My Cousin is Being Taken Off Life Support

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United States
June 30, 2017 2:23am CST
About a week or so ago my cousin had an aneurysm. She had to have surgery, a stent placed in, fluid drained from her brain. Her brain kept spasming so they were keeping her heavily medicated. I found out tonight that the family decided to take her off of life support on Monday. She is only 41 years old. I have not spoken to her in years. We had a falling out on Facebook and I blocked her. But she was part of my childhood and so many of the characters I come up with have had bits of inspiration from her. (She was a bully to us when we were kids but that certainly made her memorable.) Just because I wasn't on speaking terms with her and didn't want to have her be part of my life anymore doesn't mean that I want her to die, though. Right now I am feeling regret that I never got a chance to make up with her, although maybe that would have never happened anyway. I don't have much to do with my dad's side of the family anymore. She is the mother of six kids, two who are still underage I believe, so I wonder what will happen to them. I don't think their fathers are in the picture. It's upsetting when people from your childhood die, especially ones who had such a big (if not necessarily pleasant) presence. I guess in some way I loved her, even if I didn't necessarily like her. I am sad that this happened and also feel like I don't have the right to be sad, since we weren't on speaking terms. I hadn't seen her in years but for a while we were friendly on social media, until we had that falling out over something stupid. Kinda makes you stop and rethink cutting off people over Facebook drama. You never know what the future holds and maybe you won't get the chance to reconcile in the end.
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@Nawsheen (22856)
• Mauritius
30 Jun
I am so sorry to hear about this. I am thinking about her children right now. It will be so difficult for them
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• United States
30 Jun
It really will be. So tragic every way you look at it. :(
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@franxav (3858)
30 Jun
It is a difficult decision. May God give you and her family strength to bear it up.
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• United States
30 Jun
Thank you.
@CoralLevang (16138)
• United States
30 Jun
I am so sorry to hear this, Stacy. So young. So tragic. Please, be kind to yourself. *hugs*
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• United States
30 Jun
Thank you. *hugs*
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@LadyDuck (126774)
• Switzerland
30 Jun
I am so very sorry. I think that the social media are not helping the relations among people. You are right, we never know what the future holds.
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• United States
30 Jun
Thank you. You are right about social media. It allows us to know stuff about family members that we previously wouldn't have known and people feel free to be rude to each other. In the past we wouldn't have treated our relatives this way.
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@LadyDuck (126774)
• Switzerland
30 Jun
@Srbageldog You are right, we share too much, we know too much and this causes problems.
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@rubyriaz007 (2821)
• India
7 Nov
I am sorry to hear about it. May Almighty give you the strength to bear your loss.
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• United States
8 Nov
Thank you.
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@Neiltarquin (1100)
• Rass, Saudi Arabia
17 Jul
I'm so sorry to hear that. The best to thing to do is be there for the kids.
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@sissy15 (5137)
• United States
17 Jul
I know where you're coming from on some level. I told you about my step nephew, he was a little snot as a kid but I still loved him. I wasn't close to him but I still miss him now that he's gone. If there's anything I've learned it's that life is too short. I've been trying to let things go and move on. I don't want to spend my life being angry at people. It's sad that you won't have the chance to make amends but at least you took something from this. I really hope you are able to move on and let some things go. It's pretty liberating when you let some things go.
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• Waltham, Massachusetts
30 Jun
I am sorry for your loss, your history, and your mixed feelings about what happened. It is a complex thing like so much in life. I hope that you can make peace with what happened and how you feel about it in time. It is possible to love someone but not to like them either regularly or sometimes. I certainly experience that and I am sure that we all do. I like facebook but I do not go to crazy over it because of the drama I have seen it cause. I have even deactivated my account in the past. It is good that you are learning a valuable lesson from this experience.
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• Bournemouth, England
30 Jun
A very honest post. Yes, you do have the right to feel sad, not least of all because you did enjoy some friendly times.
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@Courtlynn (54961)
• United States
30 Jun
I understand this post so much. As i have two uncles and an aunt i loved growing up, but who are terrible people. Two i don't even talk to. I wouldn't feel too guilty. As you cant tell when something like this will happen to somebody. And sometimes, fb isnt the problem but somethung else that they just dont say.
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@Marty1 (28673)
• Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
30 Jun
I am so so, sorry and I think she is in Heaven and reading this posts and knows what is in it so don't worry about it. She is looking down on you all the time from Heaven
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• United States
30 Jun
This must make you feel very badly that you never got the chance to make amends with her. I am sorry to hear this poor lady and so young.
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@Shavkat (49625)
• Philippines
30 Jun
I remember the same situation of my late father. I am sorry to hear this.
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