THE WAY TO A MAN'S HEART?

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@Kandae11 (36962)
June 24, 2017 8:23am CST
How important in a relationship is the woman's ability to prepare delicious meals? They say that - the way to a man's heart is through his stomach - Is that really true? especially in these modern times? If a man had to choose between two women for marriage - one can cook and the other is a disaster in the kitchen , who do you think will be his choice? Do you think being able to cook well will keep a husband happy? And men, what do you look for in a woman ?
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@BelleStarr (38213)
• United States
24 Jun 17
Well all I can say is my both sons married women who barely cook and my son in law married my daughter who doesn't cook much either. All of these men are very good cooks themselves. My hubs on the other hand, doesn't cook much so he wanted a woman who could, Me lol but I think at the end of the day, chemistry between two people wins.
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@Kandae11 (36962)
24 Jun 17
I think so too - cooking skills would be secondary.
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@JudyEv (123167)
• Bunbury, Australia
25 Jun 17
I think that's true too - although maybe after years of bad cooking a man might sigh once or twice and think of what might have been.
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@BelleStarr (38213)
• United States
25 Jun 17
@JudyEv These days one can get great prepared meals so he will never have to sufffer!! lol
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@just4him (117004)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
24 Jun 17
It's always interesting what draws a man to a woman, but in many cases, not all, it's the ability to cook. I'm a good cook. Though I can say it wasn't my cooking that brought my late X and me together. It was what we had in common.
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@Kandae11 (36962)
24 Jun 17
Yes indeed, men are attracted by a variety of things. I suppose the man who really loves to eat and can't cook, would be more inclined to choose a partner who cooks. Still there has to be some level of chemistry involved.
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@just4him (117004)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
24 Jun 17
@Kandae11 I'm sure there is or the fact she can cook wouldn't make a difference.
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@UncleJoe (9943)
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
24 Jun 17
We are just the opposite. I do ALL the cooking and Becky loves it. I doubt she would love me as much if I couldn't cook.
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@Kandae11 (36962)
24 Jun 17
I know, - men can be very good cooks. Right now my nephew is giving me very strong competition.
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@just4him (117004)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
24 Jun 17
Uncle Joe, I'm sure she would love you just as much
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@JohnRoberts (56943)
• Los Angeles, California
24 Jun 17
Some men place greater emphasis on a woman's looks and other "skills."
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@Kandae11 (36962)
24 Jun 17
I agree with you there - especially in these days when obtaining good food from other sources is so easy.
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• Richfield, Utah
25 Jun 17
Hahahaha! I can attest to that! Us librarians have got the skillz..... lol
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@LadyDuck (157308)
• Switzerland
24 Jun 17
I do not know, I am a good cook, I am married from 45 years, my husband is happy. My brother married a woman who was unable to cook, he is a good cook and cooked for years until the day he had enough and he divorced.
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@Kandae11 (36962)
24 Jun 17
Was he hoping she would learn.
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@sabtraversa (13326)
• Italy
24 Jun 17
@LadyDuck My mother was the one cooking, then my parents got separated, my father learned to cook and later my parents got back together. My father is the one cooking now, my mother became tired of cooking. It must be in the DNA of most people, after a while they become lazy for some reason.
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@LadyDuck (157308)
• Switzerland
25 Jun 17
@sabtraversa What my brother could not tolerate was the fact she did not even try to learn so that he was not obliged to cool all the time. As he works (he is a doctor) and his ex wife did nothing all the day, I can understand.
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@annierose (17692)
• Philippines
24 Jun 17
I am not sure about it. I do not know how to cook.
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@Kandae11 (36962)
24 Jun 17
I think it is important that everyone - man or woman - knows how to help themselves in the kitchen.
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@annierose (17692)
• Philippines
25 Jun 17
@Kandae11 Yes, and I hope someday I can cook too.
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@Freelanzer (8917)
• Canada
24 Jun 17
All I know is that on our first date my now husband made me dinner and I think that is what stole my heart. We have always shared the cooking even though I think he prefers my cooking. And I do all the baking. I have several relatives male, who are married to women who can't cook and they seem happy.
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@Kandae11 (36962)
24 Jun 17
Cooking for you on your first date - my heart would have been stolen as well. In these days there isn't so much emphasis on who does what in the kitchen.
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@nomus24g (22925)
• India
24 Jun 17
Yes..its Food,food n food...not necessarily wife has to be a good cook..mine is horrible
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@Kandae11 (36962)
24 Jun 17
You can definitely get good food from other sources.
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• Philippines
24 Jun 17
so do you do the cooking instead @nomus24g?
