How Good Are Your Relationships?

@Gabugs (1895)
United States
June 27, 2017 2:31pm CST
We human beings form several relationships in our lifetime. The earliest and most important relationship is with our parents, grandparents and siblings. Then there comes the relationship with our classmates, teachers, and friends. As we grow older, we form relationships with our spouse and children and so on and on. However, in all of these relationships, there runs the basic element of love, understanding and caring. Relationships cannot be built in a vacuum. Sharing our joys and sorrows, our trials and tribulations, our accomplishments and success with all of the important people in our lives, can be one of the most meaningful and rewarding aspect of a good relationship. To sustain and strengthen a happy relationship between individuals, the relationship has got to be mutually beneficial and pleasurable. This basic essential in all relationships, depends on one’s “inner “self and is manifested by one’s behavior. It is through this “core” self, that a person’s character, principles and beliefs are manifested. This would require us to inter-act lovingly and appropriately while maintaining all our relationships. Deep, lasting relationships can only thrive by keeping this critical principle in mind. So folks, how good are your relationships? Can you honestly assert that you are mindful of cherishing your relationships for a lifetime? IMAGE: Courtesy of Pixabay
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@Courtlynn (66918)
• United States
27 Jun 17
My relationship with my mom, brother, and boyfriend are great. About four of my friendship relationships are good. The rest are one sided, as other pwople dont get how they're supposed to work.
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
28 Jun 17
So glad to note that you are having a good relationship with your family. As for friends, they tend to differ from time to time @Courtlynn
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@Courtlynn (66918)
• United States
28 Jun 17
@Gabugs well nothing last forever. Learned that the hard way.
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
28 Jun 17
@Courtlynn You are right in a way. Sorry you had to learn it the hard way. I would say: Never allow anyone to take you for granted right from the beginning of your friendship. Don't you think so?
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• Mumbai, India
30 Jun 17
All my relationships, even with my family are pretty complicated. I guess it maybe because I don't know myself as a person and the things I want in life.
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
30 Jun 17
Sorry to learn that all your relationships are complicated. I wonder why it could be! Do you own responsibility for the toxic relationships ? Or is it caused by someone you may not getting along with @Sakinasaifee
@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
5 Jul 17
@sakinasaifee18 You may be right- - - partly. Please ask yourself: How much do you contribute to making your relationship better?
• Mumbai, India
1 Jul 17
@Gabugs I think I definitely own responsibility for most of the mess. However every coin has two sides so a relationship cannot deteriorate with only one's fault.
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@LadyDuck (460669)
• Switzerland
28 Jun 17
The one that is more important for me is the relationship with my husband and I can say that we are both very happy.
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
28 Jun 17
I am so very glad to hear that @LadyDuck But what about your other relationships? Family and friends?
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@LadyDuck (460669)
• Switzerland
29 Jun 17
@Gabugs I have a good relation with my family and also with the few "real" friends that I have from many years.
@DianneN (247216)
• United States
29 Jun 17
I've been blessed with healthy relationships with my entire family, former colleagues, and oodles of true blue friends, both real and virtual. I've weeded out the bad from the good and am now content and happy as could be.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
30 Jun 17
@Gabugs You're welcome. There is no need for downers and phonies at this stage of my life.
@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
30 Jun 17
I'm impressed with your comment stating that you have weeded out the bad from the good @DianneN That's the way to go; there's no point in tagging along with a toxic relationship. Thanks for sharing this tip.
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
28 Jun 17
Somewhere a hit and somewhere a miss..
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
28 Jun 17
This could happen; but when certain relationships are important to you, it would be in your interest to hold on to them @responsiveme Don't you agree?
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• India
28 Jun 17
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@Prshnth (907)
• Bangalore, India
28 Jun 17
i am really bad at relationships that's why i am single...and i am happy
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
28 Jun 17
So sorry to learn that you consider yourself "bad at relationships." @Prshnth Firstly, think positive; do not pull yourself down; you can change if you want to. Next important thing is to be yourself; do not put on airs for someone. Be genuine in your words and actions. Maybe I'll pen further tips in one of my future blogs. Good Luck!
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@Prshnth (907)
• Bangalore, India
28 Jun 17
@Gabugs thanx for you words
@popciclecold (35706)
• United States
28 Jun 17
Yeah, I give it all my best.
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
28 Jun 17
That's the way to go and be happy @popciclecold
@celticeagle (160064)
• Boise, Idaho
28 Jun 17
Being respectful is important too and a good communication.
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@celticeagle (160064)
• Boise, Idaho
28 Jun 17
@Gabugs .....Yes, and so important.
@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
28 Jun 17
You are so right @celticeagle Mutual respect is an integral part of good communication.
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@prashu228 (37525)
• India
28 Jun 17
Space is important in any relationship, my relationship with people around me is fine as of now
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
28 Jun 17
Indeed yes, giving each other space is important in any relationship.
@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
27 Jun 17
I am mindful of many relationships and cherish them all. My husband, my children, my grandchildren and my friends.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
28 Jun 17
@Gabugs Yes it is, I just spent 4 days with my younger brother and his wife and we had a wonderful time. I getaway with girlfriends every year and my daughter and I are best friends. All good.
@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
28 Jun 17
It is our healthy relationships that keep us going and moving forward @BelleStarr Isn't it? They add zest to our lives.
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• Philippines
28 Jun 17
People come and go as time goes by because they are out there achieving their dreams.
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
28 Jun 17
You are right; certain relationships fade away @Letranknight2015 However, we must ensure that we do not lose out on our close relationships.
@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
28 Jun 17
I can honestly say that my relationships are all excellent. Like anything else we must compromise, give and take.
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
28 Jun 17
I knew it @jaboUK You are that kind of a gal ; you are a born natural with no pretense or artificiality marring your personality. Kudos!
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@Tampa_girl7 (49308)
• United States
28 Jun 17
I feel that I'm pretty good at relationships.
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
28 Jun 17
@Tampa_girl7 You sure have been raised to be true to yourself devoid of superficiality. Kudos!
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@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
28 Jun 17
Mine is just fine. Not so good but not so bad at all. Well, it is the reality. We can't always be happy. There will be times that we'll be tested. What's important is seeing yourself and your love ones still intact after the storm.
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
28 Jun 17
Glad you are maintaining a fine balance in your relationships @renicemae You are absolutely right. Of course, one cannot have a smooth sailing relationship with anyone and everyone. There will be ups and downs; sunshine and storms. But the true test of any relationship is to disagree with each other and yet, hold hands.
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@TheHorse (207566)
• Walnut Creek, California
27 Jun 17
Mine are mostly pretty good. But some are toxic. I check in and then step back in the latter cases.
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
28 Jun 17
Glad to note that you enjoy good relationships @TheHorse It is wise to stay away from toxic relationships.