both Scorpio, my friend, we are both brave and courageous, but i am the brave person leaning to the right, and not to misdeeds.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
17 Jun 17
yes kabsat, when she tells me about that, i will talk to her; but she seems to be avoiding me because she knows i am frank to her.
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@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
16 Jun 17
Maybe she wants more hours for more pay? One cannot fault her for trying though, but the manner or the way she is doing things to get more load is not really the best approach. I wonder if she knows her evaluation results? She should work on improving this first before she takes on any more responsibility, in my opinion.
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@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
19 Jun 17
@CoralLevang this makes me sick too, but for some reason I also pity these kind of people. Mainly because they need constant validation from others that they are great, they are doing well and all that for them to be happy about themselves. They're so insecure that the need for validation is so insane that they have to resort to putting people down. If one is truly happy and blessed, there's no need to show it off for everyone to notice or see. Trust me, genuinely happy and successful people are easy to spot because they thrive more in positivity.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
17 Jun 17
my friend, her husband is in the military, a colonel, and he earns big. they are well-off. she has a part-time job in the airport here, and yet she wants more duty days. i would consider that selfishness.
@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
19 Jun 17
@CoralLevang uhum! i think i am having a thought about this my friend. well, if somebody thinks highly of himself/herself, it could be that the people around her/him think otherwise. maybe this person has inferiority complex and is concealing it with being 'superior' to others.
@Letranknight2015 (51523)
• Philippines
17 Jun 17
She's too over confident and arrogant from the way you said. maybe two works loads can be a good start, it might bite her back if she push it too far.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
17 Jun 17
the problem is, she always reasons out about her toddler child; when we have activities in school, she escapes because "no one is looking after her child". the same reason over and over again, and she wants more workload.
@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
19 Jun 17
@CoralLevang she has a complete family, my friend. her husband is in the military, a colonel, and she has 3 kids. but then, even though her husband earns big, she still needs to work for her own.
@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
17 Jun 17
yes, she has the lowest evaluation from our students. she is the CI who even took a picture of her poor evaluation,and still she is not learning her lesson. it could be because our dean is her neighbor.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
17 Jun 17
yes, my friend, she is the one and the same CI that i mentioned who is patronizing.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
18 Jun 17
She sounds like one of those who is never happy and always wanting everything her way, and feels like she should always be the one in charge. Sounds like she is a hard person to want to be around, and does she bring this demeanor on when working with patients?
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
18 Jun 17
according to her students in the area, DLM would pinch their arms in front of the patients and scold them in loud voice. she also leaves the area an hour before the endorsement, and goes to the hall, sometimes naps or uses her phone to call her family.
she is sweet to her students in front of me, but her students always complain to me about her attitude.
@allen0187 (58444)
• Philippines
17 Jun 17
Sounds like a trouble-maker at work! Best you stay away from this one.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
19 Jun 17
@CoralLevang yes. hahaha! i think we think the same. we have similar brain waves, my friend.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
17 Jun 17
she is the one staying away from me, because she knows that i am not the person she should not get entangled with.
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@Nawsheen (28644)
• Mauritius
19 Jun 17
@ridingbet Let us so hope. If she gets a good rating it will be good for her itself
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
20 Jun 17
@Nawsheen i hope so too, but we are evaluated at the end of the semester, so that will still be in November
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
18 Jun 17
when we will have the orientation for this semester, our evaluation sheets will be shown to us, again. we will share to each other our evaluation from the students. i hope she will have a good and passing mark now.
@ilocosboy (45157)
• Philippines
17 Jun 17
hmm, if there is politics in the government, and so with your group, he he.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
17 Jun 17
i agree, kabsat. there is politicking in our department, but they cannot do that to me because i am a very "direct" kind of person. that is why my other colleagues would always seek advice from me because they know "i am the oldest". hahaha!
@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
19 Jun 17
@CoralLevang i believe we have the same brain wave, my friend.
@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
19 Jun 17
that is true. i am far from school so i cannot go there to ask when our orientation will be. it is possible that i will see her disgusted face again with full of frowns and downward lips. 
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
20 Jun 17
@thelme55 hahaha! yes, that is true.
she is also separating herself from our troop of friends (tropang prenship). i don't know why she has this attitude.
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@thelme55 (76476)
• Germany
19 Jun 17
@ridingbet oh! That must be ugly to look at
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