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@nomus24g (22925)
• India
24 Jun 17
@hereandthere nope....not everything she does is bad, there's some specialty though...but overall its a mess
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@bluesa (13421)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
24 Jun 17
I do most of the cooking @Kandae11 and all my male friends say they appreciate a home cooked meal. But I think most men can cook for themselves or buy a good meal these days so that saying doesn't really fly anymore.
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@Kandae11 (36962)
24 Jun 17
No - it doesn't
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@bluesa (13421)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
24 Jun 17
@Kandae11 I shoulda said it no longer applies
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@BettyB (4221)
• Summerville, South Carolina
24 Jun 17
I'm a good cook but I don't think that's as important today. Back in the old days men didn't know how to cook. Today most do. Both my sons share kitchen detail with their significant others.
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@Kandae11 (36962)
24 Jun 17
I have tried numerous times with my son, but he doesn't like the kitchen. I think it is important that both parties at least know how to boil an egg.
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@BettyB (4221)
• Summerville, South Carolina
24 Jun 17
@Kandae11 I started my boys in the kitchen early. I didn't want them dependent on a girl for a home cooked meal. Both enjoy cooking now and like their dad, take their turn in the kitchen.
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@andriaperry (50774)
• United States
24 Jun 17
I am a good cook but I think I will pretend not to know how when I go husband hunting. Maybe you should ask men what they think about what they look for in a woman.
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@Kandae11 (36962)
24 Jun 17
That's a good idea.
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@youless (91494)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Jun 17
I think knowing how to cook is still an advantage. However, it also depends on how rich this man is. If he is very rich, he can even hire a chef and it doesn't matter that his wife doesn't know how to cook at all
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@Kandae11 (36962)
24 Jun 17
It is an advantage - especially if the man can't cook either. Some men don't like buying cooked food outside - except for pizza and other fast foods.
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@Marty1 (33553)
• Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
25 Jun 17
So that is why I don't have a husband or even a first date? Lol! I am slowly learning to cook. But don't in any way consider myself a decent cook
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@Kandae11 (36962)
25 Jun 17
I am sure that you have other attributes that will attract.
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@Marty1 (33553)
• Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
25 Jun 17
@Kandae11 perhaps but if a man marked me for my cooking he would become very skinny a few months into marriage! Lol!
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@Kandae11 (36962)
25 Jun 17
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@ridingbet (52892)
• Philippines
25 Jun 17
as long as love reigns supreme, i think it won't matter if the woman cannot cook well.
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@Kandae11 (36962)
25 Jun 17
No, they say - love is blind.
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@ridingbet (52892)
• Philippines
26 Jun 17
@Kandae11 yes indeed, LOVE IS BLIND THAT LOVERS CANNOT HEAR! hahaha!
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• United States
25 Jun 17
Well we were discussing a movie at work.. i don't remember which one ,but it came up if a woman cooks would it be enough to get him..The men said she has to be good to look at and other thing... cooking was the last thing they cared about.
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@Kandae11 (36962)
25 Jun 17
.They know that food can be bought elsewhere. However , some men would prefer both.
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• United States
26 Jun 17
@Kandae11 you got that right
@mandala100 (43371)
• Hong Kong
24 Jun 17
That's important. And I enjoy the cooking of my wife after all these years and she's a really good cook.
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@Kandae11 (36962)
24 Jun 17
Great that your wife is a good cook.
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@mandala100 (43371)
• Hong Kong
30 Jun 17
@Kandae11 Thank you.
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
24 Jun 17
I don't think being a good cook is the thing that matters. I agree that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach- but, I guess this can be applicable to men who are good in cooking, or else, how can he say that the prepared/cooked food are tasty
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@Kandae11 (36962)
24 Jun 17
Well, he would know - from his mother's or grandmother's cooking I suppose.
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
24 Jun 17
@Kandae11 yah, a good comparison I prefer a man who knows how to cook
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@Nawsheen (23076)
• Mauritius
25 Jun 17
I know some men who likes it when their wives prepare food for them. But however if a wife is a good cook this does not really mean that she will be able to keep her husband happy. There are many other things which are important in a relationship too.
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@Kandae11 (36962)
25 Jun 17
Quite true. There are many other things which could make him quite unhappy.
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@allknowing (65091)
• India
25 Jun 17
It is matter of permutations and combinations. I suppose a man will prefer a woman who does not cook but is great in bed and such permutations one needs to work on.
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@Kandae11 (36962)
25 Jun 17
Definitely, his main focus would come into play there.
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@sabtraversa (13326)
• Italy
24 Jun 17
My current boyfriend loves good food. I'm not bad at cooking, I simply never really tried. Men sometimes miss their moms or like to be cuddled with food, especially the Italian men. As a woman, a good cook as husband would be great, but I'm not too picky either, as long as I don't starve. There are restaurants willing to serve food anyway, my future husband can go there and stop whining!
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@Kandae11 (36962)
24 Jun 17
Well said @sabtraversa.
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